Anonymous wrote:OP, not sure if you are still reading, but I am truly sorry for what you're going through. That sounds very, very frustrating and I can see why you got so upset.

I have also been on a poor (my paychecks literally only covered my bills with nothing left over for food or anything), and I am thirding or whatever the suggestions to shop at Aldi. If you go to an Aldi in a decent area, it is just as nice as other grocery stores, and caries organic and gluten free stuff, as well as rotating/seasonal items (beach towels, veggie spiralizer, etc). The food is very nice quality.

You can also sign up to get a weekly box from Hungry Harvest. They do reclaimed produce, so stuff that is still perfectly good to eat but grew too big/too small, farmer grew too much etc. They are working to eliminate food waste. You can get a box of fruits and veggies for $15 each week.

Here is a cookbook put out by a food scientist on how to eat well on a food stamp budget: https://www.npr.org/sections/thesalt/2014/08/01/337141837/cheap-eats-cookbook-shows-how-to-eat-well-on-a-food-stamp-budget

Also, although people are mocking the weird ass job suggestion, it's not a bad idea when an extra $20 can be the difference between being able to afford food or medicine or not. There are things you can do from home like online writing or transcription that don't pay a lot but can be just enough to make a difference.

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Then I have no idea what your response was supposed to mean. Pp was pointing out the double standard that goes on here, that if OP were a typical privileged person posted about how her kid had ruined the hummus she’d planned to eat after a hard workout, people would have just sympathized. You get the same complaint from someone whose context is that she doesn’t have the money for more hummus, which should be a more sympathetic story, and people judge the hell out of her for it.

You know we wouldn't have sympathized -- we would have told her that hummus is 400 calories a cup and not the thing to be eating after a workout!

LOL, so true. Nobody is immune from judgement here. I do think for the most part people were sympathetic to the OP except for a few bad eggs. Even the people posting recipes for vats of hummus were trying to be sympathetic in their own way.

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Then I have no idea what your response was supposed to mean. Pp was pointing out the double standard that goes on here, that if OP were a typical privileged person posted about how her kid had ruined the hummus she’d planned to eat after a hard workout, people would have just sympathized. You get the same complaint from someone whose context is that she doesn’t have the money for more hummus, which should be a more sympathetic story, and people judge the hell out of her for it.

You know we wouldn't have sympathized -- we would have told her that hummus is 400 calories a cup and not the thing to be eating after a workout!

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Then I have no idea what your response was supposed to mean. Pp was pointing out the double standard that goes on here, that if OP were a typical privileged person posted about how her kid had ruined the hummus she’d planned to eat after a hard workout, people would have just sympathized. You get the same complaint from someone whose context is that she doesn’t have the money for more hummus, which should be a more sympathetic story, and people judge the hell out of her for it.

You know we wouldn't have sympathized -- we would have told her that hummus is 400 calories a cup and not the thing to be eating after a workout!

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Then I have no idea what your response was supposed to mean. Pp was pointing out the double standard that goes on here, that if OP were a typical privileged person posted about how her kid had ruined the hummus she’d planned to eat after a hard workout, people would have just sympathized. You get the same complaint from someone whose context is that she doesn’t have the money for more hummus, which should be a more sympathetic story, and people judge the hell out of her for it.

You know we wouldn't have sympathized -- we would have told her that hummus is 400 calories a cup and not the thing to be eating after a workout!

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Then I have no idea what your response was supposed to mean. Pp was pointing out the double standard that goes on here, that if OP were a typical privileged person posted about how her kid had ruined the hummus she’d planned to eat after a hard workout, people would have just sympathized. You get the same complaint from someone whose context is that she doesn’t have the money for more hummus, which should be a more sympathetic story, and people judge the hell out of her for it.

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes no matter how poor you are, you just want a moment to feel human, to feel like you are the same as everyone else. Sometimes it's a tub of hummus that gives you that and when someone or something takes it away, that hurts. You don't want tips on living without, you don't want people to tell you to go make some more hummus, and you don't want a link to a community yoga class and you don't want weird ass job suggestions. You just want to be human again.

Don't know about you, but I consider working a job, no matter what it is, part of being human. At least for me in this lifetime.

What makes you think that the OP isn't working? What makes anyone think she doesn't already know just as well as everyone else how to manage. Its really condescending when you jump in with, well just do this and this. All fixed. She had a shitty day, its probably a lot less important today, but it was shitty enough for her to write it out. A little empathy goes a long way toward fixing that humanity problem.

+1. It’s just a way of kicking someone while they’re down while telling yourself you’re a better person for it. Gross.

Yes to all of this. Let the woman complain about her hummus. Some of you would have been nicer if she had said she came from a hard workout hoping to eat hummus and her daughter messed it up. But because she mentioned money, you have to be a snot about it.

"a hard workout" hoping to eat hummus? Wow, what a privileged poor person.

I think you misread pp’s post.

No, I did not.

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes no matter how poor you are, you just want a moment to feel human, to feel like you are the same as everyone else. Sometimes it's a tub of hummus that gives you that and when someone or something takes it away, that hurts. You don't want tips on living without, you don't want people to tell you to go make some more hummus, and you don't want a link to a community yoga class and you don't want weird ass job suggestions. You just want to be human again.

