Anonymous
10/07/2019 19:45
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your body, your choice.
I’d probably try in your shoes just to know what it’s actually like vs what I think it’s going to be like. Hormonal breast tenderness (like what I get during my period) is a much different feeling than breastfeeding.
But regardless, just not wanting to is a good enough reason not to do it. Your DH needs to back you on this because it sounds like this could just be beginning of unsolicited parenting advice from his relatives. He needs to shut it down now.
Stop telling her to try. What? Is her baby going to die if she doesn't try!!! SHE. DOES. NOT. WANT. TO NURSE.!!!??
How does she know she doesn't want to nurse if she has never even tried it?!? She will not even try? Not once?
OP here. I know. I live in pain everyday with extremely sore breasts and painful nipples if something is brushed up against it. I know breastfeeding will exacerbate the situation. I know breastfeeding isn't the only way to bond with a child. Formula is my choice.
Thank you all for the supportive replies! I haven't told anyone - it's my husband who has told his family. My family is supportive. I know not to stock up on formula, but my mom bought us the Enfamil NeuroPro Rtf. I will have a serious talk with my husband and tell him how upset his is making me that he isn't supportive of my choice. He needs to get on board, because I'm not breastfeeding.
Ok. You do you. But you obviously are not confident in your decision or you wouldn't have come here to post. You would have just carried on with your great decision.
You clearly can't read. OP said she is here to vent her frustrations about her husband not being on board. She seems confident in formula feeding. Why are you so upset that a woman doesn't want to breastfeed? I hate women like you who think they are better because they feel they have some " magical" breasts that feed your child. Go somewhere with the nonsense.
OP is in good shape. Let’s all let it go now?
Anonymous
10/07/2019 19:27
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, spend some time on this website :
https://www.skepticalob.com/
Do whatever works for you. It’s too bad that you haven’t even given birth yet and you’re already battling the Breastfeeding Police (and I breastfed).
The author of that site has a medical degree from 1984 and by her own admission left medicine 25 years ago to raise her kids. So her experience is hardly current.
If you read her site, she is up to date on the literature and most certainly can read and interpret data. Better than those peddling “breast is best”, that’s for sure.
Anonymous
10/07/2019 19:24
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your body, your choice.
I’d probably try in your shoes just to know what it’s actually like vs what I think it’s going to be like. Hormonal breast tenderness (like what I get during my period) is a much different feeling than breastfeeding.
But regardless, just not wanting to is a good enough reason not to do it. Your DH needs to back you on this because it sounds like this could just be beginning of unsolicited parenting advice from his relatives. He needs to shut it down now.
Stop telling her to try. What? Is her baby going to die if she doesn't try!!! SHE. DOES. NOT. WANT. TO NURSE.!!!??
How does she know she doesn't want to nurse if she has never even tried it?!? She will not even try? Not once?
OP here. I know. I live in pain everyday with extremely sore breasts and painful nipples if something is brushed up against it. I know breastfeeding will exacerbate the situation. I know breastfeeding isn't the only way to bond with a child. Formula is my choice.
Thank you all for the supportive replies! I haven't told anyone - it's my husband who has told his family. My family is supportive. I know not to stock up on formula, but my mom bought us the Enfamil NeuroPro Rtf. I will have a serious talk with my husband and tell him how upset his is making me that he isn't supportive of my choice. He needs to get on board, because I'm not breastfeeding.
Ok. You do you. But you obviously are not confident in your decision or you wouldn't have come here to post. You would have just carried on with your great decision.
You clearly can't read. OP said she is here to vent her frustrations about her husband not being on board. She seems confident in formula feeding. Why are you so upset that a woman doesn't want to breastfeed? I hate women like you who think they are better because they feel they have some " magical" breasts that feed your child. Go somewhere with the nonsense.
Anonymous
10/07/2019 19:20
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your body, your choice.
I’d probably try in your shoes just to know what it’s actually like vs what I think it’s going to be like. Hormonal breast tenderness (like what I get during my period) is a much different feeling than breastfeeding.
But regardless, just not wanting to is a good enough reason not to do it. Your DH needs to back you on this because it sounds like this could just be beginning of unsolicited parenting advice from his relatives. He needs to shut it down now.
Stop telling her to try. What? Is her baby going to die if she doesn't try!!! SHE. DOES. NOT. WANT. TO NURSE.!!!??
How does she know she doesn't want to nurse if she has never even tried it?!? She will not even try? Not once?
