Op, where is the line between MC and UMC in your eyes?

Anonymous wrote:You need to look for.guys 40+ OP.

+1. And be ok with being a step-mom. But you can still definitely have a family of your own too.

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Anonymous wrote:In my experience, the women who get married in mid to late 20's are usually the ones with no ambition beyond 'landing a man'. THe ones who got married in grad school never finished the degree or got a job in their field. Instead, a lot of them still work as glorified research assistants for their husbands, who publish the papers and get the credit. Um, no thanks.

I'd also worry about any guy who was looking for that in a woman. Like those lawyers in the 1950's who married their secretaries.

I literally know no one in my social circle like this and we all got married mid to late 20s.

This was such an overly specific example that it probably fits one couple in the country.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you look like? Are you a catch? Or are you one of those frumpy girls who put too much time into their masters degrees? Are you a workaholic?

Also, define UMC. Does age/race/height matter?

Hi, Op here. I think I am a catch. I was raised conservatively so I waited until marriage to have sex at 29. I am cultured and well traveled. I am a good and kind sister, daughter and friend. I am passionate about my work and making the world a better place although I wish I earned more. I was a live-in nanny for a few years as I completed prestigious unpaid internships and raising those kids was some of the best and most fulfilling times I have had. My parents are what you would say are "nice" people. I know how to host dinner parties and am a wonderful cook. I also have a high sex drive and want it at least once a day. I am goal oriented and clear eyed about what I want. I am mature, thoughtful and silly and goofy.

I don't care so much about race but I want a clean cut well education man with goals and a good head on his shoulders. Someone who wants a family and has high standards for himself and those around him. Salary should be over 120k at least, if we are going to be living locally.

You had me, OP, until your salary requirements.

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Salary requirement is very doable in this area. She should be also meeting this requirement or she is not the catch she thinks she is.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.I am recently separated and would like to meet a similar minded professional guy to build a family with.

When do you expect to be divorced? Why the rush into another relationship when you only just separated?

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, the women who get married in mid to late 20's are usually the ones with no ambition beyond 'landing a man'. THe ones who got married in grad school never finished the degree or got a job in their field. Instead, a lot of them still work as glorified research assistants for their husbands, who publish the papers and get the credit. Um, no thanks.

I'd also worry about any guy who was looking for that in a woman. Like those lawyers in the 1950's who married their secretaries.

I literally know no one in my social circle like this and we all got married mid to late 20s.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you look like? Are you a catch? Or are you one of those frumpy girls who put too much time into their masters degrees? Are you a workaholic?

Also, define UMC. Does age/race/height matter?

Hi, Op here. I think I am a catch. I was raised conservatively so I waited until marriage to have sex at 29. I am cultured and well traveled. I am a good and kind sister, daughter and friend. I am passionate about my work and making the world a better place although I wish I earned more. I was a live-in nanny for a few years as I completed prestigious unpaid internships and raising those kids was some of the best and most fulfilling times I have had. My parents are what you would say are "nice" people. I know how to host dinner parties and am a wonderful cook. I also have a high sex drive and want it at least once a day. I am goal oriented and clear eyed about what I want. I am mature, thoughtful and silly and goofy.

I don't care so much about race but I want a clean cut well education man with goals and a good head on his shoulders. Someone who wants a family and has high standards for himself and those around him. Salary should be over 120k at least, if we are going to be living locally.

I'm a man.

Here are the things from your list about positives about yourself that no successful UMC man cares about (and maybe even no man at all cares about):
- I am a good and kind sister, daughter
- I am passionate about my work and making the world a better place
- I was a live-in nanny for a few years
- I completed prestigious unpaid internships
- I know how to host dinner parties
- I am goal oriented

Here are things a man might care about from your list:
- clear eyed about what I want (men can't stand wishy washy behavior)
- I am mature, thoughtful and silly and goofy. (always good to have fun)
- am a wonderful cook (semi-bonus)
- I waited until marriage to have sex at 29 (shows you didn't piss away your 20s boozing and sleeping around, a strong negative for wife material)
- I am cultured and well traveled. (potential positive but certainly not necessary)

Here are things a man definitely cares about:
- I also have a high sex drive and want it at least once a day.

