Not ok for community pool. Ok for beach.

What is the deal with all your pools?? I am fit, wear bikinis, not thongs, not string bikinis, but normal ones, and nobody has ever made me feel like I’m walking about being judged and gossiped about at my pool. No idea if “the other dads” stare, doubt they do, but am I trying to seduce them or attract them? Uh, no. Most of your husbands are pale and flabby with Marvel trunks and ugly flip flops on. I am not interested. I hate this forum so much lately. It’s just constantly shaming other women for choices they make- Botox, bathing suits, jeans, makeup. Depressing to see how little all of you think of other women. And most of it is in your head.

Anonymous wrote:As one of those dreaded weirdos who wears a covered up swim outfit for religious reasons, I don't find either of the two suit bottoms posted by OP to be especially scandalous and I think people wear stuff like that at the pool we belong to.

The only potential issue I would be worried about is whether it will ride up or into the butt crack as the wearer walks, sits, and swims. If it's sized appropriately and the material is not too thin, this may not be an issue. But I would recommend test driving it at home first by doing 10 jumping jacks or something and then checking the mirror.

Hahaha OP please do this and report back

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Anonymous wrote:I would think it's inappropriate for a family pool. Like a PP said, just kids, dads and moms there. And in none of those cases is it appropriate for you to walk around in front of them with your butt hanging out of your suit.

+1 A family pool? Nope. It would cause a problem at our country club pool. I don't think the board would do anything but I do think there would be some social ostracization occurring because OP was wearing it at a family pool.

Family pool? Only if you don't care that some will be talking about you. Resort? Sure. Vacation, yes. Right or wrong, most moms want to look like moms at community pools, not like the "hot mom" that everyone talks about. And if you want to be the hot mom then you better be hot.

I'm so not getting this vibe from op.

At the pool I seriously don't think about whether I look like a mom or a hot mom. I wear something comfortable that doesn't make me look pregnant, and isn't too big in the chest so I can bend over now and then. Sure there are weirdos out there who try too hard. But most moms I know, even the super fit ones, just care about comfort and wearing a swimsuit that looks all right on their bodies.

You really think the suit bottom that OP showed us looks "comfortable"?

No. It looks like wedgie city to me. I'm not op though.

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Anonymous wrote:I would think it's inappropriate for a family pool. Like a PP said, just kids, dads and moms there. And in none of those cases is it appropriate for you to walk around in front of them with your butt hanging out of your suit.

+1 A family pool? Nope. It would cause a problem at our country club pool. I don't think the board would do anything but I do think there would be some social ostracization occurring because OP was wearing it at a family pool.

Family pool? Only if you don't care that some will be talking about you. Resort? Sure. Vacation, yes. Right or wrong, most moms want to look like moms at community pools, not like the "hot mom" that everyone talks about. And if you want to be the hot mom then you better be hot.

I'm so not getting this vibe from op.

At the pool I seriously don't think about whether I look like a mom or a hot mom. I wear something comfortable that doesn't make me look pregnant, and isn't too big in the chest so I can bend over now and then. Sure there are weirdos out there who try too hard. But most moms I know, even the super fit ones, just care about comfort and wearing a swimsuit that looks all right on their bodies.

You really think the suit bottom that OP showed us looks "comfortable"?

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Anonymous wrote:I would think it's inappropriate for a family pool. Like a PP said, just kids, dads and moms there. And in none of those cases is it appropriate for you to walk around in front of them with your butt hanging out of your suit.

+1 A family pool? Nope. It would cause a problem at our country club pool. I don't think the board would do anything but I do think there would be some social ostracization occurring because OP was wearing it at a family pool.

Family pool? Only if you don't care that some will be talking about you. Resort? Sure. Vacation, yes. Right or wrong, most moms want to look like moms at community pools, not like the "hot mom" that everyone talks about. And if you want to be the hot mom then you better be hot.

I'm so not getting this vibe from op.

