Anonymous
03/01/2016 14:05
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you should not allow him to do anything.
Yeah, ship in his Mommy so she can do everything for him and finish what she started.
Anonymous
03/01/2016 14:03
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP - let him handle the fall out - you let him run with this. Let him finish it.
Thanks.
Yeah.
That is the only thing I can think of too.
Still, it makes me feel embarrassed, for him, for my daughter, for us.
Why is everything so darn difficult?
Maybe he secretly wanted a $hitload of cookies in the house to pig out on?
Anonymous
03/01/2016 14:02
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Dude, its extra cookies not the end of the world. Put an email out to the troop that you have extras. People will buy them.
What about our neighbors who have paid for cookies and then got nothing delivered?
He knows he messed up but he is too stubborn to admit it.
Just sit back and do nothing. Fortunately no one will really get hurt or injured with your cookie thing.
Deep down he knows either (i) someone is missing their cookies, and they will call him soon to sort out, or (ii) he will have to cut a big check for the "leftovers."
If this general sloppiness is across the board and hurting your pocketbook, consider a Matching Fund, where everytime there is an expense due to your or his errors, the other person piggybanks the same amount to spend as they wish.
Anonymous
03/01/2016 13:58
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow. You don't exactly sound like a nice person yourself. I mean, from the first sentence I could tell you were one of "those" women.
Do you also nag and micromanage? Are you big on telling him not only what to do but how to do it?
I did not tell him a thing how to do this GS cookie situation. He totally ran with it.
Here we are.
Yep, that's life. My spouse is the same way. You'd think he'd learn a lesson by now and pay more attention to things, but no. Not with home or family or property stuff. He has a lame excuse for everything and never talks about his mistakes. ANd thus never prevents them from happening again.
Meanwhile, he continues to have no organizational system for anything (wallet, keys, taxes, paperwork) and half the time he does anything he has to repeat it because he missed something. For example, went down to the XYZ office with what they needed (Oops, didn't see one thing they needed! REDO); takes child to get cast on and doesn't have wallet with health card or Credit card (Oops, let's go home and back again and spend all day here); loses his XYZ for a 5th time and buys another one (I think we're up to $1200 on the same $200 pair of Raybans!). So on and so forth.
Half assing it. I just hope he doesn't learn something very important the hard way - like a child's safety or health thing.
Personally, I think his parents groomed him this way (Just study sweetie, that's all you have to do) and that he has ADD, just like his brother.
Anonymous
03/01/2016 13:50
Subject: Re:This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Your anger seems way disproportional to this small (in the grand scheme of things) problem. Seriously. It's not the end of the world, it's not even embarrassing. Sad fact is most people are probably somewhat impressed that your DH took he initiative to sell GS cookies at all. Kudos to him for attempting this PITA task.
DH and I have pretty major marital issues too but I don't think blowing up over issues like this is worth the emotions expended. Here's how we handled the Boy Scouts popcorn sales. I told him I had no interest in selling popcorn, but would gladly donate to the BS instead. He thought it would be a good experience for the boys, so he took them to sell it, he handled the orders and he did the deliveries. I have no idea how much they sold, whom they sold it to, whether it was delivered timely or if any of it was a handled correctly. We also had leftovers but I will assume he ordered extra for us and frankly don't care if it was a mix-up. Popcorn sales were his project- he's responsible for the outcome and it's not my concern. I have enough to worry about and be upset over.
Obviously, this isn't just about the cookies.
This is how it is handled in our house. I happily am clueless about popcorn sales.
Anonymous
03/01/2016 13:40
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
I'm on OP's side. Yeah I don't know her situation but from personal experience this type of carelessness is frustrating to no end when it happens again and again and again.... it all builds up. hang in there!
Anonymous
03/01/2016 13:40
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
So YOU (mom) didn't keep track of who ordered? You said that dad didn't keep track of who ordered.... why didn't you give him a list of who ordered? What the big deal anyway? Just look at your list of who ordered and see who got their stuff?
