Anonymous wrote:My crystal ball tells me OP is going to be the worst helicopter mom on Planet Earth.

Anonymous wrote:My crystal ball tells me OP is going to be the worst helicopter mom on Planet Earth.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ I understand if you have a maid come frequently... I guess they would change Tp, cook, do laundry, make beds. But only weekly I don't see what a maid would do that the house cleaners don't, as cleaners will make the beds, change sheets, etc.

NP here. I do not know how it works for others, but I have an hourly helper who helps me to deep clean and declutter. Stuff she does - sorting out the pantry, cleaning the refrigerator, yard work, cleaning garage, organizing stuff, putting away clothes, organizing closets, cleaning out drawers and cabinets, food prep, washing school bags, lunch boxes, rugs, sneakers, recycling, picking drycleaning, childcare, pick up or drop off my children (at times), cleaning the interior of my cars, helping me with dinner parties, serving etc. I pay her exceedingly well and she has been with me for 15 years. She employs another lady to do the cleaning for me. She comes twice a week. I have been very lucky to have her, because she has an innate sense of organization and is very self directed. She will find something in my house that needs doing - be it watering my plants, putting my groceries away, refilling soap pumps, even painting smudges off my walls and do it.

Lol ok. If you say so.

Anonymous wrote:so does this also mean you won't do grocery shopping, cook dinner, etc? I also don't know why you need to nap when baby naps (not talking the first few months). I was back at work at 4-5 months and didn't have the luxury to nap. Not sure why you can't do household laundry (non baby), start dinner, etc while baby naps...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ I understand if you have a maid come frequently... I guess they would change Tp, cook, do laundry, make beds. But only weekly I don't see what a maid would do that the house cleaners don't, as cleaners will make the beds, change sheets, etc.

NP here. I do not know how it works for others, but I have an hourly helper who helps me to deep clean and declutter. Stuff she does - sorting out the pantry, cleaning the refrigerator, yard work, cleaning garage, organizing stuff, putting away clothes, organizing closets, cleaning out drawers and cabinets, food prep, washing school bags, lunch boxes, rugs, sneakers, recycling, picking drycleaning, childcare, pick up or drop off my children (at times), cleaning the interior of my cars, helping me with dinner parties, serving etc. I pay her exceedingly well and she has been with me for 15 years. She employs another lady to do the cleaning for me. She comes twice a week. I have been very lucky to have her, because she has an innate sense of organization and is very self directed. She will find something in my house that needs doing - be it watering my plants, putting my groceries away, refilling soap pumps, even painting smudges off my walls and do it.

Anonymous wrote:^ I understand if you have a maid come frequently... I guess they would change Tp, cook, do laundry, make beds. But only weekly I don't see what a maid would do that the house cleaners don't, as cleaners will make the beds, change sheets, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand what all the derision and questioning is about. I do what OP is asking about and it has worked out great.

I was a nanny for a high profile family during college and got my masters in Early Childhood Education. I worked as a teacher and then director of a preschool before becoming a mother. When I was pregnant, DH and I had many discussions about what our roles would be after our baby was born. I made it clear that I was not giving up a great job to start picking up his socks or taking out the trash. Our lives in regard to our home would remain the same with me switching from teaching other children to teaching our children.

I did nurse for 18 months, narrated for DD, went to a class nearly every morning and read to her for over an hour every day. DH and I both work out in the morning but alternate who goes first - whomever is in bed last makes the bed. We do dishes as we use them. We have a cleaning service once a week and a maid who comes in once a week (DH's bachelor maid) who does all laundry for both DH and myself as well as picking up our dry cleaning.

My days are devoted to my daughter. We do a lot of slow cooker meals that DH and I prepare together the night before or make salads after DH comes home. I do the dinner dishes and DH does the bath, books, bed routine with DD. I have always done the grocery shopping and he has always done errands and that hasn't changed.

It takes organization, OP, and a manageable house (we have a five room townhouse with a deck we have set up as an outdoor playroom). Good luck! I have truly loved being home with my kid!

What on earth is 'narrating for DD?'

You sound like the biggest helicopter imaginable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand what all the derision and questioning is about. I do what OP is asking about and it has worked out great.

I was a nanny for a high profile family during college and got my masters in Early Childhood Education. I worked as a teacher and then director of a preschool before becoming a mother. When I was pregnant, DH and I had many discussions about what our roles would be after our baby was born. I made it clear that I was not giving up a great job to start picking up his socks or taking out the trash. Our lives in regard to our home would remain the same with me switching from teaching other children to teaching our children.

I did nurse for 18 months, narrated for DD, went to a class nearly every morning and read to her for over an hour every day. DH and I both work out in the morning but alternate who goes first - whomever is in bed last makes the bed. We do dishes as we use them. We have a cleaning service once a week and a maid who comes in once a week (DH's bachelor maid) who does all laundry for both DH and myself as well as picking up our dry cleaning.

