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Anonymous wrote:Dang, some of you all have never been betrayed on such a fundamental level that you completely lost it, and it shows. I genuinely hope you never know any different.

Who are you talking to?

I’m talking to the ones who are saying she’s super dramatic, and to the ones who say some types of affairs are “not that bad.”

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Anonymous wrote:But she’s super dramatic about things, right? So you might not kick your husband out immediately if you discovered an affair, but Jen Hatmaker might.

Jen Hatmaker’s entire career is built around the idea of grace, love, forgiveness, etc. Even if her initial impulse were to divorce over an affair, before she actually filed the papers cooler heads would prevail and she would try to work through it. That she jumped so quickly to divorce suggests it was something truly unforgivable, even under a Christian ideal of forgiveness.

Absolutely this. Also, there are no leaks, rumors coming out of the church. As a pastor's daughter I can tell you that most congregations will whisper about affairs. But there are unmentionables they won't touch. Young, illegal.

They aren’t that involved in the church and it isn’t like the traditional churches. It’s much different. They are removed from the operations and they only have their really close clique of friends. And that clique isn’t going to spill anything, in my opinion. The pruets and sheltons are their closest friends, and they’re all going to keep anything they know very quiet.

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t her husband the pastor of a church? So it whatever happened was criminal, they for sure it’s going to come out soon.

Her husband is still on the board but I don’t think he actually preaches much if at all. He’s too busy getting tattoos and pretending to be hard like a biker wanna be. Personally, they put in the work they needed to get to where they wanted to be; it was a means to an end. They never really cared for much beyond their little clique of people. I went to their church for about 3 years and he never once tried to have a meaningful conversation with me or my family. If you were on of the 6-7 families who were “in”, you were part of the cool kids club. There were so many other really nice and sincere people who did a ton of work for the community and church. It feels like we weren’t good enough to be in their presence at times. Oh sure, they put on a facade of love and grace but it didn’t feel genuine with them. It was kinda like high-school and there were the popular kids and everyone else.

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Anonymous wrote:But she’s super dramatic about things, right? So you might not kick your husband out immediately if you discovered an affair, but Jen Hatmaker might.

Jen Hatmaker’s entire career is built around the idea of grace, love, forgiveness, etc. Even if her initial impulse were to divorce over an affair, before she actually filed the papers cooler heads would prevail and she would try to work through it. That she jumped so quickly to divorce suggests it was something truly unforgivable, even under a Christian ideal of forgiveness.

Here’s the thing, it’s like becoming a parent or losing a parent, you have no idea what you will actually do or feel when it does happen to YOU.

All of that Christian BS and forgiveness went out the door when I was betrayed and found out about an affair 20 years into my marriage. It was so devastating I couldn’t eat for over 1 month. I didn’t have weight to lose and I lost 15 pounds in 3 weeks and could not sleep AT ALL. I wanted to kill both those @ssholes. Fury and rage and fantasies of the OW in awful painful accidents and having her insides ravaged by a slow painful disease overtook me.

So much for the Christian principles at discovery.

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Anonymous wrote:But she’s super dramatic about things, right? So you might not kick your husband out immediately if you discovered an affair, but Jen Hatmaker might.

Jen Hatmaker’s entire career is built around the idea of grace, love, forgiveness, etc. Even if her initial impulse were to divorce over an affair, before she actually filed the papers cooler heads would prevail and she would try to work through it. That she jumped so quickly to divorce suggests it was something truly unforgivable, even under a Christian ideal of forgiveness.

Absolutely this. Also, there are no leaks, rumors coming out of the church. As a pastor's daughter I can tell you that most congregations will whisper about affairs. But there are unmentionables they won't touch. Young, illegal.

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t her husband the pastor of a church? So it whatever happened was criminal, they for sure it’s going to come out soon.

No, not anymore.

Anonymous wrote:Dang, some of you all have never been betrayed on such a fundamental level that you completely lost it, and it shows. I genuinely hope you never know any different.

Who are you talking to?

Isn’t her husband the pastor of a church? So it whatever happened was criminal, they for sure it’s going to come out soon.

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Anonymous wrote:But she’s super dramatic about things, right? So you might not kick your husband out immediately if you discovered an affair, but Jen Hatmaker might.

Jen Hatmaker’s entire career is built around the idea of grace, love, forgiveness, etc. Even if her initial impulse were to divorce over an affair, before she actually filed the papers cooler heads would prevail and she would try to work through it. That she jumped so quickly to divorce suggests it was something truly unforgivable, even under a Christian ideal of forgiveness.

100% agree here. Whatever happened, it was huge and horrible.

Dang, some of you all have never been betrayed on such a fundamental level that you completely lost it, and it shows. I genuinely hope you never know any different.

Anonymous wrote:But she’s super dramatic about things, right? So you might not kick your husband out immediately if you discovered an affair, but Jen Hatmaker might.

Jen Hatmaker’s entire career is built around the idea of grace, love, forgiveness, etc. Even if her initial impulse were to divorce over an affair, before she actually filed the papers cooler heads would prevail and she would try to work through it. That she jumped so quickly to divorce suggests it was something truly unforgivable, even under a Christian ideal of forgiveness.

But she’s super dramatic about things, right? So you might not kick your husband out immediately if you discovered an affair, but Jen Hatmaker might.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s bigger than cheating.

Please elaborate. Do you have personal knowledge of what happened? Point me in the right direction! I am truly fascinated and have scoured the internet and found nothing of substance.

No I’m just saying it’s obvious it’s not that. Cheating is bad but she said she didn’t see it coming. So it leads me to believe it’s a different type of betrayal. Usually with cheating people say we are separating to figure things out.

Um have you ever been cheated on? I have and I assure you it was very bad, it completely blindsided me, and yeah, I went bananas and completely shut that door.

Yes but she’s got a lot on the line here. It can’t just be some one random chick.

Yes. If it was an ongoing affair...one random chick is a BFD. Like pp, I was completely blindsided by an affair, kicked him out the same day. If I wouldn’t have been faced with assault charges I would have beat the living sh@t out of her too.

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Anonymous wrote:To leave your wife and children for another woman after so many years, if true, to really pull that trigger makes him a true outlier. And it is disturbing.

What are you talking about. That is fairly common--especially when men hit middle age/50. And, it is awful.

I agree this is kind of common after a certain point. Not super common with little ones though.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s bigger than cheating.

Please elaborate. Do you have personal knowledge of what happened? Point me in the right direction! I am truly fascinated and have scoured the internet and found nothing of substance.

No I’m just saying it’s obvious it’s not that. Cheating is bad but she said she didn’t see it coming. So it leads me to believe it’s a different type of betrayal. Usually with cheating people say we are separating to figure things out.

Um have you ever been cheated on? I have and I assure you it was very bad, it completely blindsided me, and yeah, I went bananas and completely shut that door.

Yes but she’s got a lot on the line here. It can’t just be some one random chick.