Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 20:40     Subject: Re:What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
I'd tell my DH that I ( DW ) am in love with and sleeping with a women, and that he treats me like shit
All things I am working on saying at some point but just can't right now
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 20:33     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
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Anonymous wrote:If you are taking Viagra secretly STOP!!!!! Sure, I could go a third time in row, but I get really sore and fear UTIs.


LOL! Guy here who takes it. If he's much bigger and harder than usual then he's probably on it.


I think my husband has taken it a few times but I don't know why - he's great in bed.
Does the doctor give it out like candy for some reason? DH is 54.


This is what I suspect. I think guys say "I'm getting older and I'm worried about performance." And the doctor goes "Here's a sample pack."


It's weird how the man (my DH) doesn't tell you but I was like omg what was that?!
I asked him too and he said nothing. I guess you just have to take your pluses where you can get them and move on.


Do I hear the putter patter of men running to the doctor now?


Seriously, please don't.

It's like eating scoops of chocolate ice cream. I really like chocolate ice cream. One scoop is great. A second serving is awesome. A third, well, ok if you insist. But after three scoops, I don't want another. Don't make me feel guilty because you little blue pilled your way into the erection that just keeps giving.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 20:30     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That you are a really nice guy, a wonderful friend, partner, and father but that I am madly in love with another man. If it weren't for our children I would end the marriage.


Do him a favor and leave. A guy like that deserves someone better.


She deserves to be happy with the other man. Let her DH find someone who is madly in love with him.


Why did you marry him, PP?


Because I didn't realize what love could be like until I stumbled onto this other guy. I thought contentment and marrying your best friend would be good enough. I didn't realize there was more. I never, ever meant to fall in love with someone else. I don't feel good about it.


Other guy just sees you every so often with no 'life stuff' attached. He probably wouldn't stick around for 20 years like the husband you do have is and he can't be a good guy (like the one you are married to) because he's screwing someone else's wife. You're being a fool.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 20:27     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:I would tell him that I would be much more attracted to him if he were more competent (could find his way to the beltway a mile from our house or manage to advise me on something/anything useful)


Is he a phd?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 20:18     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
I would tell him that I would be much more attracted to him if he were more competent (could find his way to the beltway a mile from our house or manage to advise me on something/anything useful)
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 20:13     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That you are a really nice guy, a wonderful friend, partner, and father but that I am madly in love with another man. If it weren't for our children I would end the marriage.


Do him a favor and leave. A guy like that deserves someone better.


She deserves to be happy with the other man. Let her DH find someone who is madly in love with him.


Why did you marry him, PP?


Because I didn't realize what love could be like until I stumbled onto this other guy. I thought contentment and marrying your best friend would be good enough. I didn't realize there was more. I never, ever meant to fall in love with someone else. I don't feel good about it.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 20:04     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
I noticed a HUGE difference with AP. Don't judge.

It's like fight club...
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 20:01     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you are taking Viagra secretly STOP!!!!! Sure, I could go a third time in row, but I get really sore and fear UTIs.


LOL! Guy here who takes it. If he's much bigger and harder than usual then he's probably on it.


I think my husband has taken it a few times but I don't know why - he's great in bed.
Does the doctor give it out like candy for some reason? DH is 54.


This is what I suspect. I think guys say "I'm getting older and I'm worried about performance." And the doctor goes "Here's a sample pack."


It's weird how the man (my DH) doesn't tell you but I was like omg what was that?!
I asked him too and he said nothing. I guess you just have to take your pluses where you can get them and move on.


Do I hear the putter patter of men running to the doctor now?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 20:00     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you are taking Viagra secretly STOP!!!!! Sure, I could go a third time in row, but I get really sore and fear UTIs.


LOL! Guy here who takes it. If he's much bigger and harder than usual then he's probably on it.


I think my husband has taken it a few times but I don't know why - he's great in bed.
Does the doctor give it out like candy for some reason? DH is 54.


This is what I suspect. I think guys say "I'm getting older and I'm worried about performance." And the doctor goes "Here's a sample pack."


It's weird how the man (my DH) doesn't tell you but I was like omg what was that?!
I asked him too and he said nothing. I guess you just have to take your pluses where you can get them and move on.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 19:50     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you are taking Viagra secretly STOP!!!!! Sure, I could go a third time in row, but I get really sore and fear UTIs.


LOL! Guy here who takes it. If he's much bigger and harder than usual then he's probably on it.


I think my husband has taken it a few times but I don't know why - he's great in bed.
Does the doctor give it out like candy for some reason? DH is 54.


This is what I suspect. I think guys say "I'm getting older and I'm worried about performance." And the doctor goes "Here's a sample pack."
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 19:49     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That you are a really nice guy, a wonderful friend, partner, and father but that I am madly in love with another man. If it weren't for our children I would end the marriage.


Do him a favor and leave. A guy like that deserves someone better.


She deserves to be happy with the other man. Let her DH find someone who is madly in love with him.


Why did you marry him, PP?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 19:24     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you are taking Viagra secretly STOP!!!!! Sure, I could go a third time in row, but I get really sore and fear UTIs.


LOL! Guy here who takes it. If he's much bigger and harder than usual then he's probably on it.


I think my husband has taken it a few times but I don't know why - he's great in bed.
Does the doctor give it out like candy for some reason? DH is 54.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 19:23     Subject: Re:What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
He basically knows this, but I still see my money as mine and resent the decade I was the bread winner while he earned his PhD. I worry about finances all the time, even though we are probably fine.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 19:20     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That you are a really nice guy, a wonderful friend, partner, and father but that I am madly in love with another man. If it weren't for our children I would end the marriage.


Do him a favor and leave. A guy like that deserves someone better.


Yes, that is really awful!
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 19:13     Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
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Anonymous wrote:I have lied about my number of sexual partners for almost 20 years. Told the lie once and never found a way to tell the truth. And he is totally one that will be hurt by the dishonesty even 20 years later. Wish that I was mature enough to go with the "none of your business" line at the time.

I am convinced that when I am old and forgetful that I will let it slip.


What did you tell him vs. the true number?


Told him 2, real number is 7.


Um, you're wasting a whole lot of angst over 5 partners?


Goes to honesty. My DW told me two then a few years later let slip that there was a third. Why would she have lied about him to begin with? I have to assume that there were more than that.


This goes to your being crazy!! That's her personal life BEFORE you, you have no right to know anything about it and a decent man wouldn't ask.