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Anonymous wrote:Are there really people in the world who have never said something mean during an argument? I ask in all seriousness -- this is an eye-opener for me if true. I assumed we'd all had our moments saying things we've later regretted.

My DH and I will disagree strenuously. We don't raise voices. We don't call each other names. We don't swear at each other. And we don't say intentionally mean things.

I personally would never be with someone who does any of the above. And when you date for several years before marriage (pretty much the norm these days), it's not like any of the above behavior should be a surprise.


Actually, you're wrong about this. This is a myth people have who have never known abuse victims. They think that there must always be red flags. I've known women who dated men for years, and it wasn't until after getting married or after having children that the abusive behavior emerged. It's usually when the abuser feels confident they "have" the person (i.e., the person is very unlikely to leave because they are financial reliant or something).

Anonymous wrote:My husband told me my mother is a much better lay than I am.

Anonymous wrote:Are there really people in the world who have never said something mean during an argument? I ask in all seriousness -- this is an eye-opener for me if true. I assumed we'd all had our moments saying things we've later regretted.

Anonymous wrote:To all the people who can’t fathom being spoken to this way: just be grateful you didn’t grow up in an abusive household. Some of us did and we didn’t know better.

Anonymous wrote:Your friend X’s cock feels so much better.

Anonymous wrote:To all the people who can’t fathom being spoken to this way: just be grateful you didn’t grow up in an abusive household. Some of us did and we didn’t know better.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there really people in the world who have never said something mean during an argument? I ask in all seriousness -- this is an eye-opener for me if true. I assumed we'd all had our moments saying things we've later regretted.

Yes there are. My DH and I argue occasionally but we don't call eachother names and we stay respectul. We stick to the subject at hand which is usually something minor like how to stack the dishwasher. IMO there is a right way and a wrong way to argue. Argument is meant to be about communication and even during an argument it's important that you communicate that you love eachother anyway.

I would dump a man who said any of the above things to me immediately. I'd rather be alone.

I think John Gottman said that the death knell of a relationship is when a partner shows contempt for the other. A lot of these comments display just that IMO.