By the way... you sound horrible
Oh, yay, crazy MRA poster is back!
OP, no advice, but this would aggravate me to no end. Makes me want to do everything in my power to discourage DD from joining GS when the time comes (she's only 2 y.o. now).
Scouting is awesome! Don't let this tale of woe discourage you from allowing your daughter to be in Girl Scouts. I would suggest that you try a smaller route when they first start out. Have her sell to the neighbors/friends/colleagues/family members that you know. Don't try to do the whole neighborhood the first time around especially if you tend to be a bit on the disorganized side.
Cookie sales can and should be a fun learning experience for the kids (and their parents). It very rarely results in the type of confusion that Op is describing although small slip ups do happen sometimes.
+1. Our girls can skip sales if they want, but most want to do at least some selling. It's good for them to have to go to a door, knock politely, speak politely to the adult, and write down the order. Most of them can also handle the simple math to add up the orders and money due. If you are selling more than your girl can handle herself with some moderate supervision, than you are selling too much. The point is for the girl to develop her organization and public speaking skills, not for the parent to rack up the sales numbers.
Clearly the husband here either skipped some houses (which could have been prevented by checking off each delivery as you do it), or he delivered the wrong orders (maybe the person on line 1 only ordered 2 boxes, whereas the person on line 2 ordered 10 boxes, and he gave the same delivery to line 1 and line 2 because he failed to carefully read across the lines -- which is hard to do, given that the form has the line numbers on both the left and right side of the sheet).
Anonymous
03/01/2016 13:39
Subject: Re:This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Is he below average IQ?
Anonymous
03/01/2016 13:35
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Dude, its extra cookies not the end of the world. Put an email out to the troop that you have extras. People will buy them.
What about our neighbors who have paid for cookies and then got nothing delivered?
It's not the end of the world. Just apologize. If they prepaid, return their money.
Anonymous
03/01/2016 13:34
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
So YOU (mom) didn't keep track of who ordered? You said that dad didn't keep track of who ordered.... why didn't you give him a list of who ordered? What the big deal anyway? Just look at your list of who ordered and see who got their stuff?
By the way... you sound horrible
Oh, yay, crazy MRA poster is back!
OP, no advice, but this would aggravate me to no end. Makes me want to do everything in my power to discourage DD from joining GS when the time comes (she's only 2 y.o. now).
Scouting is awesome! Don't let this tale of woe discourage you from allowing your daughter to be in Girl Scouts. I would suggest that you try a smaller route when they first start out. Have her sell to the neighbors/friends/colleagues/family members that you know. Don't try to do the whole neighborhood the first time around especially if you tend to be a bit on the disorganized side.
Cookie sales can and should be a fun learning experience for the kids (and their parents). It very rarely results in the type of confusion that Op is describing although small slip ups do happen sometimes.
Anonymous
03/01/2016 13:33
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Don't the buyers not pay until the cookies are delivered?
+1, that is how our troop does it.
Anonymous
03/01/2016 13:27
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How do you know Cookie Mom didn't screw up? Why are you so sure it was your husband?
I swear most of these posters pay about as much attention as the OP's husband. The OP has stated several times that she verified she had the exact count needed per the pre-ordered, pre-paid order sheet. No extras, no left-overs.
Anonymous
03/01/2016 13:25
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:How do you know Cookie Mom didn't screw up? Why are you so sure it was your husband?
Op double-checked the order with the Cookie Mom when she picked up the cookies. The problem came at delivery. If all the cookies were delivered properly, there would be no "leftovers".
Anonymous
03/01/2016 13:23
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:How do you know Cookie Mom didn't screw up? Why are you so sure it was your husband?
Maybe an extra box here or there, but nobody screws up that badly.
Anonymous
03/01/2016 13:21
Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
How do you know Cookie Mom didn't screw up? Why are you so sure it was your husband?