Anonymous wrote:I used to love our title 1 Elementary but when my kid switched to a 10/10 GS school it was eye opening.
The biggest difference was that he found more and closer friends (at the old school kids were into sports and not that many nerds) and actually started getting invites to bd parties (there weren’t any at The old school)
More afterschool activities
More field trips
Faster paced and more thorough instruction
Less accent on perfect behavior

Anonymous wrote:I used to love our title 1 Elementary but when my kid switched to a 10/10 GS school it was eye opening.
The biggest difference was that he found more and closer friends (at the old school kids were into sports and not that many nerds) and actually started getting invites to bd parties (there weren’t any at The old school)
More afterschool activities
More field trips
Faster paced and more thorough instruction
Less accent on perfect behavior

Anonymous wrote:Honestly asking - Does the school pyramid really make a difference in the long run? I grew up in a small city in upstate NY and there was no moving around to a better school district. I got into a great engineering school and have done fine in life. But now, as my family is looking to move from a condo to SFH in NOVA with 2 kids, I'm feeling like I'm missing something. I'm feeling like the competition and school hunting that I see my peers doing when singling out a SFH is too much. My husband I are very engineering and math focused and see our children headed in that direction as well. Do I really need to be in the top school district, 7's and above on great schools?? Top 20 in the state? Will it make a difference in school experience or getting into college depending on what HS you went to? Any hidden gem schools that aren't rated great on GS but are, in fact, great?

For perspective, we are looking for a SFH with decent sized yard and 2000+ sq for $950k or less. Arlington, Falls Church, McLean, Vienna, Alexandria, Annandale, or closer in Fairfax

Anonymous wrote:Honestly asking - Does the school pyramid really make a difference in the long run? I grew up in a small city in upstate NY and there was no moving around to a better school district. I got into a great engineering school and have done fine in life. But now, as my family is looking to move from a condo to SFH in NOVA with 2 kids, I'm feeling like I'm missing something. I'm feeling like the competition and school hunting that I see my peers doing when singling out a SFH is too much. My husband I are very engineering and math focused and see our children headed in that direction as well. Do I really need to be in the top school district, 7's and above on great schools?? Top 20 in the state? Will it make a difference in school experience or getting into college depending on what HS you went to? Any hidden gem schools that aren't rated great on GS but are, in fact, great?

For perspective, we are looking for a SFH with decent sized yard and 2000+ sq for $950k or less. Arlington, Falls Church, McLean, Vienna, Alexandria, Annandale, or closer in Fairfax

Anonymous wrote:PP, I think the other PP was reacting to your comment that "they are the people who don't know what code-switching means."

There are plenty of people who instinctively know how to get along with people of different backgrounds without slapping the label "code-switching" on their own behavior.

Your comment made it sound like you were faulting them for not having taken the same sociology classes or read the same articles as you did. It's somewhat ironic that you'd write in a somewhat tone-deaf manner about the subject.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m only the parent of a 10 year old and younger kids but from what I’ve read the answer is no. Our child goes to a Title I School. The school has a GT magnet program, arts and music and media, newly renovated, diverse, safe decent testing scores for all races. We wanted our kids to be comfortable with all kinds of people and also to go to a neighborhood school. I have never regretted our choice. DH and I are both employed and went to college and have friends in the school district who are both more and less educated than we are.

I don’t have a link but I think parent education level and resources are the biggest predictors of a child’s level of academic achievement.

Have you really met people uncomfortable to work or interact with people of different socioeconomic backgrounds? How is this a thing that is fixed by going to a struggling high school? OP, as a college age engineer do you regularly hang out with electricians or plumbers that aren’t your neighbors?

Holy shit, yes. I have. They don't think of themselves this way but they are the people who don't know what code-switching means, or that huge swaths of people do it. There are some very good-hearted but clueless people out there and they don't even see their blinders bc everyone in their family and circle of friends are basically the same- college, white collar, etc.

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Nah. You are adding that because then it makes it easier to dismiss what I am saying. I know and love some of these people, those who assume and identify as middle class even though they were raised UMC. I have friends who are good people but just don't realize what it's like to be related to or be friends with folks who are kind of uneducated about the world around them, or not as sophisticated. At the same time I have family that I love dearly that I struggle with greatly bc they have this ridiculous boot strap narrative in their head and feel like they have no privlege at all etc . Neither really fit the definition of woke, LOL. I've seen both be wary and uncomfortable around the idea of the other (my mom even told me not to date or marry someone from significant money bc our world's are too different and this was the 90sand 00s!) .

Being more aware of the spectrum is a good thing, being in proximity is even better. See above, I didn't inherit that same wariness as my mom bc I had much more exposure to wealthy folks than she did. I also don't assume all military or blue collar white folks are Trumpeters who love to fan flames of otherness and "take our country back" stuff bc I come from that world.