Anonymous
Post 07/31/2023 12:52     Subject: Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
Depends on your why? For me yes, 1- it’s the “easiest” of all options once you get past 6 weeks of hell. I wanted to just walk out the door with myself and the kid and diapers. 2- look at the cost of formula, a kid goes through a cab ish a week. Breastfeeding isn’t free your time is money and it’s a full time job but there are then bottles, measuring mixing, extra concerns, the actual cost of formula then if there is another shortage.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2023 23:41     Subject: Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
It’s cheaper and less dishes therefor worth it IMO.

But nothing to destroy yourself over.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2023 22:54     Subject: Re:Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m a schedule oriented person. It seems snowy breastfeed babies don’t through the night until much later than formula fed babies. The family and friends that breastfed has babies who could only fall asleep being nursed, never slept more than 2-3 hours at a time well past 1 year, never learned to self-soothe, etc. They were very clingy, high needs babies. Most were super cranky because they were never getting adequate sleep. The formula fed babies were great sleepers, on schedules, and always happy. I don’t want to breastfeed because I’m afraid that will lead my child to becoming clingy and never sleep. I’m not willing to co-sleep as my husband and I don’t think it’s safe at all.


LOL, OK. I have two children. Both were breastfed. My oldest slept through the night at 5 months, the second at 6 months. They both were clockwork-mappers, both at home and at daycare. They could sleep anywhere, including in hotels, at daycare, and at grandma’s house.

But it sounds like you are an expert on parenting and babies, so enjoy knowing it all.


OP here. I’m not saying I know it all. I’m only speaking from my experience of family and friends kids.


OP, you’re right. Women need to feel superior and that breastfeeding was worth it - but it’s not. I’m HYP (so I do things better than most people) and I didn’t breastfeed either of my kids. It’s genetics, ladies, and sticking a kid on your boob means nothing other than you have too much time on your hands.


Yeah...that's not what it means. But you're a HYP so you should know that.


No, it really does. Even if you’re doing it to save money, it means your time is worth less than mine.


People value their time differently. I enjoyed breastfeeding my kids.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2023 22:52     Subject: Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
No outside of the first few weeks or so where you pass on the colostrum. Even then, it’s fine to combo feed. I sense the long term breastfeeders champion its unproven long term benefits to rationalize the extra stress/lack of sleep they had compared to others.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2023 22:35     Subject: Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
It’s basically the only thing in the next several years of parenting that you will do for your baby that you will also do for yourself. Unlike the lack of sleep and lack of free time, nursing reduces significantly your lifetime risk of breast cancer.

We never talk about that because we’re supposed to be unwaveringly focused on what’s best for our babies, but I was more than happy to take something from the sacrifices of childbirth and nursing as an investment in my long term health.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2023 22:31     Subject: Re:Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m a schedule oriented person. It seems snowy breastfeed babies don’t through the night until much later than formula fed babies. The family and friends that breastfed has babies who could only fall asleep being nursed, never slept more than 2-3 hours at a time well past 1 year, never learned to self-soothe, etc. They were very clingy, high needs babies. Most were super cranky because they were never getting adequate sleep. The formula fed babies were great sleepers, on schedules, and always happy. I don’t want to breastfeed because I’m afraid that will lead my child to becoming clingy and never sleep. I’m not willing to co-sleep as my husband and I don’t think it’s safe at all.


LOL, OK. I have two children. Both were breastfed. My oldest slept through the night at 5 months, the second at 6 months. They both were clockwork-mappers, both at home and at daycare. They could sleep anywhere, including in hotels, at daycare, and at grandma’s house.

But it sounds like you are an expert on parenting and babies, so enjoy knowing it all.


OP here. I’m not saying I know it all. I’m only speaking from my experience of family and friends kids.


OP, you’re right. Women need to feel superior and that breastfeeding was worth it - but it’s not. I’m HYP (so I do things better than most people) and I didn’t breastfeed either of my kids. It’s genetics, ladies, and sticking a kid on your boob means nothing other than you have too much time on your hands.


