Hi Everyone! I am the OP, and what are the odds of my awesomely schlumpy guy reading DCUM? I was totally embarrassed that he read my post, but in his usual fashion, he brushed it off with good humor.

What can I say? He's a wonderful man, fun, hardworking, affectionate, kind. We enjoy a lot of the same things and I am looking forward to a lot more time together. I only wish I'd have met him 20 years ago when I made the choice of marriage partner. You can bet I AM NOT letting him get away, if I can help it!

What a cute story!

To be honest, I prefer slightly shlumpy guys. First of all, they're generally not vain and/or players, nor are their expectations of my beauty regime unrealistic. Second, they usually have a lot more going on in their brains, which is attractive. Finally, with a little help, they can go from shlumpy to wow--a good haircut, some well fitting clothes, stylish glasses, etc,. And then everyone reacts positively, and he feels good about himself, people reinforce the relationship, affirming how great and/or happy he looks, and I am pleased that I snagged the diamond in the rough. Win win, all around.

No, but I can't stand facial hair on men,so I wouldn't have gone out with him in the first place.

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Anonymous wrote:I know this thread is ancient but would like an update about Shlumpy!

I'll need to verify to be sure, but I think I'm Shlumpy.

If true, she already realizes how lucky she is. I'm her "unicorn".

M

OP is a little embarassed, but I did confirm I'm her "Shlumpy" guy

We're both happy, and we grow closer every day we're together. I got a haircut (always get more compliments when it's short, just had let it get long for a bit), same with the beard. The glasses are always a struggle, my vision was 20/20 until a few years ago, and it was changing year by year. I just saw the optometrist yesterday, and it seems to have settled a bit, so I'm considering lasik. Contacts aren't a good option, unfortunately.

So, hey, give the shumps a shot! We're great guys

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. just wanted to report that I've now been out with said guy for third time, and it's been great! I'm so glad I did the second date, he's a GREAT guy.

Loved the comments and debate on the thread. Have a great weekend all!

That is awesome!!!

I regret the Shlumpy guy I spurned. I frequently wonder what might have happened if I hadn't been so judgmental. I was young and stupid.

So glad you gave him a chance!!!

+1

Hooray!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know this thread is ancient but would like an update about Shlumpy!

I'll need to verify to be sure, but I think I'm Shlumpy.

If true, she already realizes how lucky she is. I'm her "unicorn".

M

OP has some explaining to do if this is her guy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. just wanted to report that I've now been out with said guy for third time, and it's been great! I'm so glad I did the second date, he's a GREAT guy.

Loved the comments and debate on the thread. Have a great weekend all!

That is awesome!!!

I regret the Shlumpy guy I spurned. I frequently wonder what might have happened if I hadn't been so judgmental. I was young and stupid.

So glad you gave him a chance!!!

+1

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. just wanted to report that I've now been out with said guy for third time, and it's been great! I'm so glad I did the second date, he's a GREAT guy.

Loved the comments and debate on the thread. Have a great weekend all!

That is awesome!!!

I regret the Shlumpy guy I spurned. I frequently wonder what might have happened if I hadn't been so judgmental. I was young and stupid.

So glad you gave him a chance!!!

Anonymous wrote:I know this thread is ancient but would like an update about Shlumpy!

I'll need to verify to be sure, but I think I'm Shlumpy.

If true, she already realizes how lucky she is. I'm her "unicorn".

M

I know this thread is ancient but would like an update about Shlumpy!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband used to be pretty schlumpy. His mother's influence was probably the only thing that initially made him presentable. Now, 8 years into our marriage, he's really started taking an interest in his appearance and taking care of himself.

People change and grow.

But it took eight years.

Nah. It's not like he looked bad or never dressed up. it just wasn't a huge focus for him. it wasn't a huge focus for me either.

Sounds like you've taken some steps to look better, too. Win/win.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband used to be pretty schlumpy. His mother's influence was probably the only thing that initially made him presentable. Now, 8 years into our marriage, he's really started taking an interest in his appearance and taking care of himself.

People change and grow.

But it took eight years.

Nah. It's not like he looked bad or never dressed up. it just wasn't a huge focus for him. it wasn't a huge focus for me either.

Anonymous wrote:My husband used to be pretty schlumpy. His mother's influence was probably the only thing that initially made him presentable. Now, 8 years into our marriage, he's really started taking an interest in his appearance and taking care of himself.

People change and grow.

But it took eight years.

My husband used to be pretty schlumpy. His mother's influence was probably the only thing that initially made him presentable. Now, 8 years into our marriage, he's really started taking an interest in his appearance and taking care of himself.

People change and grow.

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Anonymous wrote:young women have a ton of sexual value

It's about all they have. They certainly don't have brains.

As they say: Youth is wasted on the young.

Can I kick you in the balls after I beat you at chess? Seems fair.