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Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.

Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.

The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.

I don't agree with this. I have seen plenty of older women re-marry. I have also seen plenty of older women get into defacto/co-habiting relationships. My 70 year old grandfather dated and lived with a 65 year old girlfriend once he was widowed.

The women that I have seen that are older and single, a lot of them have chosen not to date. When asked they say they are happy and not interested in dating and by talking to them their lives are so full and busy I don't doubt what they are saying. I'm sure there are some lonely single older women but I haven't met any as of yet.

I disagree. I live in an area with plenty of older single women who say they are happy and not interested in dating but who suddenly meet someone and wham, they are happier! Saying you are happy is a good "front" because who wants to portray themselves as being lonely and unhappy.

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Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.

Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.

The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.

I think for women with enough income to support themselves comfortably, they may not see value in getting married again.

Women end up doing more of the home work anyway and now you have to adjust to another person’s preferences and whims again. What’s the point?

Easily half the men can’t handle kids, a home, a schedule, eating decently without their Mom’s or a wife. Thus when they get divorced, dumped, or widowed they quickly get attached again. Problem is, they usually get dumped once the woman realize he has nothing to add to the picture and cannot be counted in to take care if anything.

I'm a divorced guy. I don't need anyone to handle "kids, a home, a schedule, eating decently". Seriously, WTF is that? What guy doesn't know how to do that after he graduates from college and gets a job? I don't know any guys who have a woman doing that for them. My wife sure didn't do all that for me when I was married to her, so I'm certainly not looking for someone to replace the "caretaking" that wasn't even happening.

I'm scratching my head at this idea of a woman who marries a guy who "adds nothing to the picture" but somehow doesn't figure out that he "adds nothing to the picture" until after she's actually married him. Why was she so clueless?

Anonymous wrote:When I think about the womanizing men sometimes I wonder why they need to “settle down”.

Their market value keeps increasing. If they are handsome and make good money, they can sleep with so many women and never have to endure a dead bedroom.

They can get companionship and validation through various friends with benefits type arrangements.

Why even put up with marriage?

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Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.

Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.

The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.

I don't agree with this. I have seen plenty of older women re-marry. I have also seen plenty of older women get into defacto/co-habiting relationships. My 70 year old grandfather dated and lived with a 65 year old girlfriend once he was widowed.

The women that I have seen that are older and single, a lot of them have chosen not to date. When asked they say they are happy and not interested in dating and by talking to them their lives are so full and busy I don't doubt what they are saying. I'm sure there are some lonely single older women but I haven't met any as of yet.

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Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.

Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.

The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.

I think for women with enough income to support themselves comfortably, they may not see value in getting married again.

Women end up doing more of the home work anyway and now you have to adjust to another person’s preferences and whims again. What’s the point?

I think this is it for me. I make enough money to support myself, so if I ever got divorced from my husband at this stage I just can't see myself bothering to date again. I think I would have enough in my life, dating just sounds like so much drama, I just couldn't be bothered. I would rather concentrate on family, friends, travel and hobbies.

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Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.

Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.

The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.

I think for women with enough income to support themselves comfortably, they may not see value in getting married again.

Women end up doing more of the home work anyway and now you have to adjust to another person’s preferences and whims again. What’s the point?

Easily half the men can’t handle kids, a home, a schedule, eating decently without their Mom’s or a wife. Thus when they get divorced, dumped, or widowed they quickly get attached again. Problem is, they usually get dumped once the woman realize he has nothing to add to the picture and cannot be counted in to take care if anything.

+1. Same here. Guys complain women change after marriage but men do as well (and they also change back after divorce).

I'm a divorced guy. I don't need anyone to handle "kids, a home, a schedule, eating decently". Seriously, WTF is that? What guy doesn't know how to do that after he graduates from college and gets a job? I don't know any guys who have a woman doing that for them. My wife sure didn't do all that for me when I was married to her, so I'm certainly not looking for someone to replace the "caretaking" that wasn't even happening.

I'm scratching my head at this idea of a woman who marries a guy who "adds nothing to the picture" but somehow doesn't figure out that he "adds nothing to the picture" until after she's actually married him. Why was she so clueless?

When we were dating my husband cooked for me and doted on me. Whiplash at how that changed. He hasn’t made himself something more elaborate than toast in years, much less made me his signature risotto.

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Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.

Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.

The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.

I think for women with enough income to support themselves comfortably, they may not see value in getting married again.

Women end up doing more of the home work anyway and now you have to adjust to another person’s preferences and whims again. What’s the point?

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Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.

Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.

The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.

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Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.

Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.

The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.

I think for women with enough income to support themselves comfortably, they may not see value in getting married again.

Women end up doing more of the home work anyway and now you have to adjust to another person’s preferences and whims again. What’s the point?

Easily half the men can’t handle kids, a home, a schedule, eating decently without their Mom’s or a wife. Thus when they get divorced, dumped, or widowed they quickly get attached again. Problem is, they usually get dumped once the woman realize he has nothing to add to the picture and cannot be counted in to take care if anything.

I'm a divorced guy. I don't need anyone to handle "kids, a home, a schedule, eating decently". Seriously, WTF is that? What guy doesn't know how to do that after he graduates from college and gets a job? I don't know any guys who have a woman doing that for them. My wife sure didn't do all that for me when I was married to her, so I'm certainly not looking for someone to replace the "caretaking" that wasn't even happening.

I'm scratching my head at this idea of a woman who marries a guy who "adds nothing to the picture" but somehow doesn't figure out that he "adds nothing to the picture" until after she's actually married him. Why was she so clueless?

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Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.

Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.

The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.

I think for women with enough income to support themselves comfortably, they may not see value in getting married again.

Women end up doing more of the home work anyway and now you have to adjust to another person’s preferences and whims again. What’s the point?

Easily half the men can’t handle kids, a home, a schedule, eating decently without their Mom’s or a wife. Thus when they get divorced, dumped, or widowed they quickly get attached again. Problem is, they usually get dumped once the woman realize he has nothing to add to the picture and cannot be counted in to take care if anything.

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Anonymous wrote:Statistically married men live longer and healthier lives than unmarried men. Now is that because they are married or those types tend to get married and take fewer risks. Don't know.

But married women live shorter, less healthy lives than their single counterparts.

I think the title should be what do women get out of it. Men I understand. Women are less clear to me.

Anonymous wrote:35 year old woman here.
I have met a few 50 something year old men that are good looking, have nice jobs, never married and date younger girls. I think they are sad honestly. The party life is fun, but I am not sure it stays fun 40 years into it. I see these men at 50 looking really old (still good looking for their age) and creepy next to 25 year old (honestly ok looking girls) that just want to hang out with them because they pay for food and drinks.
I have to say that I have done it my self. I have hang out with much older men in my college and grad school years. It’s fun to date girls like I was (hot, young, looking to party), but these men in my experience don’t get the respect men of similar age get. I looked down on them and did not respected them, but “used” them because it was fun.
I end up marrying an older man (12 years older then me), but he was not 50...
maybe I am wrong about it all... but when you are 50-60 at a club 18+ and you need to take out your glasses to get a 19 year old phone number.... it’s just ridiculous in my opinion

Anonymous wrote:Men die younger than women. It's nice for them to have someone to arrange their memorial service.

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Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

A lie.

I dunno. Seems pretty accurate to me. It's why men rush into marriages if theirs ends, but women don't.