Yeah...that's not what it means. But you're a HYP so you should know that.


Lol everyone knows breast cancer reads that she’s HYP and goes elsewhere
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2023 21:58     Subject: Re:Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m a schedule oriented person. It seems snowy breastfeed babies don’t through the night until much later than formula fed babies. The family and friends that breastfed has babies who could only fall asleep being nursed, never slept more than 2-3 hours at a time well past 1 year, never learned to self-soothe, etc. They were very clingy, high needs babies. Most were super cranky because they were never getting adequate sleep. The formula fed babies were great sleepers, on schedules, and always happy. I don’t want to breastfeed because I’m afraid that will lead my child to becoming clingy and never sleep. I’m not willing to co-sleep as my husband and I don’t think it’s safe at all.


LOL, OK. I have two children. Both were breastfed. My oldest slept through the night at 5 months, the second at 6 months. They both were clockwork-mappers, both at home and at daycare. They could sleep anywhere, including in hotels, at daycare, and at grandma’s house.

But it sounds like you are an expert on parenting and babies, so enjoy knowing it all.


OP here. I’m not saying I know it all. I’m only speaking from my experience of family and friends kids.


OP, you’re right. Women need to feel superior and that breastfeeding was worth it - but it’s not. I’m HYP (so I do things better than most people) and I didn’t breastfeed either of my kids. It’s genetics, ladies, and sticking a kid on your boob means nothing other than you have too much time on your hands.


Yeah...that's not what it means. But you're a HYP so you should know that.


No, it really does. Even if you’re doing it to save money, it means your time is worth less than mine.


That's such a ...transactional...way to look at your parenting with your precious baby.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2023 13:50     Subject: Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
I did not even try. Formula feeding us just so easy and it felt good mentally to be able to delegate baby feeding.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2023 13:39     Subject: Re:Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m a schedule oriented person. It seems snowy breastfeed babies don’t through the night until much later than formula fed babies. The family and friends that breastfed has babies who could only fall asleep being nursed, never slept more than 2-3 hours at a time well past 1 year, never learned to self-soothe, etc. They were very clingy, high needs babies. Most were super cranky because they were never getting adequate sleep. The formula fed babies were great sleepers, on schedules, and always happy. I don’t want to breastfeed because I’m afraid that will lead my child to becoming clingy and never sleep. I’m not willing to co-sleep as my husband and I don’t think it’s safe at all.


LOL, OK. I have two children. Both were breastfed. My oldest slept through the night at 5 months, the second at 6 months. They both were clockwork-mappers, both at home and at daycare. They could sleep anywhere, including in hotels, at daycare, and at grandma’s house.

But it sounds like you are an expert on parenting and babies, so enjoy knowing it all.


OP here. I’m not saying I know it all. I’m only speaking from my experience of family and friends kids.


OP, you’re right. Women need to feel superior and that breastfeeding was worth it - but it’s not. I’m HYP (so I do things better than most people) and I didn’t breastfeed either of my kids. It’s genetics, ladies, and sticking a kid on your boob means nothing other than you have too much time on your hands.


Yeah...that's not what it means. But you're a HYP so you should know that.


No, it really does. Even if you’re doing it to save money, it means your time is worth less than mine.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2023 13:04     Subject: Re:Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m a schedule oriented person. It seems snowy breastfeed babies don’t through the night until much later than formula fed babies. The family and friends that breastfed has babies who could only fall asleep being nursed, never slept more than 2-3 hours at a time well past 1 year, never learned to self-soothe, etc. They were very clingy, high needs babies. Most were super cranky because they were never getting adequate sleep. The formula fed babies were great sleepers, on schedules, and always happy. I don’t want to breastfeed because I’m afraid that will lead my child to becoming clingy and never sleep. I’m not willing to co-sleep as my husband and I don’t think it’s safe at all.


LOL, OK. I have two children. Both were breastfed. My oldest slept through the night at 5 months, the second at 6 months. They both were clockwork-mappers, both at home and at daycare. They could sleep anywhere, including in hotels, at daycare, and at grandma’s house.

