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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

NP: My ex went to Cambridge, his PhD was at Harvard, and he was a professor at a school that you would throw acid on your own face if it meant your DC had a better chance. He also ran a company. He never cared where people went to school or if they even went to school. What they accomplished spoke for itself. People who are impressive don't really care what the average or even somewhat above average person thinks.

I guess if you're sitting around at a cocktail party asking really boring questions like "where did you go" or "what do you do" then this matters. But wow, that's bleak.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

That is the height of elitism. PP, your wife pulls 400k a year and has worked her way up to get there. Good for her. The “social circles” Can guffaw all they want.

She has had a quarter of a century to get a degree part time. She could get one now.

Why on earth would she bother? Waste of time

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

That is the height of elitism. PP, your wife pulls 400k a year and has worked her way up to get there. Good for her. The “social circles” Can guffaw all they want.

She has had a quarter of a century to get a degree part time. She could get one now.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

That is the height of elitism. PP, your wife pulls 400k a year and has worked her way up to get there. Good for her. The “social circles” Can guffaw all they want.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

Under the freeway.we are both homeless and both have zero income....

Dating your own age is a good rule of thumb.

Some industries - like IT or tech sales - can be “low key lucrative.” Like, you don’t necessarily expect these folks to pull in $200-400K, but it can easily happen.

My DW and I met on Tinder in DC and have always made the same amount of money. It’s kind of nice, there’s never any arguments or stress about money. When we met, we both made around $120K. Now we are up to around $190K each with bonus, and another $25K in real estate income.

The local Episcopal Church choir

Ivy grad school.

Anonymous wrote:I understand there are many women (I refuse to say “girls”) here on dcum who make an enormous amount of money, and thus are taking OP’s post in stride. But in general - do PPs *look down on* people who make 50k (perhaps people in “do-gooder” fields, or those that haven’t prioritized a high income but live within their means and do meaningful work - to them) - would you value them as human beings - friends, neighbors, community members? Or would you disassociate yourself from them?

This seems like and odd takeaway to me. I answered this question and have many friends who are nurses, social workers, teachers, etc. I am not sure why posting where I met my spouse would mean that I somehow don’t respect these women.
Also, please remember that women who make more money generally have a smaller dating pool than women who make less. For a woman, going to med school or law school doesn’t exactly make you more attractive. OP’s post that this is something he is actively looking for, rather than something he is willing to overlook, is refreshing. Perhaps many women on here were a little overly enthusiastic in answering it, but it’s not because we don’t respect our friends and neighbors.

Anonymous wrote:Just remember that money is the be all, end all purpose of life! You’ll get lots of great advice on this board in that regard!

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You are on the money forum....just saying.

Just remember that money is the be all, end all purpose of life! You’ll get lots of great advice on this board in that regard!

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Date your own age (or at least include it the range — it’s off putting not to date people at least up to your age) and date smarter women.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I each make $150k. It was luck since we met on college. Dh is underpaid and I’m a big overpaid (I can hustle and I’m insanely good at my job).

I think making the same income is a bit of a burden. 150k is awesome but not enough for me to step back when we had infants. Also, most people who make more money have demanding jobs and you need someone to be home with the kids by 5:30. I personally think the lawyer/ teacher, doctor/ nurse combo is the best for raising kids and balancing income.

Seconding this. DH and I make similar incomes (Me at 120k and him at 130k) plus bonuses gets us up to a 275-300k HHI. But if either of us walked away from our jobs, it would drastically cut our standard of living since this area is so expensive. Luckily we both have fairly flexible jobs (I’m a fed and he’s in IT). But if one of us had been a much lower earner, it would be easier to pick one person’s career to sacrifice while the kids are little. I’d we didn’t both have the flexibility we do, it would be really hard.

So be careful what you wish for unless you a) don’t want kids or b) are okay tethering yourself to a flexible job. Because if you so decide to have kids and you and your spouse are both ambitious/high earners trying to lean into your careers, you will either be outsourcing things out the wazoo or become resentful of each other for holding each other back.