Anonymous wrote:OP again. Some of you ask what I have for dinner. I fix something for myself at home before going to work. It can be tuna salad or a roast chicken sandwich but my wife won't eat the same foods. We can have half a rotisserie chicken in the fridge but she'll still get nuggets at McDonald's. It defies logic and she's also a very picky eater. For example, she won't eat fish or avocado even though these are healthy food items. We have two fridges in our house and a lot of food gets wasted because she won't cook them. I do the grocery shopping but it doesn't seem to be helping because she's not actually making anything with the groceries I buy.

Anonymous wrote:DW retired from the military and is now staying at home with our two kids -1 and 4yo. I work the night shift at my job so I’m not home for dinner. Instead of cooking at home, she will take the trouble of driving to McDonalds or BK and get fast food instead. If she does cook, it’s Mac and cheese or spaghetti with pasta sauce. No variation and it’s not healthy for our kids. She isn’t healthy either, being in her early 40s and suffering from sleep apnea due to obesity. She says “I don’t know what to cook” so I bought her a cookbook weeks ago but she is visiting the drive-thru as I post this. She grew up on a farm in the Midwest and yet doesn’t like vegetables. She refuses to learn how to use the instantpot and takes the trouble of ordering fries, burgers, and nuggets when she could be cooking real food at home. I’m shaking my head. If you’ve faced this at home, how did you manage?

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Anonymous wrote:Losing a career for a man and losing a career for a woman is a big loss of identity. Plus, we’re living through almost a year of lockdown. I make our toddler amazing meals - but we have full-time childcare and a cleaning lady twice a month. Let’s stop mommy shaming and wife shaming. Start cooking on Sundays - crockpot stews; pots of rice or quinoa; baked sweet potatoes; veggie patties. Freeze half. Stock the fridge with pickles, olives, carrot sticks, celery sticks, yogurt, cottage cheese, prepackaged cheeses. Then all she has to do is heat up or make a quick omelet. Feeding your kids is a JOINT task.

She is home all day. This is her job now. So he should work full time AND do all of the cooking for the entire week on Sunday? That is bananas.

She can put some chicken breasts in the oven and roast some broccoli. Cooking doesn't need to be hard, but it does take some planning and effort.

Yikes. So much misogyny here. You are nutty bananas. She’s home all day with small children. She IS working. She’s likely exhausted by the end of the day. Cooking can be a shared task.

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you cook a damn meal and have it prepared and ready to just be heated up? McDonald’s every now and then is fine so on her days, let them have it but on your days throughout the week when you make dinner, be it or home or not, you make the meal

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Anonymous wrote:Losing a career for a man and losing a career for a woman is a big loss of identity. Plus, we’re living through almost a year of lockdown. I make our toddler amazing meals - but we have full-time childcare and a cleaning lady twice a month. Let’s stop mommy shaming and wife shaming. Start cooking on Sundays - crockpot stews; pots of rice or quinoa; baked sweet potatoes; veggie patties. Freeze half. Stock the fridge with pickles, olives, carrot sticks, celery sticks, yogurt, cottage cheese, prepackaged cheeses. Then all she has to do is heat up or make a quick omelet. Feeding your kids is a JOINT task.

She is home all day. This is her job now. So he should work full time AND do all of the cooking for the entire week on Sunday? That is bananas.

She can put some chicken breasts in the oven and roast some broccoli. Cooking doesn't need to be hard, but it does take some planning and effort.

Yikes. So much misogyny here. You are nutty bananas. She’s home all day with small children. She IS working. She’s likely exhausted by the end of the day. Cooking can be a shared task.

The wife is lazy. And that's why she's fat and doesn't exercise. This isn't about gender but about personality differences.

NP. I’m a SAHM and I agree that the wife is lazy. Or she is depressed and should seek help from a mental health professional. My MIL was like this. Lazy and made excuses fir why she couldn’t cook or clean or even engage with the kids. FIL worked full-time and picked up the slack.
Agree. I would expect a SAHD to make meals too during the week. If she is staying home all damn day, as a SAHM and with the literally with the pandemic, there is no reason at all to not be able to put together something something better than a drive-thru McD happy meal. Have a tough day with the kids and are totally exhausted? Then you make scrambled eggs or a bowl of non-sugar cereal. This isn’t hard.

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Anonymous wrote:Losing a career for a man and losing a career for a woman is a big loss of identity. Plus, we’re living through almost a year of lockdown. I make our toddler amazing meals - but we have full-time childcare and a cleaning lady twice a month. Let’s stop mommy shaming and wife shaming. Start cooking on Sundays - crockpot stews; pots of rice or quinoa; baked sweet potatoes; veggie patties. Freeze half. Stock the fridge with pickles, olives, carrot sticks, celery sticks, yogurt, cottage cheese, prepackaged cheeses. Then all she has to do is heat up or make a quick omelet. Feeding your kids is a JOINT task.

She is home all day. This is her job now. So he should work full time AND do all of the cooking for the entire week on Sunday? That is bananas.