But it sounds like you are an expert on parenting and babies, so enjoy knowing it all.


OP here. I’m not saying I know it all. I’m only speaking from my experience of family and friends kids.


OP, you’re right. Women need to feel superior and that breastfeeding was worth it - but it’s not. I’m HYP (so I do things better than most people) and I didn’t breastfeed either of my kids. It’s genetics, ladies, and sticking a kid on your boob means nothing other than you have too much time on your hands.


Yeah...that's not what it means. But you're a HYP so you should know that.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2023 11:13     Subject: Re:Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
I thought it was more convenient and it was nice to not have to spend money on formula. We switched to formula around ~9 months and preparing bottles while your kid is hangry and making sure we had enough when we went out was kind of annoying. My kid was a great sleeper so no issues there. But I say this as someone who had an easy breastfeeding journey. If I hadn’t, I’d have switched and not looked back.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2023 10:09     Subject: Re:Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
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Anonymous wrote:You cannot sleep train a newborn. In fact, you wake a newborn every few hours to eat, so they gain weight. Beyond that, there is not much scheduling to do and I have seen some parents be extremely cruel because their kid inevitably needs them at an unscheduled time. Please adjust your expectations. Please be there for your kid.

There is plenty for your partner to do, even if you are feeding - bring you the baby, change the baby, get the baby back to sleep. Many people find breastfeeding easier than making up a bottle. I enjoyed it and loved the closeness I felt with my baby. If it doesn't work for you, that's fine. Some people can't or don't want to, and as long as baby is fed and loved it doesn't matter.

But -- having a baby is hard. It will disrupt your sleep. It will change your roles in your marriage, at least temporarily. I am more worried about your expectations than about whether you breastfeed.



Your first lesson is to learn to ignore the smug mommies such as pp


+ 1,000,000!
Anonymous
Post 07/29/2023 19:42     Subject: Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
I think it is worth it. It saves sooo much money. Formula is pretty $$. It also helped me lose so much weight so quickly. Breastfeeding burns a lot of calories. But, if you can’t do it, do not beat yourself up over it. As a new Mom, don’t feel guilty. Do want you can and do everything with love. Your baby will feel it.
Anonymous
Post 07/29/2023 19:30     Subject: Re:Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
Both of my kids were breastfed with formula supplement, which worked great for us.

My oldest slept through the night almost immediately and my husband could do a feeding during the night, because we were supplementing. But I found that I was waking up engorged in the middle of the night anyway and it was easier for me to feed her then it was to be uncomfortable or to pump.

My youngest was not such a good sleeper, but an excellent eater.

Pumping is definitely awful.

I would breastfeed again if I had a third kid, but I'm so glad to be done with that stage.
Anonymous
Post 07/29/2023 19:07     Subject: Re:Is Breastfeeding Worth It?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m a schedule oriented person. It seems snowy breastfeed babies don’t through the night until much later than formula fed babies. The family and friends that breastfed has babies who could only fall asleep being nursed, never slept more than 2-3 hours at a time well past 1 year, never learned to self-soothe, etc. They were very clingy, high needs babies. Most were super cranky because they were never getting adequate sleep. The formula fed babies were great sleepers, on schedules, and always happy. I don’t want to breastfeed because I’m afraid that will lead my child to becoming clingy and never sleep. I’m not willing to co-sleep as my husband and I don’t think it’s safe at all.


LOL, OK. I have two children. Both were breastfed. My oldest slept through the night at 5 months, the second at 6 months. They both were clockwork-mappers, both at home and at daycare. They could sleep anywhere, including in hotels, at daycare, and at grandma’s house.

But it sounds like you are an expert on parenting and babies, so enjoy knowing it all.


OP here. I’m not saying I know it all. I’m only speaking from my experience of family and friends kids.


OP, you’re right. Women need to feel superior and that breastfeeding was worth it - but it’s not. I’m HYP (so I do things better than most people) and I didn’t breastfeed either of my kids. It’s genetics, ladies, and sticking a kid on your boob means nothing other than you have too much time on your hands.