Anonymous wrote:What’s funny is that the one angry poster saying we are all selfish for not attending these kid free weddings and dumping our kids on grandparents or sitters so that we can be there for these friends- is the one saying she hasn’t been invited to any weddings since her toddler was born. And half of her posts are like “don’t you want to keep your friends??? How could you do this thing to your friends by not attending???” 1) clearly I have more friends than her if I’m acrually in a situation to be turning down these invites whereas she has no invites for years, haha, and also 2) you have never been in the situation of needing to decide if you’re going to attend 4 kid free weddings this summer, burning your entire vacation budget and missing out on FOUR summer weekends with your kids when you already work all week... you have no idea how you’d respond in that scenario since apparently you aren’t ever facing this dilemma. So I’m not sure why you are posting up and down this thread since its not something that’s ever affected you
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think that kids who are relatives of the bride and groom should be invited to the wedding ceremony because it is an important family event. Regarding the reception, that is less important but I would still prefer that kids can go.
We do not attend any weddings of relatives that do not include the children of all the relatives hecause that kind of wedding says possibly more about the bride and groom than about the potential guests.
And I am so happy you will not attend, because you were only invited for family reasons.
Then what's the problem exactly? I thought most of us were in agreement that if you decline a wedding that's inconvenient because your kids can't come with you, the bride/groom should accept that happily since they know not including kids makes attendance tough for parents of young children.
Anonymous wrote:What’s funny is that the one angry poster saying we are all selfish for not attending these kid free weddings and dumping our kids on grandparents or sitters so that we can be there for these friends- is the one saying she hasn’t been invited to any weddings since her toddler was born. And half of her posts are like “don’t you want to keep your friends??? How could you do this thing to your friends by not attending???” 1) clearly I have more friends than her if I’m acrually in a situation to be turning down these invites whereas she has no invites for years, haha, and also 2) you have never been in the situation of needing to decide if you’re going to attend 4 kid free weddings this summer, burning your entire vacation budget and missing out on FOUR summer weekends with your kids when you already work all week... you have no idea how you’d respond in that scenario since apparently you aren’t ever facing this dilemma. So I’m not sure why you are posting up and down this thread since its not something that’s ever affected you
Anonymous wrote:This has never been an issue in my friend group. I think I have attended maybe 5 weddings with kids of about 40-50 total. Most (fun) weddings are not really kid appropriate (drunk people, late past midnight, bawdy humor, long afterparties, far too elegant and refined, etc.) Nobody needs a throng of kids running through the Four Seasons or being tripped over by tipsy attendees.
Polite hosts often will offer limited babysitting for the kids, a couple gets parents or family friends to take care of kids over the weekend, or only one parent travels. People would kind of understand if a couple with kids doesn't make it because of kids but also not really? Since most of the attendees (at least in your 30s) have kids and 80% of them are able to make it, one or both. They generally show up ready to party (potentially solo) usually 10x harder than those without kids.
As one example, as the MOH in my sister's wedding, if she had invited kids it would have been 150 adults and about 50 kids. That's not a wedding, that's a daycare. Weddings are meant to be a fun time for adults. I didn't attend a single wedding until I was 25 years old.
I'm also from NYC like a PP if that has anything to do with it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This has never been an issue in my friend group. I think I have attended maybe 5 weddings with kids of about 40-50 total. Most (fun) weddings are not really kid appropriate (drunk people, late past midnight, bawdy humor, long afterparties, far too elegant and refined, etc.) Nobody needs a throng of kids running through the Four Seasons or being tripped over by tipsy attendees.
Polite hosts often will offer limited babysitting for the kids, a couple gets parents or family friends to take care of kids over the weekend, or only one parent travels. People would kind of understand if a couple with kids doesn't make it because of kids but also not really? Since most of the attendees (at least in your 30s) have kids and 80% of them are able to make it, one or both. They generally show up ready to party (potentially solo) usually 10x harder than those without kids.
As one example, as the MOH in my sister's wedding, if she had invited kids it would have been 150 adults and about 50 kids. That's not a wedding, that's a daycare. Weddings are meant to be a fun time for adults. I didn't attend a single wedding until I was 25 years old.
I'm also from NYC like a PP if that has anything to do with it.
Actually, weddings are MEANT to be a celebration of the union of two people, and by extension, their families. But whatever. The point is people can have whatever type of wedding celebration they want, and people can choose to attend or not based on whatever factors they want, too. And- at least in my circle- everyone is reasonable about it and no one begrudges anyone for what they choose to do on either end.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think that kids who are relatives of the bride and groom should be invited to the wedding ceremony because it is an important family event. Regarding the reception, that is less important but I would still prefer that kids can go.
We do not attend any weddings of relatives that do not include the children of all the relatives hecause that kind of wedding says possibly more about the bride and groom than about the potential guests.
And I am so happy you will not attend, because you were only invited for family reasons.
Then what's the problem exactly? I thought most of us were in agreement that if you decline a wedding that's inconvenient because your kids can't come with you, the bride/groom should accept that happily since they know not including kids makes attendance tough for parents of young children.
Anonymous wrote:This has never been an issue in my friend group. I think I have attended maybe 5 weddings with kids of about 40-50 total. Most (fun) weddings are not really kid appropriate (drunk people, late past midnight, bawdy humor, long afterparties, far too elegant and refined, etc.) Nobody needs a throng of kids running through the Four Seasons or being tripped over by tipsy attendees.
Polite hosts often will offer limited babysitting for the kids, a couple gets parents or family friends to take care of kids over the weekend, or only one parent travels. People would kind of understand if a couple with kids doesn't make it because of kids but also not really? Since most of the attendees (at least in your 30s) have kids and 80% of them are able to make it, one or both. They generally show up ready to party (potentially solo) usually 10x harder than those without kids.
As one example, as the MOH in my sister's wedding, if she had invited kids it would have been 150 adults and about 50 kids. That's not a wedding, that's a daycare. Weddings are meant to be a fun time for adults. I didn't attend a single wedding until I was 25 years old.
I'm also from NYC like a PP if that has anything to do with it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think that kids who are relatives of the bride and groom should be invited to the wedding ceremony because it is an important family event. Regarding the reception, that is less important but I would still prefer that kids can go.
We do not attend any weddings of relatives that do not include the children of all the relatives hecause that kind of wedding says possibly more about the bride and groom than about the potential guests.
And I am so happy you will not attend, because you were only invited for family reasons.