Anonymous
Post 02/27/2020 15:26     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
Medical issues prevented me from becoming a parent in my 20s and 30s. So I am in my 40s with 2 kids. If I leave you "shaken" then I can't help you.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2020 11:47     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
OP of all the things to be "shook" by, this shouldnt be in the top 100. If you are that scared, get your tubes tied or ovaries removed and make DH get a vasectomy. As for your friend, if she is ok with it then you be ok with it. If she wants to terminate the pregnancy then you be ok with that too.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2020 00:15     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
One guy in my high school graduating class had a baby brother.

It was a little weird for him, especially since another classmate had a child of her own.

Having a baby in your mid 40's isn't unheard of.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2020 22:21     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
Most professional women I know are about 40 with their first.

I had mine at 39, 41, 43.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2020 18:43     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
Anonymous wrote:I'm speechless...my friends have 3 kids, all 20+ and out of the house. Out of nowhere, new baby! Scares the crap out of me. I have so many questions, but also just fears about the circumstances and if it could happen to me. Has anyone else gotten really scared or shocked by something similar?


Dont say shook and baby unless someone shook your baby.
Also grow tf up
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2020 18:39     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
Anonymous wrote:My neighbor just had her 6th at age 46. A complete surprise. The other 5 kids are 22 down til 10. Surprise!




PP here . This neighbor is now more active than I have ever seen her. She has been my neighbor for 5 years, so I would see her occasionally around the neighborhood. Now she is out walking with the baby (about 1 now) about 3x per day and she is thinner than ever in the past 5 years. She's become, well, friendly and happy. Such a great thing for her and her husband apparently. Must have been a wonderful surprise. She's glowing.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2020 18:38     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
Hysterectomy
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2020 18:35     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I could not find the energy at age 44 to re-do the baby years, chase a toddler at age 47, or keep up with all the school aged activities at age 50, and not look like a grandma at high school graduation 18 yrs later.


Sorry about your dwindling energy!

I'm doing just fine keeping up! (Maybe some ladies are just higher energy? Not trying to be snarky.


Agreed! My kid’s grandma is super high energy and has no problem keeping up with all her grandchildren. Some people have more energy than others.

She’s 55.


She's raising all of her grandchildren or she does fun things with them and then hands them back? There is a huge difference between raising/parenting them and being a grandparent to them.

I'm looking forward to being a grandparent but I'm done raising kids after my youngest leaves the nest. I'm 54.


I am raising my children. My mom still loves taking them on hikes, swimming and being active with them. Yes, she does bring them home to DH and me after taking them on fun outings. The point is the same though. She says the kids and all the activity keep her young.

Anonymous
Post 02/26/2020 18:33     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
All the concerns about being older grandparents: My parents became grandparents at 64. They had been slowing down. That new baby (My sister's, at 37) took years off their life. they joined a gym, did fun runs with the grandchild. I tend to believe this is why I still have them at 80. Their parents died in their 60s; I never knew my grandparents. Grandparents and parents had their kids in their 20s.

Kids *make* you young! Never too late! Had my 2 after 40. My parents continue to go to the gym and mom swims nearly every day at age 80. Dad mostly lifts dumbbells and walks on the treadmill.

Why is everyone so tired?
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2020 18:30     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
Anonymous wrote:There is not a single person in my personal circle (I am nearly 60) who had baby prior to age 30. We all have graduate degrees, so 40+ is quite the normal age to have a family here in DC. The majority of the population across the US does not have the percentage of graduate degrees like this area does. Here, it almost seems to be required. When you have no plans for graduate and post-graduate school, then babies can come when you are younger.

i adopted my kids at 41 and 43, but most of my friends birthed at least one of their babies in that age range. Especially if you are going to be a single parent -- like so many of my friends -- you were finishing your degrees and building a nest egg.


Really?

We moved here right after graduate school. Almost everyone we know has a PhD. Everyone had babies in their 30’s. One couple had kids in their 20’s in grad school (they both have PhDs now.)

Nobody’s waiting to have kids when they’re 40.

Anonymous
Post 02/26/2020 18:28     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I could not find the energy at age 44 to re-do the baby years, chase a toddler at age 47, or keep up with all the school aged activities at age 50, and not look like a grandma at high school graduation 18 yrs later.


Sorry about your dwindling energy!

I'm doing just fine keeping up! (Maybe some ladies are just higher energy? Not trying to be snarky.


Agreed! My kid’s grandma is super high energy and has no problem keeping up with all her grandchildren. Some people have more energy than others.

She’s 55.


She's raising all of her grandchildren or she does fun things with them and then hands them back? There is a huge difference between raising/parenting them and being a grandparent to them.

I'm looking forward to being a grandparent but I'm done raising kids after my youngest leaves the nest. I'm 54.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2020 18:24     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
reading this and other threads I cant believe how tired these women are in their 30s-40s. I was my most athletic in my 30s, even more so than my 20s. I am still doing triathlons in my 50s (had 2 kids after 40.), albeit slower ! Get of the couch!

In fact, dinner is over, kids are with homework, time to hit the gym.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2020 18:18     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
Anonymous wrote:My neighbor just had her 6th at age 46. A complete surprise. The other 5 kids are 22 down til 10. Surprise!

If she wasn’t using birth control it’s no surprise.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2020 18:16     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
There is not a single person in my personal circle (I am nearly 60) who had baby prior to age 30. We all have graduate degrees, so 40+ is quite the normal age to have a family here in DC. The majority of the population across the US does not have the percentage of graduate degrees like this area does. Here, it almost seems to be required. When you have no plans for graduate and post-graduate school, then babies can come when you are younger.

i adopted my kids at 41 and 43, but most of my friends birthed at least one of their babies in that age range. Especially if you are going to be a single parent -- like so many of my friends -- you were finishing your degrees and building a nest egg.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2020 18:05     Subject: Shook by friends new baby at 44
Anonymous wrote:Your friend had her first kids before age 24?


First 3 by 24 apparently.