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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

Different man here, never in my life have I heard a man say this. If someone said this to me I would assume he was being sarcastic, unless he told me his wife has his password so please send it to me in my burner email.

Op, just confront him. You will be able to tell by his reaction. Worst case scenario it's his boss and perhaps you can nip this in the bud before it becomes physical.

Agree with others, it's the potential cheating that's the issue, not him looking at naked women

Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH is outraged I thought it was his boss. He says that is gross and disgusting. He says he may have accidentally downloaded amateur porno photos.

Can this make sense?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do think it is his boss, the photo just seemed so familiar. They both work for a liberal think-tank in DC, and they do travel together and work late. DH has been upset lately due to all the Trump $#it in the news, and he knows my lobbying job is to enforce some of the Admin's environmental policies - and that has caused some stress in our relationship.

What's that got to do with you slacking on arousing and enticing and exciting him?
If you don't want him daydreaming looking at pics of other women gotta have his mind preoccupied with thoughts of you.

Bull$h!t.

Anonymous wrote:you ALL are the ones gaslit in fact. This whole thing has been a made-up drama

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do think it is his boss, the photo just seemed so familiar. They both work for a liberal think-tank in DC, and they do travel together and work late. DH has been upset lately due to all the Trump $#it in the news, and he knows my lobbying job is to enforce some of the Admin's environmental policies - and that has caused some stress in our relationship.

What's that got to do with you slacking on arousing and enticing and exciting him?
If you don't want him daydreaming looking at pics of other women gotta have his mind preoccupied with thoughts of you.

Anonymous wrote:you ALL are the ones gaslit in fact. This whole thing has been a made-up drama

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Anonymous wrote:Send the pics to yourself so you have evidence before he deletes them. Don’t confront until you have more evidence, because if he’s cheating he will lie and minimize to protect himself. Check your cell phone records. Are there a lot of calls and texts to one number? Can you access his email? Does his phone have a password? Does he keep it with him all the time? Any messaging apps like WhatsApp or Kik? Is he deleting any text threads? You can find a lot of information about what to look for on talkaboutmarriage, chumplady or survivinginfidelity. Maybe he’s not cheating, but the pictures could mean otherwise.

Definitely this because he will surely deny it.

As a man, I can say the idea that men trade naked pictures of women is ridiculous. I have never once done that with anyone.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH is outraged I thought it was his boss. He says that is gross and disgusting. He says he may have accidentally downloaded amateur porno photos.

Can this make sense?

Anonymous wrote:I do think it is his boss, the photo just seemed so familiar. They both work for a liberal think-tank in DC, and they do travel together and work late. DH has been upset lately due to all the Trump $#it in the news, and he knows my lobbying job is to enforce some of the Admin's environmental policies - and that has caused some stress in our relationship.