Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 13:13     Subject: Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:If you think that's bad, don't ever move to the West Coast. Manliest guy I knew was gay - he could fix anything. Everyone else was useless.


Not true, I have been here from theWest Coast for 6 years and am still amazed at the men here are basically ladies external ovaries.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 12:46     Subject: Re:Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has a son should want stereotypes about masculinity to be challenged. It’s leading to violence and all kinds of problems because men think it’s only ok to express anger or apathy. Most men want something more and when they can’t get it, have a greater risk of difficulties with addiction, divorce, sexual assault. Read the recent nyt article by Andrew Reiner. Or the secret life of Boys by Niobe way.
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/06/15/well/family/talking-to-boys-the-way-we-talk-to-girls.html


I’m really saddened by how narrowly we, as women, define what is masculine. I mean can you imagine the reaction if a man today said that a woman who did not keep the home churning (cooking, cleaning) and was not fallen all over herself to be with her children every minut was not feminine? And there many, many women in our area who match that description. The truth is, we will not progress in the workplace, at home, etc until we give boys space to grow up to be more than provider, fixers, and all this other tropes. For crying out loud, OP, complained that she meets guys who read books rather than watch TV (sports).
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 12:01     Subject: Re:Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP is griping because she moved to an urban affluent area and men don't work on their own cars as much?
First, guys here can afford to pay people. If you can't you have to do it yourself.
Second, you're not allowed or encouraged to work on your own car in, say, an apartment complex parking lot or a public street.
Third, if you've got a career and a mortgage to pay and tuitions to pay, it really really doesn't make sense to take time off to fix your car.
Fourth, I do work on my own cars. I do fix my own appliances. Women actually aren't impressed. They care more about BMW vs. Chevy ownership.


I think the cars are a bad example. The point is most men here can’t fix anything. I was 8 months pregnant under the kitchen sink tightening a pipe. I found the tools and watched a you tube video. My husband wants me to rub his feet at night. It’s all such a turnoff!


Odd. The guys I know who grew up here tinker with things all the time, though less so as we age. I've swapped out a starter, replaced a disposal, repaired the dryer and oven, repaired the chimney, and I'm not particularly good at this stuff. But you know what? My wife still wasn't happy because I didn't fix things on her schedule.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 11:59     Subject: Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:By no means am I suggesting that a guy needs to be benching his body weight; or watching 8 hrs of football per weekend; or be spitting and scratching his crotch to be a real man. But having only lived on the east coast for 2 years, I am kind of shocked by how un-manly well educated white collar professional guys are in DC and NYC. Seems like everyone's hobby is watching the news (politics in DC; CNBC in NYC). They seem incapable of fixing anything - whether it's a closet door that's off its hinge or a flat tire - they are willing to call a handy man or mechanic and are ok with that guy thinking they have no idea what to do. And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives. Just seems odd to me that a guy would be ok spending his weekend reading a book and criticizing how some other dude is choosing to rent a home rather than buy. I just feel like guys back home -- including drs/lawyers/med/law students were more into sports, working out, home renovation, cars etc. Is this a DC/NYC thing? I've seen it in guys I've casually dated, guys at work etc. -- all ages 25-35.


Yep, welcome to metro sexual hell. The women here like them that way, meek and quiet. They can control them better that way.


+10000

Can't say I like them like that exactly, but can't stand the other type. I couldn't talk to him, couldn't ask him anything, he just didn't know shit.
He wanted to order me a pink (why pink?) knife for my birthday as he browsed his favorite sites. Why do I want that idiot controlling me ever so slowly? Pink? Really? He wanted the knife for me. He had no idea what I may have wanted. He did get me a pink Harley Davidson's t-shirt. He even missed that I didn't like motor bikes. Told him the first time we met, and only got on his Harley for a minute to get him to stop asking.
Talk about stereotypes and gender roles. The dumbest fukk I've eve met and I've met a lot of guys in my 20 years in US. If the countryside is full of them, I'm going nowhere from the coasts.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 11:56     Subject: Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^^^ I have to agree with that poster. My impression is the only guys who hang out on dcum are girly woossy men.


It's spelled "wussy" because it's derived from "pussy." The value of the insult comes from the idea that women are lesser than men, and, therefore, it's insulting for a man to be like a woman.