OP here. I know. I live in pain everyday with extremely sore breasts and painful nipples if something is brushed up against it. I know breastfeeding will exacerbate the situation. I know breastfeeding isn't the only way to bond with a child. Formula is my choice.
Thank you all for the supportive replies! I haven't told anyone - it's my husband who has told his family. My family is supportive. I know not to stock up on formula, but my mom bought us the Enfamil NeuroPro Rtf. I will have a serious talk with my husband and tell him how upset his is making me that he isn't supportive of my choice. He needs to get on board, because I'm not breastfeeding.
Ok. You do you. But you obviously are not confident in your decision or you wouldn't have come here to post. You would have just carried on with your great decision.
Did you read her opening post? She posted here to complain about/get support for dealing with her husband and his family. She was very clear about her decision to formula feed.
Anonymous
10/07/2019 18:11
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:I breastfed my first until 18 months and my second is 27 months and still nursing. It sounds like you just really don’t want to for a lot of reasons, so don’t. Don’t ever try. Start with formula. Tell your husband that this isn’t a situation where his opinion carries equal weight to yours and that his relatives have even less influence. If you go into it saying you’ll try, I foresee a time around Christmas when you are at the end of your rope and spend the holidays getting crap and suggestions from extended family. If you are formula feeding from the start, there will be zero ambiguity.
If it sounded at all like you needed a pep talk to try nursing, I’d be first in line, but it doesn’t sound like that. It looks like you’re seeking permission not to. Permission granted.
+1
I am a breastfeeding advocate and I breastfed both my kids for 3 years each. I With my firstborn I was a SAHM and the second I was a WOHM with a daycare in the place I worked. I pumped some but it was easier when I was a SAHM at home. A lot of things have to align to actually be able to breastfeed without it being a big bother and with me these things aligned. A big part of my breastfeeding success was my own desire to breastfeed. You don't have this desire so please don't feel guilty or don't feel as if you are not a good mom etc. You are a good mom, regardless of if you FF or BF. If you want to read about the advantages of breastfeeding etc, you can read on your own. If you want to try it, then try it. But, if your heart is not in it, then don't do it because someone else thinks that you should.
Anonymous
10/07/2019 17:27
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your body, your choice.
I’d probably try in your shoes just to know what it’s actually like vs what I think it’s going to be like. Hormonal breast tenderness (like what I get during my period) is a much different feeling than breastfeeding.
But regardless, just not wanting to is a good enough reason not to do it. Your DH needs to back you on this because it sounds like this could just be beginning of unsolicited parenting advice from his relatives. He needs to shut it down now.
Stop telling her to try. What? Is her baby going to die if she doesn't try!!! SHE. DOES. NOT. WANT. TO NURSE.!!!??
How does she know she doesn't want to nurse if she has never even tried it?!? She will not even try? Not once?
OP here. I know. I live in pain everyday with extremely sore breasts and painful nipples if something is brushed up against it. I know breastfeeding will exacerbate the situation. I know breastfeeding isn't the only way to bond with a child. Formula is my choice.
Thank you all for the supportive replies! I haven't told anyone - it's my husband who has told his family. My family is supportive. I know not to stock up on formula, but my mom bought us the Enfamil NeuroPro Rtf. I will have a serious talk with my husband and tell him how upset his is making me that he isn't supportive of my choice. He needs to get on board, because I'm not breastfeeding.
Ok. You do you. But you obviously are not confident in your decision or you wouldn't have come here to post. You would have just carried on with your great decision.
Anonymous
10/07/2019 16:36
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Like the post above FED IS BEST. Ignore all other suggestions and do you. I didn’t breast feed six kids all graduated college and most graduate school. Were hardly sick as kids ( we were lucky there) still not breast feeding had zero consequences to how healthy and intelligent long term.. Do you!
Anonymous
10/07/2019 16:35
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
OP, your decision seems very sound. The PPs who are telling you to "at least try" are real assholes--it is obvious that given your medical condition breastfeeding is not going to work for you.
I hope your husband stops being such an ass and supports you. Best of luck.
I hope your husband stops being such an ass and supports you. Best of luck.
Anonymous
10/07/2019 16:32
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:1. Formula is not as good as breastmilk.
2. Moot point because it’s your choice.
3. Keep an open mind but say whatever you need to keep everyone off your back.
Breastmilk benefits are way overstated. They are only minimal and reap no longterm benefits.
Man, the insecurity is real.