She can put some chicken breasts in the oven and roast some broccoli. Cooking doesn't need to be hard, but it does take some planning and effort.

Yikes. So much misogyny here. You are nutty bananas. She’s home all day with small children. She IS working. She’s likely exhausted by the end of the day. Cooking can be a shared task.

The wife is lazy. And that's why she's fat and doesn't exercise. This isn't about gender but about personality differences.

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Anonymous wrote:Losing a career for a man and losing a career for a woman is a big loss of identity. Plus, we’re living through almost a year of lockdown. I make our toddler amazing meals - but we have full-time childcare and a cleaning lady twice a month. Let’s stop mommy shaming and wife shaming. Start cooking on Sundays - crockpot stews; pots of rice or quinoa; baked sweet potatoes; veggie patties. Freeze half. Stock the fridge with pickles, olives, carrot sticks, celery sticks, yogurt, cottage cheese, prepackaged cheeses. Then all she has to do is heat up or make a quick omelet. Feeding your kids is a JOINT task.

She is home all day. This is her job now. So he should work full time AND do all of the cooking for the entire week on Sunday? That is bananas.

She can put some chicken breasts in the oven and roast some broccoli. Cooking doesn't need to be hard, but it does take some planning and effort.

Yikes. So much misogyny here. You are nutty bananas. She’s home all day with small children. She IS working. She’s likely exhausted by the end of the day. Cooking can be a shared task.

The wife is lazy. And that's why she's fat and doesn't exercise. This isn't about gender but about personality differences.

NP. I’m a SAHM and I agree that the wife is lazy. Or she is depressed and should seek help from a mental health professional. My MIL was like this. Lazy and made excuses fir why she couldn’t cook or clean or even engage with the kids. FIL worked full-time and picked up the slack.
Agree. I would expect a SAHD to make meals too during the week. If she is staying home all damn day, as a SAHM and with the literally with the pandemic, there is no reason at all to not be able to put together something something better than a drive-thru McD happy meal. Have a tough day with the kids and are totally exhausted? Then you make scrambled eggs or a bowl of non-sugar cereal. This isn’t hard.

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Anonymous wrote:Losing a career for a man and losing a career for a woman is a big loss of identity. Plus, we’re living through almost a year of lockdown. I make our toddler amazing meals - but we have full-time childcare and a cleaning lady twice a month. Let’s stop mommy shaming and wife shaming. Start cooking on Sundays - crockpot stews; pots of rice or quinoa; baked sweet potatoes; veggie patties. Freeze half. Stock the fridge with pickles, olives, carrot sticks, celery sticks, yogurt, cottage cheese, prepackaged cheeses. Then all she has to do is heat up or make a quick omelet. Feeding your kids is a JOINT task.

She is home all day. This is her job now. So he should work full time AND do all of the cooking for the entire week on Sunday? That is bananas.

She can put some chicken breasts in the oven and roast some broccoli. Cooking doesn't need to be hard, but it does take some planning and effort.

Yikes. So much misogyny here. You are nutty bananas. She’s home all day with small children. She IS working. She’s likely exhausted by the end of the day. Cooking can be a shared task.

The wife is lazy. And that's why she's fat and doesn't exercise. This isn't about gender but about personality differences.

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Anonymous wrote:Losing a career for a man and losing a career for a woman is a big loss of identity. Plus, we’re living through almost a year of lockdown. I make our toddler amazing meals - but we have full-time childcare and a cleaning lady twice a month. Let’s stop mommy shaming and wife shaming. Start cooking on Sundays - crockpot stews; pots of rice or quinoa; baked sweet potatoes; veggie patties. Freeze half. Stock the fridge with pickles, olives, carrot sticks, celery sticks, yogurt, cottage cheese, prepackaged cheeses. Then all she has to do is heat up or make a quick omelet. Feeding your kids is a JOINT task.

She is home all day. This is her job now. So he should work full time AND do all of the cooking for the entire week on Sunday? That is bananas.

She can put some chicken breasts in the oven and roast some broccoli. Cooking doesn't need to be hard, but it does take some planning and effort.

Yikes. So much misogyny here. You are nutty bananas. She’s home all day with small children. She IS working. She’s likely exhausted by the end of the day. Cooking can be a shared task.

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Anonymous wrote:Losing a career for a man and losing a career for a woman is a big loss of identity. Plus, we’re living through almost a year of lockdown. I make our toddler amazing meals - but we have full-time childcare and a cleaning lady twice a month. Let’s stop mommy shaming and wife shaming. Start cooking on Sundays - crockpot stews; pots of rice or quinoa; baked sweet potatoes; veggie patties. Freeze half. Stock the fridge with pickles, olives, carrot sticks, celery sticks, yogurt, cottage cheese, prepackaged cheeses. Then all she has to do is heat up or make a quick omelet. Feeding your kids is a JOINT task.

She is home all day. This is her job now. So he should work full time AND do all of the cooking for the entire week on Sunday? That is bananas.

She can put some chicken breasts in the oven and roast some broccoli. Cooking doesn't need to be hard, but it does take some planning and effort.