My days are devoted to my daughter. We do a lot of slow cooker meals that DH and I prepare together the night before or make salads after DH comes home. I do the dinner dishes and DH does the bath, books, bed routine with DD. I have always done the grocery shopping and he has always done errands and that hasn't changed.


It takes organization, OP, and a manageable house (we have a five room townhouse with a deck we have set up as an outdoor playroom). Good luck! I have truly loved being home with my kid!

What on earth is 'narrating for DD?'

You sound like the biggest helicopter imaginable.

Wait, what's the difference between a cleaning service and a maid?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you asking if you can hire a cleaning lady/housekeeper? Of course you can if your finances permit. I'm a SAHM with young children and have a housekeeper 3x/week. She does the deep cleaning/tidying, laundry for the entire family and some food prep. I recommend it. Of course, with young children at home - especially the 2-4 set, even with a housekeeper I find myself constantly picking up, cooking and doing food prep -- but it is way less this way.

What is is that you do, exactly?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand what all the derision and questioning is about. I do what OP is asking about and it has worked out great.

I was a nanny for a high profile family during college and got my masters in Early Childhood Education. I worked as a teacher and then director of a preschool before becoming a mother. When I was pregnant, DH and I had many discussions about what our roles would be after our baby was born. I made it clear that I was not giving up a great job to start picking up his socks or taking out the trash. Our lives in regard to our home would remain the same with me switching from teaching other children to teaching our children.

I did nurse for 18 months, narrated for DD, went to a class nearly every morning and read to her for over an hour every day. DH and I both work out in the morning but alternate who goes first - whomever is in bed last makes the bed. We do dishes as we use them. We have a cleaning service once a week and a maid who comes in once a week (DH's bachelor maid) who does all laundry for both DH and myself as well as picking up our dry cleaning.

My days are devoted to my daughter. We do a lot of slow cooker meals that DH and I prepare together the night before or make salads after DH comes home. I do the dinner dishes and DH does the bath, books, bed routine with DD. I have always done the grocery shopping and he has always done errands and that hasn't changed.


It takes organization, OP, and a manageable house (we have a five room townhouse with a deck we have set up as an outdoor playroom). Good luck! I have truly loved being home with my kid!

What on earth is 'narrating for DD?'

You sound like the biggest helicopter imaginable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand what all the derision and questioning is about. I do what OP is asking about and it has worked out great.

I was a nanny for a high profile family during college and got my masters in Early Childhood Education. I worked as a teacher and then director of a preschool before becoming a mother. When I was pregnant, DH and I had many discussions about what our roles would be after our baby was born. I made it clear that I was not giving up a great job to start picking up his socks or taking out the trash. Our lives in regard to our home would remain the same with me switching from teaching other children to teaching our children.

I did nurse for 18 months, narrated for DD, went to a class nearly every morning and read to her for over an hour every day. DH and I both work out in the morning but alternate who goes first - whomever is in bed last makes the bed. We do dishes as we use them. We have a cleaning service once a week and a maid who comes in once a week (DH's bachelor maid) who does all laundry for both DH and myself as well as picking up our dry cleaning.

My days are devoted to my daughter. We do a lot of slow cooker meals that DH and I prepare together the night before or make salads after DH comes home. I do the dinner dishes and DH does the bath, books, bed routine with DD. I have always done the grocery shopping and he has always done errands and that hasn't changed.

It takes organization, OP, and a manageable house (we have a five room townhouse with a deck we have set up as an outdoor playroom). Good luck! I have truly loved being home with my kid!

What on earth is 'narrating for DD?'

You sound like the biggest helicopter imaginable.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand what all the derision and questioning is about. I do what OP is asking about and it has worked out great.

I was a nanny for a high profile family during college and got my masters in Early Childhood Education. I worked as a teacher and then director of a preschool before becoming a mother. When I was pregnant, DH and I had many discussions about what our roles would be after our baby was born. I made it clear that I was not giving up a great job to start picking up his socks or taking out the trash. Our lives in regard to our home would remain the same with me switching from teaching other children to teaching our children.

I did nurse for 18 months, narrated for DD, went to a class nearly every morning and read to her for over an hour every day. DH and I both work out in the morning but alternate who goes first - whomever is in bed last makes the bed. We do dishes as we use them. We have a cleaning service once a week and a maid who comes in once a week (DH's bachelor maid) who does all laundry for both DH and myself as well as picking up our dry cleaning.

My days are devoted to my daughter. We do a lot of slow cooker meals that DH and I prepare together the night before or make salads after DH comes home. I do the dinner dishes and DH does the bath, books, bed routine with DD. I have always done the grocery shopping and he has always done errands and that hasn't changed.

It takes organization, OP, and a manageable house (we have a five room townhouse with a deck we have set up as an outdoor playroom). Good luck! I have truly loved being home with my kid!