At the pool I seriously don't think about whether I look like a mom or a hot mom. I wear something comfortable that doesn't make me look pregnant, and isn't too big in the chest so I can bend over now and then. Sure there are weirdos out there who try too hard. But most moms I know, even the super fit ones, just care about comfort and wearing a swimsuit that looks all right on their bodies.

Anonymous wrote:I mean, I would be saying snarky things about your lack of confidence and need to show off your ass to bored dads and teenage boys, but you do whatever you want to, OP.

Oh geez. Ok, so I would find you to be very confident, and I don't give a shit what my husband sees at the pool. (Pp, anyone who worries about that is one with confidence issues).

Pp sounds grumpy to me.

However. I'd find it too revealing, and might think "wow, her butt is hanging out" because (well, I think the same thing when I see young women in these suits at the beach), it would be really out of place to see this on an older mom at the neighborhood pool.

It also looks like a major wedgie risk.

All this being said, I freely acknowledge that this is not my problem and truly think you should wear it if you are comfortable in it. That's what matters.

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Anonymous wrote:Looks fine to me. If you are slim and it looks good on you then go for it. Just get a nice cover up for when you are walking around.

Why does she need to cover up when walking around?

She doesn't "need" to if she doesn't mind the attention.

Look I don’t wear “frumpy” suits but if you want to, go ahead. When my body is in really good shape I wear a bikini. Now a one piece makes me comfortable. If you prefer lands end, rashguards, swim skirts etc go with that. Live & let live

I'm a frumpy mom in a rash guard and shorts but I think that bathing suit is just fine OP. I dress like I do at the pool to protect my pale skin, not to cover up. I still look good in a bikini and wear one in a hot tub or if I don't have to worry about the sun.

Expecting modesty is some bullshit, misogyny for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:Also agree that the summersalt suit will be frumpy on anyone with a midsection. If you are as thin as the model and the suit is a bit loose on you, it will be ok.

But judging by the number of people wearing summersalt at my community pool, it is an acceptable and very common swimsuit.

None of these suits are frumpy for middle aged women. You people judging frump are as bad as those judging skimpy.

First one says "I'm trying to cover my spare tire"

I’m a DP who has that swimsuit and I AM trying to cover my spare tire. What of it?

I remember being invited to a casual pool day at my son’s friend’s house when we were new to the school. I wore a very standard black JCrew one piece thinking it wouldn’t stand out (I didn’t want to be “noticed” for my swimwear around the other moms and dads in that setting). I get there and the 3 other moms are all in long sleeve rash guards and surf shorts and I’m suddenly feeling naked and wondering if I’ve committed some faux pas by wearing an actual bathing suit to the pool party. I made a joke to the mom I knew best about feeling underdressed and she just laughed and said something like she just decided she was done having to worry about grooming every time she goes for a swim because the guys (who were all in trunks and tee) don’t have to.

Anonymous wrote:Looks fine to me. If you are slim and it looks good on you then go for it. Just get a nice cover up for when you are walking around.

Why does she need to cover up when walking around?

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Anonymous wrote:I would think it's inappropriate for a family pool. Like a PP said, just kids, dads and moms there. And in none of those cases is it appropriate for you to walk around in front of them with your butt hanging out of your suit.

+1 A family pool? Nope. It would cause a problem at our country club pool. I don't think the board would do anything but I do think there would be some social ostracization occurring because OP was wearing it at a family pool.

Family pool? Only if you don't care that some will be talking about you. Resort? Sure. Vacation, yes. Right or wrong, most moms want to look like moms at community pools, not like the "hot mom" that everyone talks about. And if you want to be the hot mom then you better be hot.

God, the internalized misogyny is so depressing.

I would be a lot harder on a dad who showed up at a community pool wearing a speedo.

Then frankly you're rather a shit person.

I honestly don't see OPs bathing suit much different from the Moms who *THINK* they are fitting in their bottoms, but are spilling out all over the place.