No insecurity for me. I think you're insecure that you got wrapped up in this " magical" illusion that breastmilk is somehow superior than formula. I've cared of numerous infants that were both breastfed and formula fed. Surprisingly, many of the breastfed kids were always sick, and had delay issues. I know that isn't the case with every breastfed baby though. The formula feds I cared for tended to get sick less often. I worked with two families where the EBF kids were much sicker than the formula fed kids. I've also worked with kids who couldn't gain weight on breastmilk, and had to have formula.
Studies have shown the benefits are overblown. There are no long term benefits. You can't tell which kid was breastfed or formula fed when they're in preschool. If you want to breastfeed, that is fine, but formula is an adequate alternative.
+!. The breastfeeders sound insecure that their precious little being is not anymore healthy or intelligent that formula fed babies.
Anonymous
10/07/2019 16:30
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like the type who wants an elective Cesarean too.
OP here. I'm medical professional and will be having a vaginal birth if all goes as planned. I did consult both my OBGYN and my endocrinologist, and they both agreed that breastfeeding will make my issue worse. They are on board for formula feeding. I really don't care what outsiders says. Feeding is such a personal decision, and who it it okay for strangers to feel as if they have that right to make that decision? It's like circumcision - totally up to the parents and that's it.
I've done research and breastmilk is really not that superior. Plenty of breastfed kids get sick, are obese, are not very smart, and delayed, and have issues. Formula fed kids can still be healthy, smart, and hitting all their milestones on time.
Anonymous
10/07/2019 16:24
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your body, your choice.
I’d probably try in your shoes just to know what it’s actually like vs what I think it’s going to be like. Hormonal breast tenderness (like what I get during my period) is a much different feeling than breastfeeding.
But regardless, just not wanting to is a good enough reason not to do it. Your DH needs to back you on this because it sounds like this could just be beginning of unsolicited parenting advice from his relatives. He needs to shut it down now.
Stop telling her to try. What? Is her baby going to die if she doesn't try!!! SHE. DOES. NOT. WANT. TO NURSE.!!!??
How does she know she doesn't want to nurse if she has never even tried it?!? She will not even try? Not once?
OP here. I know. I live in pain everyday with extremely sore breasts and painful nipples if something is brushed up against it. I know breastfeeding will exacerbate the situation. I know breastfeeding isn't the only way to bond with a child. Formula is my choice.
Thank you all for the supportive replies! I haven't told anyone - it's my husband who has told his family. My family is supportive. I know not to stock up on formula, but my mom bought us the Enfamil NeuroPro Rtf. I will have a serious talk with my husband and tell him how upset his is making me that he isn't supportive of my choice. He needs to get on board, because I'm not breastfeeding.
Good luck OP! I am so sorry you are in pain. You don't have to breastfeed even for a single second to be a good mother to a happy healthy child. Your baby will be just fine. You will bond and love one another.
Anonymous
10/07/2019 16:20
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your body, your choice.
I’d probably try in your shoes just to know what it’s actually like vs what I think it’s going to be like. Hormonal breast tenderness (like what I get during my period) is a much different feeling than breastfeeding.
But regardless, just not wanting to is a good enough reason not to do it. Your DH needs to back you on this because it sounds like this could just be beginning of unsolicited parenting advice from his relatives. He needs to shut it down now.
Stop telling her to try. What? Is her baby going to die if she doesn't try!!! SHE. DOES. NOT. WANT. TO NURSE.!!!??
How does she know she doesn't want to nurse if she has never even tried it?!? She will not even try? Not once?
OP here. I know. I live in pain everyday with extremely sore breasts and painful nipples if something is brushed up against it. I know breastfeeding will exacerbate the situation. I know breastfeeding isn't the only way to bond with a child. Formula is my choice.
Thank you all for the supportive replies! I haven't told anyone - it's my husband who has told his family. My family is supportive. I know not to stock up on formula, but my mom bought us the Enfamil NeuroPro Rtf. I will have a serious talk with my husband and tell him how upset his is making me that he isn't supportive of my choice. He needs to get on board, because I'm not breastfeeding.
Anonymous
10/07/2019 16:17
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like the type whose doctor may recommend a scheduled Cesarean too as she may have a medical condition that would make this advisable.
There we go. Makes far more sense now.
Anonymous
10/07/2019 16:16
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like the type who wants an elective Cesarean too.
... and why is that bad? I know a few people who had them. They're great mothers.
Anonymous
10/07/2019 16:14
Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Citing data for or against breast-feeding is really shitty support. Stop. Everyone.