Anonymous
Post 06/23/2021 15:56     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
So, OP, how did it go when you left early and told your in laws how you feel? Were they remorseful for their sins?
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2021 15:36     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
boomers are terrible people
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2021 15:33     Subject: Re:UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
Anonymous wrote:Crumbs on a floor you don’t have to clean? You two sound high maintenance.


Are you always a jerk? Just because she doesn’t have to clean it but someone does? How spoiled are you? Next time op book your own room.
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2021 11:38     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here we go again with people batching at OP when inlaws were clearly in the wrong.


100%


+ a million. I don't get it. Maybe it's just a couple of people who woke up on the wrong side.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2021 14:29     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I read the original post and.my reaction was, it's really bit a big deal in the grand scheme of things. The things that are annoying Op are manageable for a three day vacation. Who cares? But at the same time, maybe her inlaws have other horrible qualities, so fine.

Then I read the thread and OP's replies. Your responses reflect that you are just a mean person OP. So what you need to in this situation but then figure out why you are angry and so unhappy. Consider this a win if you can do so self reflection.


That’s OK, if you read, you’ll see that OP and her husband decided to solve the problem by leaving early and never vacationing with people who disrespect them and steamroll over their boundaries again. So why some of you keep trying to give advice is beyond me. The situation has been addressed, problem solved.



I think for most of us there is the opinion that OP is immature and passive aggressive. So we're giving advice that OP unfortunately will never take because she is ... wait for it ... immature and passive aggressive. It is sad but it is what it is.


How is it not passive aggressive to offer advice after a decision has been made? The ship has sailed. You’re passive aggressive in that you are “offering advice” when you just want to malign and name-call.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2021 14:27     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I read the original post and.my reaction was, it's really bit a big deal in the grand scheme of things. The things that are annoying Op are manageable for a three day vacation. Who cares? But at the same time, maybe her inlaws have other horrible qualities, so fine.

Then I read the thread and OP's replies. Your responses reflect that you are just a mean person OP. So what you need to in this situation but then figure out why you are angry and so unhappy. Consider this a win if you can do so self reflection.


That’s OK, if you read, you’ll see that OP and her husband decided to solve the problem by leaving early and never vacationing with people who disrespect them and steamroll over their boundaries again. So why some of you keep trying to give advice is beyond me. The situation has been addressed, problem solved.



I think for most of us there is the opinion that OP is immature and passive aggressive. So we're giving advice that OP unfortunately will never take because she is ... wait for it ... immature and passive aggressive. It is sad but it is what it is.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2021 12:04     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
Anonymous wrote:I read the original post and.my reaction was, it's really bit a big deal in the grand scheme of things. The things that are annoying Op are manageable for a three day vacation. Who cares? But at the same time, maybe her inlaws have other horrible qualities, so fine.

Then I read the thread and OP's replies. Your responses reflect that you are just a mean person OP. So what you need to in this situation but then figure out why you are angry and so unhappy. Consider this a win if you can do so self reflection.


That’s OK, if you read, you’ll see that OP and her husband decided to solve the problem by leaving early and never vacationing with people who disrespect them and steamroll over their boundaries again. So why some of you keep trying to give advice is beyond me. The situation has been addressed, problem solved.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2021 08:54     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
I read the original post and.my reaction was, it's really bit a big deal in the grand scheme of things. The things that are annoying Op are manageable for a three day vacation. Who cares? But at the same time, maybe her inlaws have other horrible qualities, so fine.

Then I read the thread and OP's replies. Your responses reflect that you are just a mean person OP. So what you need to in this situation but then figure out why you are angry and so unhappy. Consider this a win if you can do so self reflection.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2021 08:49     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
Anonymous wrote:It could be a situation where MIL didn’t specify adjoining rooms, but the hotel put you together anyway. That’s happened to me when I’ve booked two rooms under my name before.

I think the appropriate response to the boundary violation is to just keep the door closed. The whining will stop if you stop reacting to it.

Then do whatever you need to do to be a decent person for the rest of the vacation. Have a drink or two at the pool, go for a long run, get a massage, pop an Ativan: whatever it takes.

Packing up and leaving early is a little over the top.


Perfect, mature, respectful response.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2021 08:39     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
Anonymous wrote:We had a pajama party at grandmas last night. Was it more comfortable than my own bed? No. Should I have declined? My kids made memories that live on forever. 100% worth it! Grown up OP.


Your scenario has nothing to do with OP, since she didn’t mention kids. How does it feel to post and contribute literally nothing to the conversation?
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2021 20:24     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you just tell the hotel that you wanted to switch your room? That’s what I would have done.


Read. The. Thread.
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2021 20:14     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
Why didn’t you just tell the hotel that you wanted to switch your room? That’s what I would have done.
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2021 19:57     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All you youngins' out there take note: this is what happens when you marry a pansy.

Don't be like OP.
Don't marry a man child.


Wow, nice homophobic slur.

My husband clearly communicated with his parents. We have both clearly stated why we don’t like adjoining rooms.

They chose to ignore. We choose to leave early and never go on trips with them again.


Wow. So dramatic.


Exactly. But that pretty much sums up the OP. She likes to lay it on thick and everything is someone else's fault. She responds to everything except the sensible suggestions - like why didn't you make your own reservation? Anyway, she's made her bed and now she's lying in it. Too bad so sad your life sucks but that's the way it goes.


Haha, her own bed is in Annapolis tonight with just her DH instead of her invasive ILs. And her husband agrees they never have to vacation with those boundary-stompers again. Win-win!
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2021 19:21     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My MIL has been dead for a long time. I'd love to see her eating cupcakes in our hotel "suite" while on vacation. She was a gem!


Good for you. Mine is an alcoholic who is verbally abusive. NP.


You are lucky. Most people don't describe their mil as a gem. Mine is tolerable and I try to be reasonable.
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2021 19:18     Subject: UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All you youngins' out there take note: this is what happens when you marry a pansy.

Don't be like OP.
Don't marry a man child.


Wow, nice homophobic slur.

My husband clearly communicated with his parents. We have both clearly stated why we don’t like adjoining rooms.

They chose to ignore. We choose to leave early and never go on trips with them again.


Wow. So dramatic.


Exactly. But that pretty much sums up the OP. She likes to lay it on thick and everything is someone else's fault. She responds to everything except the sensible suggestions - like why didn't you make your own reservation? Anyway, she's made her bed and now she's lying in it. Too bad so sad your life sucks but that's the way it goes.