My husband and I do not "share all the work" in the house. We partition it, each according to relative interest and time, and we outsource a LOT. What we do is not what my parents did and is not what my neighbors do. Housekeeping is a source of tension, but not NEARLY what it would be if we did not partition and outsource.
HIM:
All the cooking for every day dinner and parties.
Technology.
Wine and booze.
Most of the entertainment (he's just a fun-ner guy than I am).
Vacation arrangements (I'm too stingy when it comes to spending $ on travel. We have a better time if he researches and selects the hotel

).
ME:
Breakfasts and lunches for kids.
All the cleaning and almost all the cleanup for guests/parties, top to bottom.
Most of the daily cleanup.
I collect, wash, dry, and sort the laundry.
Seasonal decorating and seasonal gardening.
Seasonal cleaning of closets and toys.
Holiday stuff (if it doesn't involve cooking).
Playdate arranging and supervision.
OUTSOURCE:
Twice a week, Mon and Fri, someone comes to vacuum top to bottom, put away clothes, clean kitchen, and whatever else I ask that can fit into 4 hours. Yup, we spend a lot of money on this.
He works full time. I work part time.
And yet our home still seems like a friggin' mess all the time. It's those darn kids!!!!
