Anonymous
Post 03/09/2018 20:10     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
I would accidentally donate the chair to salvation army, and when MIL mentions it, go 'oops!'
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2018 14:09     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you ever called MIL on it? What does she say?


OP here. She pretends that she forgot and then says, " it's just so much prettier... [her way]. When DH told her that DD's name was spelled wrong on the chair, she smiled and said, " oops!"


Paint the correct spelling over the incorrect one. Your MIL is obnoxious.

Leave it at Grandma's house.
Your MIL sounds like an ass.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2018 13:03     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:This is to my MIL... who never liked DD's nickname and always spells it some cutesy way ending in an "i". This morning she brought over a reading chair with DD's name spelled incorrectly. DD is 2.5 and beginning to read a few sight words including her name.

It just bugs me. It is like we call her Susie and MIL insists it be spelled Suzi.


This has happened to us. Then DD picked her own nickname! problem solved, we are all wrong.
Anonymous
Post 03/08/2018 22:14     Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
My grandmother did this when I was a kid, too. Honestly, I think she just couldn’t remember how to spell it (I have an unusual name) but it made me feel bad. She got all the other grandkids’ names right. As an adult, I don’t really care anymore, but I sure did as a kid. I’m with OP on this one.
Anonymous
Post 03/08/2018 15:28     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this wouldn't annoy some people. I consider myself to be pretty laid-back and not much upsets me, but this really would bother me. It's so disrespectful and rude.

I would absolutely either get a new cover for the chair or get rid of it altogether, and I'd tell MIL why if/when she asked.


I agree! It is crazy really that some people think it is okay for the grandmother to give the child a nickname different than what the parents call her (other than an endearment like “lovebug” or something to that affect ). My father frequently tries to create a nickname for my son (picture my son being named Michael which is what everyone calls him, and grandpa calls him Mikey). THat bugs me and this would, too. I’d tell MIL to return the chair.

Nicknames like that ARE endearments. Mikey for Michael is NORMAL. I just think it's bonkers how controlling people are about their child's nickname. As long as it's not demeaning or offensive, who cares? Does it hurt you or your son for Grandpa to call him Mikey? Grandpa isn't buying him customized furniture with Mikey on it, he's using an affectionate nickname for a child.
Anonymous
Post 03/08/2018 13:06     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this wouldn't annoy some people. I consider myself to be pretty laid-back and not much upsets me, but this really would bother me. It's so disrespectful and rude.

I would absolutely either get a new cover for the chair or get rid of it altogether, and I'd tell MIL why if/when she asked.


I agree! It is crazy really that some people think it is okay for the grandmother to give the child a nickname different than what the parents call her (other than an endearment like “lovebug” or something to that affect ). My father frequently tries to create a nickname for my son (picture my son being named Michael which is what everyone calls him, and grandpa calls him Mikey). THat bugs me and this would, too. I’d tell MIL to return the chair.


You're nuts. You can't dictate that no other family members have an affectionate nickname for your kid. This is some petty dictatorship BS.


+1 And in this case, it's not even a different nickname, it's a different spelling of a nickname for labeled items for the child. It's not like you're confusing Susie by calling her Sally. Susie and Suzi are pronounced the same way. Count yourself lucky if this is your biggest problem with your MIL.
Anonymous
Post 03/08/2018 12:47     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this wouldn't annoy some people. I consider myself to be pretty laid-back and not much upsets me, but this really would bother me. It's so disrespectful and rude.

I would absolutely either get a new cover for the chair or get rid of it altogether, and I'd tell MIL why if/when she asked.


I agree! It is crazy really that some people think it is okay for the grandmother to give the child a nickname different than what the parents call her (other than an endearment like “lovebug” or something to that affect ). My father frequently tries to create a nickname for my son (picture my son being named Michael which is what everyone calls him, and grandpa calls him Mikey). THat bugs me and this would, too. I’d tell MIL to return the chair.


You're nuts. You can't dictate that no other family members have an affectionate nickname for your kid. This is some petty dictatorship BS.
Anonymous
Post 03/08/2018 12:42     Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Get rid of the chair and tell MIL that you are trying to protect DC from the fact that "Grandma has started having a hard time remembering things" and you don't want DC to think she is someone Grandma can't recall clearly. Reassure MIL that you will teach DC to be compassionate lol
Anonymous
Post 03/08/2018 11:19     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you ever called MIL on it? What does she say?


OP here. She pretends that she forgot and then says, " it's just so much prettier... [her way]. When DH told her that DD's name was spelled wrong on the chair, she smiled and said, " oops!"


Paint the correct spelling over the incorrect one. Your MIL is obnoxious.
Anonymous
Post 03/08/2018 00:27     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this wouldn't annoy some people. I consider myself to be pretty laid-back and not much upsets me, but this really would bother me. It's so disrespectful and rude.

I would absolutely either get a new cover for the chair or get rid of it altogether, and I'd tell MIL why if/when she asked.


I agree! It is crazy really that some people think it is okay for the grandmother to give the child a nickname different than what the parents call her (other than an endearment like “lovebug” or something to that affect ). My father frequently tries to create a nickname for my son (picture my son being named Michael which is what everyone calls him, and grandpa calls him Mikey). THat bugs me and this would, too. I’d tell MIL to return the chair.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2018 23:07     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
I can't believe this wouldn't annoy some people. I consider myself to be pretty laid-back and not much upsets me, but this really would bother me. It's so disrespectful and rude.

I would absolutely either get a new cover for the chair or get rid of it altogether, and I'd tell MIL why if/when she asked.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2018 21:54     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.


Tillie is really cute!


So is Daisy, but neither one is PP’s daughter’s name.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2018 21:47     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you ever called MIL on it? What does she say?


OP here. She pretends that she forgot and then says, " it's just so much prettier... [her way]. When DH told her that DD's name was spelled wrong on the chair, she smiled and said, " oops!"[/quote.

OMG. that is so annoying!! What is wrong with people?!
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2018 10:54     Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
I think OP did the right thing.

I would never actually do it, but it would be perfect to have your daughter write a thank you note and instruct her carefully how to misspell her grandmother's name in an annoying way in the thank you note.

Thank you Grandma Batty!
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2018 10:34     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
I had a friend who always misspelled my name - not on purpose. I reminded her all the time of the spelling and she kept getting it wrong. Finally, I took to misspelling her name (on purpose) and lo and behold she finally figured out my name spelling.

I think OP did well with the chair incident, but in the future if grandma continues to misspell your daughter's name then start to misspell hers. Write her letters to Dear Kathryn when it's really Kathrine, she might finally realize how annoying it is when it gets done to her.