What I can’t understand is why are YOU not livid about what your mom did. Stockholm syndrome???

How old is your mom?

Anonymous wrote:I agree with other posters that she is mean and this was intentional not an "accident". It takes effort to do this. She is most likely upset or feels slighted about something. You haven't kissed her fanny enough, she feels old and unimportant or she is simply self centered and bored. She "cleaned" and broke something that she could dismiss and now will not take any responsibility. I'd ask her to leave and tell her that mean behavior toward a six year old is not allowed in your house.

I agree with this. Those LEGO’s don’t come apart that easily and it’s obvious that they are meant to be displayed. The anger she expended dismantling those was not trivial. It also wasn’t only one thing or one room. It’s common sense to anyone that mixing all those little pieces together just makes work and ruins the project. To go to her generation it’s like if you dismantled one of those elaborate train sets or Christmas villages then innocently said “I thought they looked dusty!” Or dismantled a big puzzle and said “I thought you might want to do it all over again haha”

Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.

It was her response when called out that is the problem. Normal people would have done what grandpa volunteered to do - apologize, and then help him re-sort he pieces.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.

How old are your kids?

6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.

Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.

Yeah, I read the first page. I still maintain the grandma had good intentions and was trying to help by cleaning up toys. If my kids want something left out/alone, they need to put a note near/on it. Someone else may need the space, or the supplies, or not realize the importance to the creator, etc. So it seems totally reasonable to me.

NP - it takes a effort to take them apart. I don’t think she thought she was just cleaning up. When my son was six he spent days putting together a lego fire station. He wanted to show me the finished product and he dropped it as he tried to move it. He was deviated, I literally had never seen him so sad and never have again.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d speak to my mother and if she continued this attitude, I’d tell her to leave. No-one comes into our home gets to treat my children this way; not even parents.

Wish I'd had a mom like you.

Aw. Sending hugs. I’m this way because my parents never stood up for my siblings and me.

Yeah. I feel like this it wasn't "a thing" when a lot of us were kids. I would have been somehow blamed for this and the grandmother defended at all costs. It's nice to see better.

Yes, it's called respecting adults. It's not a thing anymore. Sometimes for the better, usually for the worse.

You have no idea how off base you are.

Respecting adults? Yes, I'm with you, believe me. But in this case the grandmother did something weird/rude and totally unneccesary, it's not worthy of respect just because an adult did it.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.

How old are your kids?

6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.

Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.

Yeah, I read the first page. I still maintain the grandma had good intentions and was trying to help by cleaning up toys. If my kids want something left out/alone, they need to put a note near/on it. Someone else may need the space, or the supplies, or not realize the importance to the creator, etc. So it seems totally reasonable to me.

A 6-year old must leave a note in case grandma wants to tidy his room? Do you know how idiotic you sound?

Not his room. The playroom, which is for everybody. Just like if someone has claimed a final brownie, they put their name on it so everyone else knows not to eat it.

DP. You sound nuttier with every post.

Anonymous wrote:This is like throwing away a favorite lovey.

I left my favorite lovey on the seat at a restaurant when I was 6 and my grandpa wouldn't let me go back inside to retrieve it (we were in the parking lot, so not far away). I cried myself to sleep for weeks missing that lovey. It still hurts a little. Nothing else from childhood effected me the way that did. It's the only thing i think of when people talk about my grandpa.

I’m the mother to a DD with a lovey. That story made me so sad. I’m so sorry that happened to you. I would have ripped my father a new one if he was that grandfather.

Anonymous wrote:Eh he’s 6. No way I’m picking a fight with adults I otherwise get along with because of a 6 year old’s toy, nor am
I subjecting anyone to sorting or rebuilding. If he wants to, he can. If not, whatever.

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Unless you have some reason to believe she did it maliciously, all you have is an old lady who put away some toys and thought she was being helpful. I absolutely would not yell at her or demand she buy my kid anything. I can’t believe you treat your mothers like this.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.

How old are your kids?

6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.

Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.

Yeah, I read the first page. I still maintain the grandma had good intentions and was trying to help by cleaning up toys. If my kids want something left out/alone, they need to put a note near/on it. Someone else may need the space, or the supplies, or not realize the importance to the creator, etc. So it seems totally reasonable to me.

A 6-year old must leave a note in case grandma wants to tidy his room? Do you know how idiotic you sound?

Not his room. The playroom, which is for everybody. Just like if someone has claimed a final brownie, they put their name on it so everyone else knows not to eat it.

The playroom is HIS room. And it’s still not your house.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.

They were on display. Would you go to someone else’s house and “tidy up” a finished puzzle? The equivalent for an adult would be more than a 1000 piece puzzle.

Learn to respect other people’s efforts.

It's just her daughter's house. It's not like it's her husband's boss's house. And once you've completed a puzzle, there's nothing left to do after you admire it for five seconds. It'd be fine with me if someone took it apart. Toys are meant to be played with. Not set on a shelf and admired from afar.

I feel so sorry for your kids and their future spouses. You’re going to be a nightmare.

Would you take someone else’s puzzle apart and thrown all the pieces into a bunch of different bins with other puzzle pieces? In someone else’s home?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.

How old are your kids?

6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.

Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.

Yeah, I read the first page. I still maintain the grandma had good intentions and was trying to help by cleaning up toys. If my kids want something left out/alone, they need to put a note near/on it. Someone else may need the space, or the supplies, or not realize the importance to the creator, etc. So it seems totally reasonable to me.

A 6-year old must leave a note in case grandma wants to tidy his room? Do you know how idiotic you sound?

Not his room. The playroom, which is for everybody. Just like if someone has claimed a final brownie, they put their name on it so everyone else knows not to eat it.

I know a few homes where she would be banned from. You don't mess with the LEGO.

Eh he’s 6. No way I’m picking a fight with adults I otherwise get along with because of a 6 year old’s toy, nor am
I subjecting anyone to sorting or rebuilding. If he wants to, he can. If not, whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.

They were on display. Would you go to someone else’s house and “tidy up” a finished puzzle? The equivalent for an adult would be more than a 1000 piece puzzle.

Learn to respect other people’s efforts.

It's just her daughter's house. It's not like it's her husband's boss's house. And once you've completed a puzzle, there's nothing left to do after you admire it for five seconds. It'd be fine with me if someone took it apart. Toys are meant to be played with. Not set on a shelf and admired from afar.

I feel so sorry for your kids and their future spouses. You’re going to be a nightmare.