My mother went overboard with calling us beautiful (we actually are pretty women, I'm nothing special but good genes for skin , coloring, cheekbones. My sister is a legit stunner but doesn't see it). Mom had an eating disorder very young. Like went into recovery at 14-15 after years. We were also kind of round faced, baby weight body types (fine on the charts and every thing but just that sort of rounder kid body type).

So I heard it plenty that I was ugly bc I was fat or bc I had a tummy. By HS I was just the girl that no one saw as a pretty girl (weight fluctuated a lot but lookinat photos I was mostly average with a chubby face).

I came back throughout college to hear "how much I've changed", my graduation pic from HS and from college look basically identical.

I think sometimes these labels stick bc of herd mentality in adolescence. Just like some of the "hot" girls in my HS were objectively not good looking, but they were.part of the group with the few prettiest girls in the class.

I was called ugly, once. It made me laugh hysterically.

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Anonymous wrote:I was voted ugliest girl in 4th grade and ended up modeling as teen and into my 20s. You don't have to accept the labels people give you.

I have a question. Where did some of you go to school that this kind of stuff was allowed in front of teachers. There was an ugliest girl superlative in your yearbook?? Wtf?

It's called recess!

I went to "good" high school here in MoCo. Several boys in my English class openly sexually harassed me. My (female) teacher pretended not to hear or notice and just let it go on. I was a very shy girl from a poor immigrant family and terrified of making waves, so I never stood up for myself. It was a TERRIBLE semester. Teachers won't do crap to help if it means a hassle for them.

Anonymous wrote:Shocking how many people responded that they heard this from their mothers.

When I was 13, my dad looked at a picture of me from school and said, "You shouldn't smile in photos. You look like a horse when you smile."

It took a few decades before I stopped hearing his voice in my head and started smiling in photos again.

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Anonymous wrote:Shocking how many people responded that they heard this from their mothers.

My mom never called me ugly per se but she definitely gave me a complex. Too skinny, not enough curves, frizzy hair, fat ankles, mediocre nose - I think she saw a lot of the traits she didn't like in herself in me and took it out on me.

My mom did the same thing. I still remember when she told me "You'll just never be slender."

Well, I ended up with an eating disorder in college.

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Anonymous wrote:Shocking how many people responded that they heard this from their mothers.

My mom never called me ugly per se but she definitely gave me a complex. Too skinny, not enough curves, frizzy hair, fat ankles, mediocre nose - I think she saw a lot of the traits she didn't like in herself in me and took it out on me.

Same. My mom was always trying to "fix" my appearance......making sure I wore makeup at the age of 13, telling me I needed to lose weight(I was not overweight at all),. I now realize she didn't like herself and did take it out on me

Anonymous wrote:Shocking how many people responded that they heard this from their mothers.

My mom never called me ugly per se but she definitely gave me a complex. Too skinny, not enough curves, frizzy hair, fat ankles, mediocre nose - I think she saw a lot of the traits she didn't like in herself in me and took it out on me.

Shocking how many people responded that they heard this from their mothers.

Never in those words, but I was teased for my red hair and felt ugly until around high school.

In grad school I had to do a project with an assigned group. It was a top business school so it attracted masters of the universe kind of guys (and was only about 20% women at the time). Anyway I called out one of the guys in my group for not doing his share of work (like anything). He called me a fat cow. While I am somewhat overweight now, I definitely wasn't then but it still hurt. To their credit a couple of the other guys in the group made him apologize but I've hated him ever since and it's been over 30 years.

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Anonymous wrote:In 9th grade, I dated a guy for maybe 3 weeks. He told me, "my friends think you're ugly but I told them I still want to go out with you."

It was such a douchey comment.

Okay I posted earlier about the guy in college telling me his receptionist thought I was ugly but that he didn't think so. What the hell? Why do men think this shit is cute?!

PP here. Seriously!

I dumped him a couple days after that comment and right before the Sadie Hawkins dance, so he couldn't get a date for it. Maybe that was a btchy move, but he was seriously such a douche.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I used to do work on theater (not school, outside productions) and commercials Nothing high-end, just stuff where I was playing a regular person, like someone's daughter or classmate.

And the notes and comments casting people (many of which were young for these jobs) made were SO NASTY. Some had fields for look and "body shape" that they would just write the worst stuff in.

The drama people in my school were the popular ones, so it depends on the context.

I wasn't doing this stuff through school drama, but rather through casting calls, open casting events, etc. Those were the worst because the people running them thought they were 'professionals" and were on a power trip.

Yes, but I knew it wasn’t true because the guy spent two weeks TRYING to talk to me, get my number, walk me back to my dorm. I never gave him any hope, but he persisted. He called me ugly after someone told his gf.

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Anonymous wrote:I was voted ugliest girl in 4th grade and ended up modeling as teen and into my 20s. You don't have to accept the labels people give you.

I have a question. Where did some of you go to school that this kind of stuff was allowed in front of teachers. There was an ugliest girl superlative in your yearbook?? Wtf?

It's called recess!

Ugh. That's awful. I'm sorry. I'm glad you became a model so you could show them. Comeuppance at its best.

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Anonymous wrote:I was voted ugliest girl in 4th grade and ended up modeling as teen and into my 20s. You don't have to accept the labels people give you.

I have a question. Where did some of you go to school that this kind of stuff was allowed in front of teachers. There was an ugliest girl superlative in your yearbook?? Wtf?

It's called recess!