Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 15:28     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:I think that you should pass on the ice cream tonight since you were too sick to get your ass out of bed and feed your kid this morning.


Was that your comment in the ice cream thread. It seemed needlessly bitchy.


Nope, I haven't seen that thread (or posted on this page of mine, FWIW!)
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 15:28     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When you say something mean to someone, do you ever put yourself in their shoes and think about how you just made them feel?

Yikes.



Yes, if they said something stupid, hopefully it made them feel...wait for it....stupid.


What if they are, in fact, stupid, as in less intelligent that you are? What can they do about it?


They could keep it to themselves.

Or phone a friend.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 15:27     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When you say something mean to someone, do you ever put yourself in their shoes and think about how you just made them feel?

Yikes.



Yes, if they said something stupid, hopefully it made them feel...wait for it....stupid.


What if they are, in fact, stupid, as in less intelligent that you are? What can they do about it?


They could keep it to themselves.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 15:24     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
I think that you should pass on the ice cream tonight since you were too sick to get your ass out of bed and feed your kid this morning.


Was that your comment in the ice cream thread. It seemed needlessly bitchy.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 15:22     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When you say something mean to someone, do you ever put yourself in their shoes and think about how you just made them feel?

Yikes.



Yes, if they said something stupid, hopefully it made them feel...wait for it....stupid.


What if they are, in fact, stupid, as in less intelligent that you are? What can they do about it?
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 15:22     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
That's the thing though. If you read my OP, you'll see that I'm really NOT insecure. I'm not perfect - hey, judgmental obviously! - but insecurity isn't something I struggle with. Which makes me wonder why I do this.

I also don't curse on DCUM, though I do IRL. Like poor grammar and spelling, it renders posts irrelevant IMO.

Just because you said you're not insecure in your OP, doesn't mean you're not. I assume that you are very insecure. Also, pointing out someone's poor grammar and spelling just means that you have nothing to add to the discussion. Do you really think you have to have perfect grammar to offer advice on parenting or anything else (except for grammar, of course).


Why does someone have to be insecure to have strong opinions? I genuinely don't get why that's a go-to. Sure, say I'm bitchy or judgmental or snooty - that makes more sense. But how does insecure even play in?


I have lots of strong opinions. About myself, my children, my family. But what another family does isn't really that interesting to me because I don't see how it affects me. One reason people care about what others do is because they see it as a judgment of what they do. For instance, you admittedly don't support SAHMs. While working is certainly a fine choice, there is no reason to have such strong opinions about what others do, unless you aren't really secure in your own decisions and use it as a defense mechanism - insult others to make you feel mor superior about your own life.


That's not universally true. I'm against SAH because it was horrible for my mother and while I understand not all women are like her, the topic provokes a strong reaction due to my personal history.


Well, that is dumb


Dumb, but human, just like emotional eating and retail "therapy."
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 15:20     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When you say something mean to someone, do you ever put yourself in their shoes and think about how you just made them feel?

Yikes.



Yes, if they said something stupid, hopefully it made them feel...wait for it....stupid.

Good answer!!!
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 15:19     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:When you say something mean to someone, do you ever put yourself in their shoes and think about how you just made them feel?

Yikes.



Yes, if they said something stupid, hopefully it made them feel...wait for it....stupid.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 15:18     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
When you say something mean to someone, do you ever put yourself in their shoes and think about how you just made them feel?

Yikes.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 15:11     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
That's the thing though. If you read my OP, you'll see that I'm really NOT insecure. I'm not perfect - hey, judgmental obviously! - but insecurity isn't something I struggle with. Which makes me wonder why I do this.

I also don't curse on DCUM, though I do IRL. Like poor grammar and spelling, it renders posts irrelevant IMO.

Just because you said you're not insecure in your OP, doesn't mean you're not. I assume that you are very insecure. Also, pointing out someone's poor grammar and spelling just means that you have nothing to add to the discussion. Do you really think you have to have perfect grammar to offer advice on parenting or anything else (except for grammar, of course).


Why does someone have to be insecure to have strong opinions? I genuinely don't get why that's a go-to. Sure, say I'm bitchy or judgmental or snooty - that makes more sense. But how does insecure even play in?


I have lots of strong opinions. About myself, my children, my family. But what another family does isn't really that interesting to me because I don't see how it affects me. One reason people care about what others do is because they see it as a judgment of what they do. For instance, you admittedly don't support SAHMs. While working is certainly a fine choice, there is no reason to have such strong opinions about what others do, unless you aren't really secure in your own decisions and use it as a defense mechanism - insult others to make you feel mor superior about your own life.


That's not universally true. I'm against SAH because it was horrible for my mother and while I understand not all women are like her, the topic provokes a strong reaction due to my personal history.


Well, that is dumb
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 15:08     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you called someone a horrible person? I hate when posters do that.


no, those kind of insults (I feel sorry for your kids etc) aren't my bag.

OP, I actually do feel sorry for your kids and anyone you are in close contact with IRL.


Now these are the kind of fools that bring out the mean in me. Such a stupid thing to say, and so baseless. Do you really not have anything more valid, or at least humorous, to contribute? Such an asinine comment based on so little, and so common.

--not OP.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 15:02     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
That's the thing though. If you read my OP, you'll see that I'm really NOT insecure. I'm not perfect - hey, judgmental obviously! - but insecurity isn't something I struggle with. Which makes me wonder why I do this.

I also don't curse on DCUM, though I do IRL. Like poor grammar and spelling, it renders posts irrelevant IMO.

Just because you said you're not insecure in your OP, doesn't mean you're not. I assume that you are very insecure. Also, pointing out someone's poor grammar and spelling just means that you have nothing to add to the discussion. Do you really think you have to have perfect grammar to offer advice on parenting or anything else (except for grammar, of course).


Why does someone have to be insecure to have strong opinions? I genuinely don't get why that's a go-to. Sure, say I'm bitchy or judgmental or snooty - that makes more sense. But how does insecure even play in?


I have lots of strong opinions. About myself, my children, my family. But what another family does isn't really that interesting to me because I don't see how it affects me. One reason people care about what others do is because they see it as a judgment of what they do. For instance, you admittedly don't support SAHMs. While working is certainly a fine choice, there is no reason to have such strong opinions about what others do, unless you aren't really secure in your own decisions and use it as a defense mechanism - insult others to make you feel mor superior about your own life.


That's not universally true. I'm against SAH because it was horrible for my mother and while I understand not all women are like her, the topic provokes a strong reaction due to my personal history.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 14:51     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Okay, I've only gotten to page 6 but you don't sound so bad, OP. This seems to be false advertising. I don't get from this thread that you're ever intentionally cruel or actively try to hurt people. And there are plenty of people in this online community that do.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 14:42     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, I have no questions for you because I tend to enjoy the snarky posts. DCUM is entertainment for me. Every circus needs a clown and we all know that clowns are depressed (tears of a clown). Thanks for fulfilling that role.



Wow, talk about insults that fall flat.


Yeah I didn't really get that one, either - OP
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 14:41     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I like you OP. You are one of the reasons I keep coming here. You say it like it is. I wish you could do that IRL, too but I'll take it here. I am not sensing insecurity, btw.

Time to start a new thread, OP: "I am a sock puppet. AMA".


totally wasn't me, I promise. - OP