Haha!
My autocorrect kept changing it to different things.

Okay.

Men who hand out on the dcum board seem like wussy girly men.


There you go. But proper spelling gets women turned on, right? Please tell me they don't also love guys who can't spell.


Exhibit A.

NP, btw.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 11:47     Subject: Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^^^ I have to agree with that poster. My impression is the only guys who hang out on dcum are girly woossy men.


It's spelled "wussy" because it's derived from "pussy." The value of the insult comes from the idea that women are lesser than men, and, therefore, it's insulting for a man to be like a woman.


Haha!
My autocorrect kept changing it to different things.

Okay.

Men who hand out on the dcum board seem like wussy girly men.


There you go. But proper spelling gets women turned on, right? Please tell me they don't also love guys who can't spell.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 11:46     Subject: Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^^^ I have to agree with that poster. My impression is the only guys who hang out on dcum are girly woossy men.


It's spelled "wussy" because it's derived from "pussy." The value of the insult comes from the idea that women are lesser than men, and, therefore, it's insulting for a man to be like a woman.


Haha!
My autocorrect kept changing it to different things.

Okay.

Men who hand out on the dcum board seem like wussy girly men.


+1
Because they are. They're also very gossipy and bitchy
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 11:45     Subject: Re:Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has a son should want stereotypes about masculinity to be challenged. It’s leading to violence and all kinds of problems because men think it’s only ok to express anger or apathy. Most men want something more and when they can’t get it, have a greater risk of difficulties with addiction, divorce, sexual assault. Read the recent nyt article by Andrew Reiner. Or the secret life of Boys by Niobe way.
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/06/15/well/family/talking-to-boys-the-way-we-talk-to-girls.html


Interesting article. I think part of the reason we train men to clamp down on their emotions is for the same reason I train my big dog much more rigorously than I train my little dog. The big dog's outbursts are likely to cause damage. The little dog's outbursts are endearing because he doesn't have as much potential to harm someone.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 11:45     Subject: Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^^^ I have to agree with that poster. My impression is the only guys who hang out on dcum are girly woossy men.


It's spelled "wussy" because it's derived from "pussy." The value of the insult comes from the idea that women are lesser than men, and, therefore, it's insulting for a man to be like a woman.


Haha!
My autocorrect kept changing it to different things.

Okay.

Men who hand out on the dcum board seem like wussy girly men.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 11:44     Subject: Re:Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:As someone who moved to Colorado from DC: an emphatic YES. Yes they are.
sure. And the men in CO ride ?, hike and something weed. Very manly.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 11:41     Subject: Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^^^ I have to agree with that poster. My impression is the only guys who hang out on dcum are girly woossy men.


It's spelled "wussy" because it's derived from "pussy." The value of the insult comes from the idea that women are lesser than men, and, therefore, it's insulting for a man to be like a woman.


No, the idea comes from the fact that men are failing to be masculine. Just like calling a woman a "d*ke" would be an insult to her femininity
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 11:40     Subject: Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:^^^ I have to agree with that poster. My impression is the only guys who hang out on dcum are girly woossy men.


It's spelled "wussy" because it's derived from "pussy." The value of the insult comes from the idea that women are lesser than men, and, therefore, it's insulting for a man to be like a woman.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 11:40     Subject: Re:Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anyone who has a son should want stereotypes about masculinity to be challenged. It’s leading to violence and all kinds of problems because men think it’s only ok to express anger or apathy. Most men want something more and when they can’t get it, have a greater risk of difficulties with addiction, divorce, sexual assault. Read the recent nyt article by Andrew Reiner. Or the secret life of Boys by Niobe way.
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/06/15/well/family/talking-to-boys-the-way-we-talk-to-girls.html
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 11:38     Subject: Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^^^ when you fight Mother Nature fertility declines and you become extinct.


Mother Nature always wins.


Huh?


This is white culture fighting Mother Nature and God. Femininizing men. The result is extinction.


Okay.

Check back in a few years and let me know if we're extinct, wouldja?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2018 11:37     Subject: Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??
^^^ I have to agree with that poster. My impression is the only guys who hang out on dcum are girly woossy men.