Anonymous
Post 10/29/2019 21:07     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
I can't believe this thread is 9 pages long. It says a lot about DCUMers. Basically, I judge you all for being such jerks.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2019 19:59     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I judge parents who take Principled Stands against harmless things...like, I will NEVER buy my child a character shirt.


I don't refuse to buy character shirts on principle. I just think character shirts are ugly so I don't buy them and my kids have never asked for them.


Same here. I do most of my shopping online. Obviously, I only buy clothes I approve of and like. Within that framework I try to pick out things my kids will like, but they always have veto power. Anything they don’t like gets returned, no questions asked.

We have zero power struggles over clothing and everyone is happy. It’s really annoying how other people assume everyone else is having stupid arguments about clothes just because they have a hard time parenting their kid. In my house it was a non-issue.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2019 19:47     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
I judge people whose kids constantly clamor for attention at school, with friends, and everywhere in public in really annoying ways (grabbing, yelling, emotional game playing, generally being annoying). It’s obvious they are not getting the right kind of attention at home. Attention comes to you when you are kind, funny, smart, participatory, etc., and if you’re a mess just begging for it, there is something misfiring.

People probably judge me for watching Big Brother with my kids every summer starting when they were young.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2019 19:37     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
I wear high heels at the park. Not at the ones with the rubbery flooring that can be damaged by heels, but just about everywhere else. And I still run and play with my kids.

I judge parents who don't teach consent and let their kids, especially boys, run around and try to hug and kiss other kids and me w/o permission.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2019 19:08     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“The lady who cooks for us”

I judge people who don’t cook for their families.


X10000
Maybe if you spent less time breastfeeding your four year old you'd have time to cook!


^^SMH at this stupid statement.

We can afford to outsource certain menial chores, so that we can have more time with our children. Its a win-win. Some person makes some money taking over menial chores from me, and in return it buys me precious time so that I can happily nurse my baby. I am able to provide my baby with the benefits of breastmilk, spend time with him, bond with him and give him the feeling of security and being loved.

"The lady who cooks for us" is better than "the fake powder that I feed my baby".
And the "lady who cleans for us" is a far better use of our money than "the lady who raises our kid".

But YMMV.


I judge you and your nasty character.


+1

I believe that PP is afflicted with the arrogance of ignorance.
Or maybe, she’s just a pretentious a$$. Either way, I’m judging the hell out of her.

Ps - I somehow managed to cook meals AND breastfeed both my kids. Imagine that!
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2019 17:53     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I judge mothers who breastfeed any child over the age of two. I breastfeed exclusively and was breastfed, so you know I am coming from a pro-nursing position. But, honestly think nursing an older child is a very specific form of sexual abuse and emotionally harmful to the child. Watching children old enough to be potty trained yell and scream at their mother to “take off your shirt” (yes, I’ve watched this happen) and the mother proceeds to nurse on demand, is painful to watch. Babies need moms and need breast milk, but if your kid can eat a sandwich, you are putting your boob in their mouth for YOU, or them.


Except that you don’t get to define what sexual abuse is. It’s not really a matter of opinion.


+ 1
I don't judge the P(pp) for having an opinion. I think it must stem from some experience and shame from her past that has colored her opinion. I feel compassion for her, because it must not be easy being her.


This is such a snooty response. I agree with the first PP.


You seem to be in denial. You probably feel guilty and judged if your did not inconvenience yourself by breastfeeding. Also, if you think this is sexual too then you are carrying over some experience and shame from your past that has colored your opinion. You should go to therapy and also try some regression therapy to determine if there was some kind of sexual abuse on your past.


Hmm, so the double mastectomy from breast cancer at age 25 means I should be riddled with guilt for the rest of my life? Or perhaps I just shouldn't have had children? Or is it ok because I couldn't breastfeed? People like you make me sick.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2019 17:52     Subject: Re:Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Based on DCUM, I am judged for feeding my kids formula, working, sending my kids to private school, going on girls' weekends, and not treating my kids like they're the center of the universe.

