Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 18:18     Subject: Fourth Date Silence
Anonymous wrote:Hey guys, so I sent her a text around noon yesterday with a funny article that we both joked about. She responded around 8 pm. I hit her back up around 11ish when I got home. I just asked how her day at the beach was on Sunday. She replied today around 12 hours later it was great and that she had a lot of fun.

I have an iPhone she is droid.


If during her trip to the beach she casually slept with another man, would that change your perspective on her (assuming she gets back in touch with you?)
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 18:07     Subject: Fourth Date Silence
She's not going to hit him up again. That's bs with whole ignoring thing.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:56     Subject: Fourth Date Silence
Anonymous wrote:Guys OP here she replied to my text from late last night around noon today. Again way out of character from the last one month. And no I did not respond yet and I will not respond. I get the hint, a phone call to me would come off as desperate at this point. I will only do that if she reaches out to me again.

Back to online dating, I would rather she stopped hitting me up on date 2 not date 4. This can be very tiring if you are going out with multiple women at once.


Perfect OP. DO not call, text, total radio silence. If she calls you let it go to VM. If she texts you wait a day or so to text back. Stupid right? But it works


Also, go watch Swingers
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:48     Subject: Re:Fourth Date Silence
OP, let it go. Doesn't sound like she's all that into you.

Rethink this whole random open-ended text communication. It seems like it just leads to confusion and trying to figure out who meant what when. If you text in the future, make it specific enough that you'll have something to go on. Asking "how was your weekend" and hearing back, "it was fun" give you zero to go on and leaves you trying to interpret response times, etc.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:41     Subject: Fourth Date Silence
Guys use this as a lesson. If someone likes you they will make an effort. Any excuse is a red flag especially early on in the relationship.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:32     Subject: Fourth Date Silence
Anonymous wrote:Yeah at this point she is texting back to be nice. I would delete her info so you're not tempted to text her anymore and move on


+1 just smile and wave boys, smile and wave.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:30     Subject: Fourth Date Silence
Yeah at this point she is texting back to be nice. I would delete her info so you're not tempted to text her anymore and move on
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:29     Subject: Re:Fourth Date Silence
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I lost you at groping.

Are you 12?


Try and give people a break. Getting back into dating after years has to brutal. Cell phones, Facebook, email, texting.".Its a whole new, dysfunctional world out there. So he groped her. What should have said? Felt her cans? Maybe he actually just held her elbow for 12 minutes?


I don't even know what that means but it's hilarious.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:14     Subject: Fourth Date Silence
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hey guys, so I sent her a text around noon yesterday with a funny article that we both joked about. She responded around 8 pm. I hit her back up around 11ish when I got home. I just asked how her day at the beach was on Sunday. She replied today around 12 hours later it was great and that she had a lot of fun.

I have an iPhone she is droid.


Ok, in this case, I say don't engage anymore. I don't think it is because of the timing but she could have asked you how your weekend/day was and didn't.


+1
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:13     Subject: Re:Fourth Date Silence
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I lost you at groping.

Are you 12?


Try and give people a break. Getting back into dating after years has to brutal. Cell phones, Facebook, email, texting.".Its a whole new, dysfunctional world out there. So he groped her. What should have said? Felt her cans? Maybe he actually just held her elbow for 12 minutes?


I agree I think he said that so its like hey we went on four dates and shook hands at the end of each one. Dating is about escalation. You like each other you kiss, then you go from there.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:13     Subject: Fourth Date Silence
Anonymous wrote:OP, maybe she has a lot of stuff going on at work right now? What is she saying in her replies? I would think if she was no longer interested, she just wouldn't reply at all.


NP - even if she were all that busy, if she was interested she would have made an effort. stop being an apologist and just accept that she was acting a bit shitty.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:12     Subject: Fourth Date Silence
Anonymous wrote:Hey guys, so I sent her a text around noon yesterday with a funny article that we both joked about. She responded around 8 pm. I hit her back up around 11ish when I got home. I just asked how her day at the beach was on Sunday. She replied today around 12 hours later it was great and that she had a lot of fun.

I have an iPhone she is droid.


Ok, in this case, I say don't engage anymore. I don't think it is because of the timing but she could have asked you how your weekend/day was and didn't.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:08     Subject: Re:Fourth Date Silence
Anonymous wrote:I lost you at groping.

Are you 12?


Try and give people a break. Getting back into dating after years has to brutal. Cell phones, Facebook, email, texting.".Its a whole new, dysfunctional world out there. So he groped her. What should have said? Felt her cans? Maybe he actually just held her elbow for 12 minutes?
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:06     Subject: Fourth Date Silence
OP I think it was done before date 4. Once a woman sleeps with you there is typically more of an attachment. You didn't make it to that point so much easier for both people to walk away no harm no foul.
Anonymous
Post 07/28/2015 16:01     Subject: Re:Fourth Date Silence
I lost you at groping.

Are you 12?