Anonymous wrote:OP here.

It’s not about money. Really!
It’s just I don’t want to bring groceries for 10 people, I just want to bring enough for our family of 3. We are already sharing dinners.

Yuck. So self centered and ugly.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are that broke that you literally cannot afford an extra $2 for another dozen eggs, or if you're really feeling super generous and bougie, spending a whole extra $5 on another pack of bacon, or another $1 on another loaf of bread (food is so INSANELY cheap in this country), then you shouldn't be going anywhere. You should stay home and perhaps pick up a side job as a ride share driver or delivery person, because you must really need the cash. Don't vacation- get a second job, and start working NOW!

If it’s so cheap, why can’t the other family just feed their kids more, then?

Who cares? OP asked about her behavior.

Anonymous wrote:If you are that broke that you literally cannot afford an extra $2 for another dozen eggs, or if you're really feeling super generous and bougie, spending a whole extra $5 on another pack of bacon, or another $1 on another loaf of bread (food is so INSANELY cheap in this country), then you shouldn't be going anywhere. You should stay home and perhaps pick up a side job as a ride share driver or delivery person, because you must really need the cash. Don't vacation- get a second job, and start working NOW!

If it’s so cheap, why can’t the other family just feed their kids more, then?

All of this should be discussed beforehand. And bring extra. But it really shouldn’t fall on one parent to set the rules and police the whole situation. I wouldn’t want to be responsible for breakfast and lunch for 13 people for a week. That’s not a vacation. People have to work together.

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Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

I'd like to know what you weigh.

It doesn’t seem like the issue is purely the food and the cost. One mom gets up makes bacon arranges breakfast they are all eating and the other families kids just horn in. That would end up feeling like one mom is the cook and everyone else can take it easy. Or one mom buys plans and selected all breakfast s and lunches while the other moms and kids do what? Just wait for the food truck aka one mom?

Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

Anonymous wrote:it sounds like op's friends weren't prepared to pull their weight for breakfast. I'd be annoyed too if we decided that everyone does breakfast on their own and then all of a sudden I have to feed more kids every day. any group trip requires consent on how to handle food. op stated what she preferred, sounded like no one complained about it and then it didnt happen according to plan. I agree to just roll with it, but if it was chronic, I'd be annoyed to.

Keep reading, toots.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are that broke that you literally cannot afford an extra $2 for another dozen eggs, or if you're really feeling super generous and bougie, spending a whole extra $5 on another pack of bacon, or another $1 on another loaf of bread (food is so INSANELY cheap in this country), then you shouldn't be going anywhere. You should stay home and perhaps pick up a side job as a ride share driver or delivery person, because you must really need the cash. Don't vacation- get a second job, and start working NOW!

It’s not the cost, it’s too many things to bring! Wwwwwaaaaahhhhhhh

She sounds like a rude, overgrown child who has no business being around other humans. I'm sure the other families make fun of how cheap she is behind her back

Anonymous wrote:If you are that broke that you literally cannot afford an extra $2 for another dozen eggs, or if you're really feeling super generous and bougie, spending a whole extra $5 on another pack of bacon, or another $1 on another loaf of bread (food is so INSANELY cheap in this country), then you shouldn't be going anywhere. You should stay home and perhaps pick up a side job as a ride share driver or delivery person, because you must really need the cash. Don't vacation- get a second job, and start working NOW!

It’s not the cost, it’s too many things to bring! Wwwwwaaaaahhhhhhh

Anonymous wrote:Are the other families all feeding their kids healthy foods while you’re frying up a skillet full of bacon?

I’d be annoyed if I’m giving my kids oatmeal and cut up fruit at one end of the table while someone else is handing out bacon at the other end. Maybe bring more healthy choices and then the other kids won’t be asking for your food.

Can you find out what the other families are bringing and then just bring similar types of food? That way their kids might not find your food so intriguing.

Love this idea!
But the OP won’t. She’s adamant that she doesn’t want to change her routines or her plans. She just wants the other families not to eat her food without actually telling them.
She really didn’t want advice. She just wanted to vent. Or maybe she’s hoping the other families read DCUM and get the hint.

If you are that broke that you literally cannot afford an extra $2 for another dozen eggs, or if you're really feeling super generous and bougie, spending a whole extra $5 on another pack of bacon, or another $1 on another loaf of bread (food is so INSANELY cheap in this country), then you shouldn't be going anywhere. You should stay home and perhaps pick up a side job as a ride share driver or delivery person, because you must really need the cash. Don't vacation- get a second job, and start working NOW!

Are the other families all feeding their kids healthy foods while you’re frying up a skillet full of bacon?

I’d be annoyed if I’m giving my kids oatmeal and cut up fruit at one end of the table while someone else is handing out bacon at the other end. Maybe bring more healthy choices and then the other kids won’t be asking for your food.

Can you find out what the other families are bringing and then just bring similar types of food? That way their kids might not find your food so intriguing.

Shared house means shared food. The end.

That isn’t how you share a house. Pick a few things. Bring enough for everybody. You share with them. They share with you. I’ve shared houses with dozens of families, and luckily I’ve never encountered one as ridiculous as yours.