I judge people who let their kids watch screens when they could be talking to them (on short car rides, out at a meal, etc.), people who let their kids use pacifiers for way too long and while doing stuff (it's not really "pacifying" if your kid has it stuck in their mouth while going down the slide), lazy parents, and especially anti-vaxxers.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2019 17:44     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I judge mothers who breastfeed any child over the age of two. I breastfeed exclusively and was breastfed, so you know I am coming from a pro-nursing position. But, honestly think nursing an older child is a very specific form of sexual abuse and emotionally harmful to the child. Watching children old enough to be potty trained yell and scream at their mother to “take off your shirt” (yes, I’ve watched this happen) and the mother proceeds to nurse on demand, is painful to watch. Babies need moms and need breast milk, but if your kid can eat a sandwich, you are putting your boob in their mouth for YOU, or them.


Except that you don’t get to define what sexual abuse is. It’s not really a matter of opinion.


+ 1
I don't judge the P(pp) for having an opinion. I think it must stem from some experience and shame from her past that has colored her opinion. I feel compassion for her, because it must not be easy being her.


This is such a snooty response. I agree with the first PP.


You seem to be in denial. You probably feel guilty and judged if your did not inconvenience yourself by breastfeeding. Also, if you think this is sexual too then you are carrying over some experience and shame from your past that has colored your opinion. You should go to therapy and also try some regression therapy to determine if there was some kind of sexual abuse on your past.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2019 17:43     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“The lady who cooks for us”

I judge people who don’t cook for their families.


X10000
Maybe if you spent less time breastfeeding your four year old you'd have time to cook!


^^SMH at this stupid statement.

We can afford to outsource certain menial chores, so that we can have more time with our children. Its a win-win. Some person makes some money taking over menial chores from me, and in return it buys me precious time so that I can happily nurse my baby. I am able to provide my baby with the benefits of breastmilk, spend time with him, bond with him and give him the feeling of security and being loved.

"The lady who cooks for us" is better than "the fake powder that I feed my baby".
And the "lady who cleans for us" is a far better use of our money than "the lady who raises our kid".

But YMMV.


I judge you and your nasty character.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2019 17:37     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:I judge parents who take Principled Stands against harmless things...like, I will NEVER buy my child a character shirt.


I don't refuse to buy character shirts on principle. I just think character shirts are ugly so I don't buy them and my kids have never asked for them.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2019 17:27     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Im probably judged on offering unsolicited parenting advice when someone really just wants to vent.

I judge people who refuse to do any kind of sleep training yet constantly complain how tired they are.


That was me. But honestly, to me, your statement is like saying I judge people who complain about their toddler misbehaving when they aren’t willing to discipline by spanking. Those of us who won’t sleep train feel it would be cruel to do so. But we do get tired and we generally think other parents will sympathize. I also complain I’m tired after staying up late to watch baseball even though I don’t have to watch baseball. Judge away.



Ugh, it's 2019 - have you really not figured out that sleep training doesn't have to involve leaving kids to cry? My twins slept 12 hours at 12 weeks and never once cried or were left alone to stress out. However, I got them to that point by sleep training.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2019 17:23     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:People like you who judge others without knowing the full situation. I used to hear that from people like you directly or through the grape vine. What was going on with my child was none of your business and we were in 5 day a week therapies, I just didn't feel the need to tell you.

I can't stand parents who ignore their kids, don't parent and claim its teaching their kids independence, expect others to care for their kids (especially car pooling, paying for things, using cell phones) and parents who don't supervise their kids. And, worse, car seats.


You just described my BIL and SIL to a tee.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2019 12:39     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
I’m sure I get judged for letting my 11yo dye her hair bright red.

I really only judge judge anti-vaxers and people who let heir kids ride bikes, skate or ski/snowboard without helmets.

I side eye amber teething bead people and people who feed their under 5yo soda.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2019 12:27     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
I get judged for not enforcing an early bedtime for our 4 YO (Bedtime is 8:30-9). Also we cosleep if our child needs a little extra comfort.

I judge parents of young kids that don't take a breath and realize that these ARE the good ol' days.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2019 11:04     Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
People probably judge me for giving in easily to food requests - ice cream at the park, candy at the store - my kids are super active and generally well-behaved, and share easily if others ask for some etc. It's just not really a thing to them so they'll never be that kid eating 50 pieces of Halloween candy or 3 pieces of birthday cake.

I judge extended breastfeeding, women who claim it's best for the KIDS if the mom doesn't work, and no-screen people.