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Anonymous wrote:My wife is 40 pounds overweight. She never uses our digital scale (that?s actually hard to avoid, sitting right there in the master bathroom). Nonetheless, Yes I do know her weight: way too heavy.

Aren't you charming.

In terms of what men and women look for in a partner, it is comparable to a wife noticing that her husband went from earning $150K and now makes $40K. Darned right she will know that her husband has fallen below her most basic dating specs! Sorry if this fact bothers you.

I'm fairly certain the man will notice he went from $150K to $40k, and that would also bother him.

I have gained 30lbs since DH and I started dating -- two kids, 20 years, and hitting 50, but then I was stick thin, size 00 when we first started dating. And he doesn't seem to care.

And I?m fairly certain a wife who gains 40 pounds would notice and it would bother her too. Doesn?t mean she will do the work to lose the weight.

The point is that Yes, men know their wife?s weight. That is because this is an important element of attraction for men.
Just as women know their husband?s income. And would be bothered if that changed (negatively) in big way.

A wife would also notice if her DH gained 40lbs, and not like it. And yes, my DH knows my height, weight, SSN, and ring size.

You seem to think only a woman cares about a huge loss of income, and a man wouldn't notice or care. Both would notice both of those things -- huge income loss, and huge weight gain -- and not be happy about either.

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Anonymous wrote:If they race together then I wouldn?t find it strange because it is part of race preparation - especially if they are serious about it. Normally I?d think it?s wearied but in the context you mention, no.

In what part of the universe does height and weight affect training, much less affect the person you?re training with?

Do adults continue to grow in perpetuity? The height thing can be a natural thing that one knows as a general inquiry when two people first date. Its not offensive.

The weight thing is in context of training. The wife isnt going to grow and shrink during training, so I dont understand how knowing both is the bridge too far here

OP gave context to the question, which answered itself. Not sure why this went on for 9 pages.

The answer to the inquiry is no, its not strange.

This was all wrapped around training for a race and if the husband is helping, it makes sense that he knows.

Nothing about it sounds weird, even in the event that he says she gained 6 pounds, because again it could all be in the context of training and not shallow standards he's holding his wife to.

Anonymous wrote:It?s not strange to know your spouse?s weight.

It?s not strange to not know your spouse?s weight.

It?s strange to think you?re supposed to know your spouse?s weight.

+1000

I also think it?s extremely weird when people say their weights so exactly. Like the husband who says his wife weighs 121. She literally weighs the same thing every day? Who doesn?t approximate buy a pound or two to get to an even number or one ending in five? That smacks of obsession.

Anonymous wrote:If they race together then I wouldn?t find it strange because it is part of race preparation - especially if they are serious about it. Normally I?d think it?s wearied but in the context you mention, no.

In what part of the universe does height and weight affect training, much less affect the person you?re training with?

Heck, I don’t know my own ring size or blood type, so I’m kind of impressed/weirded out by the husbands who know this stuff about their wives.

It’s not strange to know your spouse’s weight.

It’s not strange to not know your spouse’s weight.

It’s strange to think you’re supposed to know your spouse’s weight.