Anonymous
Post 02/07/2018 15:12     Subject: Match Date Lied
I use to be this way about height, but at 36, I'm marrying someone of my same height.

Anonymous
Post 02/07/2018 15:08     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
No, weight obsession in this area is over the top. Recently some friends who are medical professionals were discussing the huge increase for prescriptions for ADHD drugs for women of reproductive age in this area, over the past few years.
Why would a grown woman need ADHD drugs (a/k/a amphetamines or legal uppers) ? To please weight obsessed men
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2018 14:51     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
I don't know what is the hang up with weight is around here


You mean planet Earth?
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2018 14:25     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:No its not. A man's height doesn't change; A woman's weight changes, ( a few pounds throughout the month) & sexual frequency certainly changes. Just met you or barely know you- zip, nada....in my marriage, a lot. (& I don't know what is the hang up with weight is around here- when I was pregnant, DH couldn't keep his hands off me, the entire pregnancy)


Oh sheesh. A husband attracted to his pregnant wife is not at all similar to what people are talking about here.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2018 14:24     Subject: Match Date Lied
No need to ask someone's weight. You can look at anyone's photos and get an idea if they have a body-type attractive to you or not. (Yes, people put their best foot forward in photos but after a day on any dating site you can tell all the tricks. And using an old or unrepresentative photo is as bad as lying about your height.)
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2018 14:12     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
No its not. A man's height doesn't change; A woman's weight changes, ( a few pounds throughout the month) & sexual frequency certainly changes. Just met you or barely know you- zip, nada....in my marriage, a lot. (& I don't know what is the hang up with weight is around here- when I was pregnant, DH couldn't keep his hands off me, the entire pregnancy)
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2018 07:04     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It was one date and you don’t owe him anything. Do you think guys are sitting around trying to convince themselves not to be so shallow if they meet a girl that lied about her age by a lot or weight by a lot? I think the choice would be between ghosting, a nice “there wasn’t chemistry”, or a more blunt, not my type/wasted my time lying. Yes, there is a range of fudge factor like 20 pounds, 1 or 2 inches of height, a few years for age - it was beyond that.


The thing is though, society says it's fair game to ask a guy his height but asking a woman about her weight is taboo or even down right rude. Double standards galore.


Asking a woman’s height is fair game and that is the same for men. No double standard.


Nope. Asking a woman's weight and sexual frequency would be the equivalent of asking a man's height. Since those aren't required on dating profile, Yes there is a double standard. Men don't care about woman's height, but her weight and sex drive are total dealbreakers.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2018 02:24     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At least he wasn't wearing heels.


You joke, but this has actually happened to me...


We’re they like the ? Prince wore?
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 22:12     Subject: Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP with the large elderly man with pot of tea story. I'm delighted that folks liked it...I'm pretty sure I might have told it here before.

Truth is, he was also wearing a beret. I usually leave that detail out, though, because it is so absurd as to render the whole story unbelievable, but it's true!

It's also true that I was in my mid-20's and nowhere near as assertive as I am now, so I actually sat down and had an excruciatingly painful date with him. I know I had a cup of tea and a piece of chocolate pie . First he told me that he was a retired CIA operative. Then, he swing the conversation toward my study abroad, my interest in literature, and his certainty that we would be compatible when engaging in tantric sex together. He then tried to educate me about what makes tantric sex so special. I finished my pie and excused myself.

[i thought I'd share the whole story here, since I have an appreciative audience. Usually, though, I think the beret and CIA and tantric sex stuff just makes it unbelievable. But it really happened!]

That date has been worth the time investment just because I've gotten to tell the story 100+ times since then, and it never gets less horrible or horribly enjoyable.





my head just exploded.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 20:38     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There is entirely too much discussion in this thread about lying, height, weight etc. and not enough actual examples.


Actual example (and I really struggle with online dating because I am an honest person and didn't know that people lie like rugs. But I'm learning). I was talking to this guy, cute, seemed nice enough. He was tall 6'4". I'm 5'4". I don't know what possessed me to mention that I'm not tall but I did in the course of making plans. (Admittedly, I have short friends and in my group photo I was wearing heels and appeared tall). He immediately unmatched with me and that was the end of that. None of my other dates ever ask me about my height or seem to have a problem with it.


Maybe that's why he backed out, but maybe it was something else you said or did. Or maybe it had nothing to do with you at all and things got very serious with someone else he'd just met online. You never know.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 20:31     Subject: Match Date Lied
I've been out of the OLD arena for over 10 years but I had one of those dates also. I just didn't go out with him again. If he's going to lie about something like that, something that can be obviously verified pretty quickly, who knows what else he'll lie about.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 19:31     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
I think 1 or 2 inches is not a big deal but 4 inches is alot. If a date told me that he's 5'10 when he's actually 5'9 or 5'8, I wouldn't have noticed. But 4 inches is such an obvious lie that it would make me think that he has issues about his height. And if he's willing to lie about something so obvious, what else is he lying about?
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 18:43     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:There is entirely too much discussion in this thread about lying, height, weight etc. and not enough actual examples.


Actual example (and I really struggle with online dating because I am an honest person and didn't know that people lie like rugs. But I'm learning). I was talking to this guy, cute, seemed nice enough. He was tall 6'4". I'm 5'4". I don't know what possessed me to mention that I'm not tall but I did in the course of making plans. (Admittedly, I have short friends and in my group photo I was wearing heels and appeared tall). He immediately unmatched with me and that was the end of that. None of my other dates ever ask me about my height or seem to have a problem with it.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 18:32     Subject: Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ok women. I am tall. 6' 2". I tower over the puny 5'6" girly man. Me big strong man.

Oh. by the way, I am fat. 260 lbs.

And I have 70's style body hair, not the 2010's image of hairless mammals.

So, I will give you the height. But I will also give you fluffy and hairy.


Eh. Gross. Youre precisely the type of man I find unattractive. Give me a fit, well groomed, short man any day.


+1 Fat and hairy... with a beard like ZZ Top. So many men online like this posing with guns, dead fish, etc. Probably why they are online


Pp here. You would not see me win guns. Animals maybe... but they will be alive. Beard is winter only; keeps my face warm. But I do not shave body hair, and I do not expect you to. I don’t care if you find me unattractive. I am not changing for anyone.


NP here. If the above is really true then I think I just met my soulmate. I somehow missed the "aversion to hair" thing. I shave maybe twice a year. And I too, won't change for anyone.


DCUM love connection for two hairy fat people. There is a lid for every pot.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 18:29     Subject: Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ok women. I am tall. 6' 2". I tower over the puny 5'6" girly man. Me big strong man.

Oh. by the way, I am fat. 260 lbs.

And I have 70's style body hair, not the 2010's image of hairless mammals.

So, I will give you the height. But I will also give you fluffy and hairy.


Eh. Gross. Youre precisely the type of man I find unattractive. Give me a fit, well groomed, short man any day.


+1 Fat and hairy... with a beard like ZZ Top. So many men online like this posing with guns, dead fish, etc. Probably why they are online


Pp here. You would not see me win guns. Animals maybe... but they will be alive. Beard is winter only; keeps my face warm. But I do not shave body hair, and I do not expect you to. I don’t care if you find me unattractive. I am not changing for anyone.


NP here. If the above is really true then I think I just met my soulmate. I somehow missed the "aversion to hair" thing. I shave maybe twice a year. And I too, won't change for anyone.