You've got some positives but it's worth noting that you listed an equal number of things that a man most likely doesn't care about at all as your marketable positives. Does it mean you are overperceiving your value by 50%? You be the judge.

You need to look for.guys 40+ OP.

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Enjoy your cats

Your response is an eye-roll emoji and "Enjoy your cats"? You are going to need to pick up your game.

Especially given the backroom (and undercover) effort your husband has to go through to you keep shopping at Whole Foods.

Shrug. Honestly, my life is pretty fab. If it means having a high earning gay husband, then oh well.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you look like? Are you a catch? Or are you one of those frumpy girls who put too much time into their masters degrees? Are you a workaholic?

Also, define UMC. Does age/race/height matter?

Hi, Op here. I think I am a catch. I was raised conservatively so I waited until marriage to have sex at 29. I am cultured and well traveled. I am a good and kind sister, daughter and friend. I am passionate about my work and making the world a better place although I wish I earned more. I was a live-in nanny for a few years as I completed prestigious unpaid internships and raising those kids was some of the best and most fulfilling times I have had. My parents are what you would say are "nice" people. I know how to host dinner parties and am a wonderful cook. I also have a high sex drive and want it at least once a day. I am goal oriented and clear eyed about what I want. I am mature, thoughtful and silly and goofy.

I don't care so much about race but I want a clean cut well education man with goals and a good head on his shoulders. Someone who wants a family and has high standards for himself and those around him. Salary should be over 120k at least, if we are going to be living locally.

You had me, OP, until your salary requirements.

It is not a deal breaker, simply a nice-to-have.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you look like? Are you a catch? Or are you one of those frumpy girls who put too much time into their masters degrees? Are you a workaholic?

Also, define UMC. Does age/race/height matter?

Hi, Op here. I think I am a catch. I was raised conservatively so I waited until marriage to have sex at 29. I am cultured and well traveled. I am a good and kind sister, daughter and friend. I am passionate about my work and making the world a better place although I wish I earned more. I was a live-in nanny for a few years as I completed prestigious unpaid internships and raising those kids was some of the best and most fulfilling times I have had. My parents are what you would say are "nice" people. I know how to host dinner parties and am a wonderful cook. I also have a high sex drive and want it at least once a day. I am goal oriented and clear eyed about what I want. I am mature, thoughtful and silly and goofy.

I don't care so much about race but I want a clean cut well education man with goals and a good head on his shoulders. Someone who wants a family and has high standards for himself and those around him. Salary should be over 120k at least, if we are going to be living locally.

You had me, OP, until your salary requirements.

Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you look like? Are you a catch? Or are you one of those frumpy girls who put too much time into their masters degrees? Are you a workaholic?

Also, define UMC. Does age/race/height matter?

Hi, Op here. I think I am a catch. I was raised conservatively so I waited until marriage to have sex at 29. I am cultured and well traveled. I am a good and kind sister, daughter and friend. I am passionate about my work and making the world a better place although I wish I earned more. I was a live-in nanny for a few years as I completed prestigious unpaid internships and raising those kids was some of the best and most fulfilling times I have had. My parents are what you would say are "nice" people. I know how to host dinner parties and am a wonderful cook. I also have a high sex drive and want it at least once a day. I am goal oriented and clear eyed about what I want. I am mature, thoughtful and silly and goofy.

I don't care so much about race but I want a clean cut well education man with goals and a good head on his shoulders. Someone who wants a family and has high standards for himself and those around him. Salary should be over 120k at least, if we are going to be living locally.

Enjoy your cats

Your response is an eye-roll emoji and "Enjoy your cats"? You are going to need to pick up your game.

Especially given the backroom (and undercover) effort your husband has to go through to you keep shopping at Whole Foods.

Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you look like? Are you a catch? Or are you one of those frumpy girls who put too much time into their masters degrees? Are you a workaholic?

Also, define UMC. Does age/race/height matter?

What do you mean? As in spending too much time on education and not enough time finding a husband?

In my experience, the women who get married in mid to late 20's are usually the ones with no ambition beyond 'landing a man'. THe ones who got married in grad school never finished the degree or got a job in their field. Instead, a lot of them still work as glorified research assistants for their husbands, who publish the papers and get the credit. Um, no thanks.

I'd also worry about any guy who was looking for that in a woman. Like those lawyers in the 1950's who married their secretaries.