Anonymous wrote:My brother ended up with every other weekend despite being a much better parent. (this was years ago). He spent every last dime of his resources and ounce of energy he had fighting for custody of his kids and finally 8 years later when the kids were tweens, he got full custody. It was so much better for everyone (mom included) and really unfortunate that the judges had been too sexist to see what was in the kids best interest for 8 years. years years of court battles are hard on everyone and so much money wasted.

I think you might be my aunt.

Anonymous wrote:Two. In both cases the mom had/has serious issues. In one family the mom eventually committed suicide. The other lost custody of her three kids one by one to the dad as they got old enough to help lobby the judge to get out of mom's house.

Basically the same as above except the mentally ill mom hasn't committed suicide although she did come close which is when the emergency order was executed and continues years later. The second mother was neglectful and emotionally abusive but the state only intervened when the children were old enough to tell the judge they needed to be with their dad. All of the children have major issues because the state waited so long to do the right thing.

Assuming your situation is "normal" OP, you'll likely split physical custody by how much depends on the family. I know a lot of families with 50/50 physical or 60/40.

My brother ended up with every other weekend despite being a much better parent. (this was years ago). He spent every last dime of his resources and ounce of energy he had fighting for custody of his kids and finally 8 years later when the kids were tweens, he got full custody. It was so much better for everyone (mom included) and really unfortunate that the judges had been too sexist to see what was in the kids best interest for 8 years. years years of court battles are hard on everyone and so much money wasted.

This thread is from 10 months ago. OP, if you're around, how did it turn out?

PP here. That was supposed to read "abusive" above. Just remembered college roommate lost custody due to substance abuse and physical abuse to husband and mother.

Yes. Don't know all the details but she was unstable and physically anusuve to the husband.

Yes. Mom has a drinking problem and made a series of bad decisions.