Don't know about you, but I consider working a job, no matter what it is, part of being human. At least for me in this lifetime.

What makes you think that the OP isn't working? What makes anyone think she doesn't already know just as well as everyone else how to manage. Its really condescending when you jump in with, well just do this and this. All fixed. She had a shitty day, its probably a lot less important today, but it was shitty enough for her to write it out. A little empathy goes a long way toward fixing that humanity problem.

+1. It’s just a way of kicking someone while they’re down while telling yourself you’re a better person for it. Gross.

Yes to all of this. Let the woman complain about her hummus. Some of you would have been nicer if she had said she came from a hard workout hoping to eat hummus and her daughter messed it up. But because she mentioned money, you have to be a snot about it.

"a hard workout" hoping to eat hummus? Wow, what a privileged poor person.

I think you misread pp’s post.

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes no matter how poor you are, you just want a moment to feel human, to feel like you are the same as everyone else. Sometimes it's a tub of hummus that gives you that and when someone or something takes it away, that hurts. You don't want tips on living without, you don't want people to tell you to go make some more hummus, and you don't want a link to a community yoga class and you don't want weird ass job suggestions. You just want to be human again.

Don't know about you, but I consider working a job, no matter what it is, part of being human. At least for me in this lifetime.

What makes you think that the OP isn't working? What makes anyone think she doesn't already know just as well as everyone else how to manage. Its really condescending when you jump in with, well just do this and this. All fixed. She had a shitty day, its probably a lot less important today, but it was shitty enough for her to write it out. A little empathy goes a long way toward fixing that humanity problem.

+1. It’s just a way of kicking someone while they’re down while telling yourself you’re a better person for it. Gross.

Yes to all of this. Let the woman complain about her hummus. Some of you would have been nicer if she had said she came from a hard workout hoping to eat hummus and her daughter messed it up. But because she mentioned money, you have to be a snot about it.

"a hard workout" hoping to eat hummus? Wow, what a privileged poor person.

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Note these are all for 13 and up, so OP can’t take her daughter like you suggested. Another tone deaf richbitch.

Salty much? She can take her kid especially too Watkins where there is a great playground. And thanks for the listings!

Anonymous wrote:And I flipped out. Ex and I are divorcing and I can't afford to buy new clothes or shoes for myself. I ripped my last pair of jeans a few days ago. I spent a little more at the grocery store tobuy myself some adult snacks. Hummus is fricking expensive. And DD ate my cheeseburger at dinner (her first ever) and her whole hotdog at dinner. She was still hungry after, so I let her pick the hummus. And a few minutes later, there are three dirty MLP figures deeply embedded in the hummus. I freaked and said that was unacceptable. I am in tears, because I can't afford all this food. My feet are in so much pain, because I need shoes.

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes no matter how poor you are, you just want a moment to feel human, to feel like you are the same as everyone else. Sometimes it's a tub of hummus that gives you that and when someone or something takes it away, that hurts. You don't want tips on living without, you don't want people to tell you to go make some more hummus, and you don't want a link to a community yoga class and you don't want weird ass job suggestions. You just want to be human again.

And to this, I’m gouging to say - there is nothing that is making OP feel less human other than her own perceptions.

I think a lot of the PPs have actually “been there”. You find the luxuries where you find them, and that’s a choice. If you’re going to call it this way, let’s call it like OP had the money to afford packaged hummus, and her daughter has multiple MLPs to stick in that hummus. That’s more than many people. It doesn’t mean it doesn’t feel like it sucks, but I think the people are trying to help. There are truly ways to save money / live on the cheap that allow you to feel rich, if you choose to.

I’ve used a food bank. It didn’t feel awesome. But, I also made an effort to make good meals from the hodgepodge of stuff I got. I could have easily just eaten the stuff straight of the can and felt bad about my life. Instead, I explored the cuisines Of other ethnicities and broadened my horizons. In doing so, I relied less on the food bank, because I was able to buy more and different foods quite inexpensively. It helped by confidence, and I eventually taught cooking on a budget as a community outreach member.

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes no matter how poor you are, you just want a moment to feel human, to feel like you are the same as everyone else. Sometimes it's a tub of hummus that gives you that and when someone or something takes it away, that hurts. You don't want tips on living without, you don't want people to tell you to go make some more hummus, and you don't want a link to a community yoga class and you don't want weird ass job suggestions. You just want to be human again.

Don't know about you, but I consider working a job, no matter what it is, part of being human. At least for me in this lifetime.

What makes you think that the OP isn't working? What makes anyone think she doesn't already know just as well as everyone else how to manage. Its really condescending when you jump in with, well just do this and this. All fixed. She had a shitty day, its probably a lot less important today, but it was shitty enough for her to write it out. A little empathy goes a long way toward fixing that humanity problem.

+1. It’s just a way of kicking someone while they’re down while telling yourself you’re a better person for it. Gross.

Yes to all of this. Let the woman complain about her hummus. Some of you would have been nicer if she had said she came from a hard workout hoping to eat hummus and her daughter messed it up. But because she mentioned money, you have to be a snot about it.