Anonymous wrote:When you asked the second kid, it was in the same breathe that you set the rental terms. Was that true for the initial invite? Or did you invite first and then tack on rent later? Is it was a bait and switch, then I think you carry some blame for this situation.

Likely what happened is that OP's son asked the first boy if he wanted to stay for the summer. Excited young men will make plans and not think through all the implications. OP's son likely over-promised from the outset.

The discussion needed to happen between OP and the BIL's. They don't know this random kid and are co-owners, so its within their right to ask for a bit of money to go toward utilities and maintenance.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I withdrew the offer yesterday afternoon and another boy was offered the same deal. He and his parents accepted it immediately.

The first boy's mom sent me (and one of my BILs who'd been on the email thread) a long rambling email calling us "assholes" and then concluded by asking if he could actually take the deal. We said no.

Then she defriended me on FB. lol.

You are a pretty horrible person OP. I’m sure your son and cousins invited this friend without any mention or expectation of money. You butting in (where truly this isn’t your business) for some nominal, negligible amount our of principle does make you look like an asshole. No matter how you spin it. In addition to alienating this woman you probably ruined your son’s friendship with the other kid. They must have been close for your son to have invited him. I hope you don’t get too lonely on your high horse. And I hope it was worth it.

I’d be willing to bet if the rental terms would have been disclosed at the beginning the original family would have had no issue paying.

Anonymous wrote:When you asked the second kid, it was in the same breathe that you set the rental terms. Was that true for the initial invite? Or did you invite first and then tack on rent later? Is it was a bait and switch, then I think you carry some blame for this situation.

+1 Saying they "accepted immediately" is comparing apples to oranges. Come back in three weeks and tell that kid's mom you've decided to triple the rent and see how she reacts; that's more in line with what happened to the first mom.

Also, why in the world is OP the point person on any of this?

Anonymous wrote:When you asked the second kid, it was in the same breathe that you set the rental terms. Was that true for the initial invite? Or did you invite first and then tack on rent later? Is it was a bait and switch, then I think you carry some blame for this situation.

OH stop. that other mother showed her true colors. she's the asshole here.

When you asked the second kid, it was in the same breathe that you set the rental terms. Was that true for the initial invite? Or did you invite first and then tack on rent later? Is it was a bait and switch, then I think you carry some blame for this situation.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't understand why everyone opposed to the idea of using the bunkhouse is pretending that the kid wont have the same access to a bathroom, kitchen, fridge, washer dryer, TV, etc that all the other kids have.Maybe theyre just too stupid to understand it.

When I was 20 I would have killed for this deal.

To all of you claiming its illegal I suggest you go to law school. Its not illegal. The state of Virginia rents yurts and cabins even more rustic that this. Many of them have no electricity at all. I know because I've rented them.

Are you claiming Virginia is breaking the law?

Youre dumb.

I did go to law school. If you had, you might realize that landlord-tenant law is not federal, it is state law. North Carolina states that a landlord for a residential property has an obligation to provide running water.

Well your law school failed you because NC Department of Natural Resources rents cabins and yurts all over the state. And water is provided in this instance. The kid will have the exact same access to water as the other kids. I've stayed in cabins in Buxton, NC and they did not have electricity or water.

LOL at the idea that NCDNC = landlord. You know farmers sometimes rent fallow land for grazing, right? That doesn't mean they're subject to landlord tenant laws. Keep posting, it's cute.

Seriously, this. I am sure every PP concerned about the liability/legal implications for this half baked landlord-tenant idea is a lawyer.

Irrelevant. The lease wouldn't specify sleeping quarters. The lease would specify that John Smith would, in exchange for $1000, receive the right to inhabit 123 Beachway Drive for the period of June-August 31.

it's kind of good that the other mother went overboard, calling you guys assholes, because now you don't have to feel even a tiny bit bad. And you have that in writing to share with whomever you want, when you hear more stories about she's badmouthing you.

that other mother sounds like trash. Sorry for her son, but count your lucky stars he's not linked with you all summer because for sure she would have been a problem.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't understand why everyone opposed to the idea of using the bunkhouse is pretending that the kid wont have the same access to a bathroom, kitchen, fridge, washer dryer, TV, etc that all the other kids have.Maybe theyre just too stupid to understand it.

When I was 20 I would have killed for this deal.

To all of you claiming its illegal I suggest you go to law school. Its not illegal. The state of Virginia rents yurts and cabins even more rustic that this. Many of them have no electricity at all. I know because I've rented them.

Are you claiming Virginia is breaking the law?

Youre dumb.

I did go to law school. If you had, you might realize that landlord-tenant law is not federal, it is state law. North Carolina states that a landlord for a residential property has an obligation to provide running water.

Well your law school failed you because NC Department of Natural Resources rents cabins and yurts all over the state. And water is provided in this instance. The kid will have the exact same access to water as the other kids. I've stayed in cabins in Buxton, NC and they did not have electricity or water.

LOL at the idea that NCDNC = landlord. You know farmers sometimes rent fallow land for grazing, right? That doesn't mean they're subject to landlord tenant laws. Keep posting, it's cute.

Seriously, this. I am sure every PP concerned about the liability/legal implications for this half baked landlord-tenant idea is a lawyer.

People are unbelievable. This chick thought that he kid was going to live totally free for three months at someone else's house and then had the gall to curse you when her demands weren't met. Gross.

Your poor kid! Man.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I withdrew the offer yesterday afternoon and another boy was offered the same deal. He and his parents accepted it immediately.

The first boy's mom sent me (and one of my BILs who'd been on the email thread) a long rambling email calling us "assholes" and then concluded by asking if he could actually take the deal. We said no.

Then she defriended me on FB. lol.

Love it! You did the right thing.

That boy and his mom were going to be a massive headache. Good riddance.

OP here.

I withdrew the offer yesterday afternoon and another boy was offered the same deal. He and his parents accepted it immediately.

The first boy's mom sent me (and one of my BILs who'd been on the email thread) a long rambling email calling us "assholes" and then concluded by asking if he could actually take the deal. We said no.

Then she defriended me on FB. lol.

Hell, if the kids doesn't take the deal, can I have it?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's tacky to charge him rent in this situation. I'd ask that all the boys do a certain group of chores and tasks - mow the lawn, paint the shed, etc.

And $1000 for a college kid is not a nominal amount.

This is cheap, cheap, cheap in a beach town where the kids work jobs.

I agree it’s cheap and doable. But it’s going to cause conflict. It already has. I bet the kid doesn’t love his mom ending his place to stay at the beach for the summer.

This. I'm sure the kid would have gladly paid the $333 per month to get away from his Mom.