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Anonymous wrote:I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.

Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men?

You have two problems:

a) a husband who would look at naked photos of other women, given the chance to,

b) a husband who hangs around with a sleezeball who sends around naked pictures of the woman he's sleeping with or dating, most likely without her consent.

My condolences.

I'd have been in my husband's face the second he'd walk into the door.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a happily married woman in my 40s and one of my besties is back in the dating game after a divorce.

Men she is dating will send her their "c**k" pics, and she will send it to me asking "what do you think?"

I will then make some suitably inappropriate remark and we will laugh about it.

I do not find OP's husband sketchy in anyway. He is not trying to hide anything, nor he is the one who is getting these pics sent to him by females.

Holy crap "dating" totally sucks now. Everyone is an azzhole now. Why is that?

Disgusting people attract/ tolerate disgusting people.

No. Dating does suck nowadays. Smartphones and social media has altered the romantic and sexual rules of engagement. For people in their 40s who are back in the dating game, it is a hard pill to swallow. Think hard before divorcing, because the pickings are slim out there.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.

Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men?

You have two problems:

a) a husband who would look at naked photos of other women, given the chance to,

b) a husband who hangs around with a sleezeball who sends around naked pictures of the woman he's sleeping with or dating, most likely without her consent.

My condolences.

I'd have been in my husband's face the second he'd walk into the door.

I don't believe it even for a second that your husband, given a chance, would not enjoy looking at photos of other naked women. Especially considering he is married to such a sunctimonious, uptight, righteous know-it-all. I bet you only have sex in the dark in the missionary position and only when you try to concieve a child. My condolences to your husband.

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Anonymous wrote:If the guy is forwarding and sharing pics without the woman's permission,both the guy and your husband are disgusting.

+ 1. This is what's wrong with the whole situation, not that your husband is vacariously enjoying his friend's sex life. If I was in the situation I would bring it up with DH and point out the obvious misogyny he is participating in.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.

Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men?

You have two problems:

a) a husband who would look at naked photos of other women, given the chance to,

b) a husband who hangs around with a sleezeball who sends around naked pictures of the woman he's sleeping with or dating, most likely without her consent.

My condolences.

I'd have been in my husband's face the second he'd walk into the door.

You're a real party. Condolences to your husband.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a happily married woman in my 40s and one of my besties is back in the dating game after a divorce.

Men she is dating will send her their "c**k" pics, and she will send it to me asking "what do you think?"

I will then make some suitably inappropriate remark and we will laugh about it.

I do not find OP's husband sketchy in anyway. He is not trying to hide anything, nor he is the one who is getting these pics sent to him by females.

Holy crap "dating" totally sucks now. Everyone is an azzhole now. Why is that?

Disgusting people attract/ tolerate disgusting people.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.

Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men?

You have two problems:

a) a husband who would look at naked photos of other women, given the chance to,

b) a husband who hangs around with a sleezeball who sends around naked pictures of the woman he's sleeping with or dating, most likely without her consent.

My condolences.

I'd have been in my husband's face the second he'd walk into the door.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.

Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men?

You have two problems:

a) a husband who would look at naked photos of other women, given the chance to,

b) a husband who hangs around with a sleezeball who sends around naked pictures of the woman he's sleeping with or dating, most likely without her consent.

My condolences.

I'd have been in my husband's face the second he'd walk into the door.

Anonymous wrote:I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.

Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men?

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Anonymous wrote:Maryland and other states have revenge porn laws. Basically no sharing nude pics without consent.

But Howie is just sharing pics of the hottie that he has been lucky enough to score. There's no revenge in his motives he's just sharing his good fortune with his bros (and bragging a bit too about his ability to attract the hot babes). What does the law say about that?

Anonymous wrote:Married guy here. I have been chasing poon and women have sent me provocative pics and asked me to send them some of mine. I simply go onto CL and find something that looks similar to what I'm packing, that doesn't show the person's face or much else, then send it to them. They don't know that it's not really me. I haven't been called out on it even once. Chances are that most of those pics on CL have been stolen from another site anyways.