Anonymous
Post 08/18/2014 21:56     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
Anonymous wrote:UMD is a respected school, especially in STEM fields. The poster who called it a crappy school is probably from some out-of-touch, privileged background.

I didn't think privileged background. I would say someone with a chip on their shoulder because all they got from an Ivy league education was a crappy government lawyer job.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2014 20:58     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
Anonymous wrote:UMD is a respected school, especially in STEM fields. The poster who called it a crappy school is probably from some out-of-touch, privileged background.


It's really not, though.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2014 20:41     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
UMD is a respected school, especially in STEM fields. The poster who called it a crappy school is probably from some out-of-touch, privileged background.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2014 17:12     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
Anonymous wrote:Berkeley.


When the Gipper was governor of California, he said the (male) Berkeley student protestors reminded him of his Hollywood film days: They yelled like Tarzan, smelled like Cheetah and had hair like Jane.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2014 22:27     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
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Anonymous wrote:I cannot think of any schools I'd forbid my child attending, although I'd be reluctant to pay for a school that wasn't accredited or super ideological like Bob Jones, Liberty or Patrick Henry. Other than that I'd want my child to make their own decision about the best college for them.


Me too.


Same here. If my kid wanted to go to one of those schools I'd before upset with myself - parenting fail. I also would have qualms about UNLV - I can't think of a good reason to go to college in Vegas, and I know for me it would have been catastrophic. Tulane is on the bubble, though it's a great school.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2014 22:13     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
My own SLAC and any others that charge $65K a year. It's just not worth destroying our retirement, 529 funds,as PP said, or bankrupting our kids with hundreds of thousands of dollars of student loans. Go VA universities all the way. $9500 a year.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2014 18:27     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
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Anonymous wrote:University of Maryland any campus. Awful.

My DS attend University of Maryland, primarily because I wanted him to live at home. He just turned 15 in June so it seemed reasonable.


say what?

Finished high school early so started college early. Not too hard to figure out.


I'm surprised that you didn't let him finish HS on time and go to a better school instead. Who cares if he's so smart that he finished 2-3 years early if he just goes to an average/crappy school in the end anyway.

Not the PP, but you must be a miserable person that manages to find fault with everything. There's a lot of people with degrees from University of Maryland that are doing just fine. I have both my BS and MS from UMd and I'm a C-level executive in a large, multinational corporation, DH has undergrad from UMd and he's a CIO, BIL has engineering degree from UMd and he just got promoted to SVP at his company and SIL with a BA from UMd is SES. So, from our family's perspective a UMd degree has been far from crappy.

Anonymous
Post 08/13/2014 16:08     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
Anonymous wrote:Anywhere that doesn't give us enough aid to get into. I love my kids, but at the end of the day, I think a decent education with little to no loans at graduation is a better gift than a high price tag education.


I agree with this completely. Have worked at universities for 10+ years.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2014 16:06     Subject: Re:Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
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Anonymous wrote:I love the way some posters are saying they "won't allow" certain schools. You know how I can tell you don't have college kids?

We have one who has graduated, three in college now, one in high school. My four oldest chose very different schools. Because we are the ones paying, of course we had some say in where they decided to go. But the only thing we said was that we would pay the equivalent of in-state tuition. Anything extra would have to be scholarships or other aid. Other that that, we let them make the decision.

These are ADULTS. You need to put aside your own prejudices (Really? No schools anywhere in the South? How stupid do you have to be to come up with something like that) and your own college experiences (The poster who hates Greek life was so obviously shut out of every good sorority) and let your adult children make their own decisions.

No wonder so many of you have kids on medication and in therapy.


I have three adult children all done with college and beyond.

We made it clear to them when they were in high school that we had the right to veto any school that we thought was not suitable for them. So with our help a short list of schools was drawn up in which they were heavily involved. They were fine with it.

Why did we do this? Easy, we were paying for their college and as long as it was on our dime we had a say - not that we would decide the school they would go to but we would decide which school they would NOT go to.

When it came to grad school, law school, med school, they made the decision partly because they were funding most of the cost and also because they were really mature enough to make a decision. You may think that 18 year olds can make informed decisions and some can - but many cannot and it is the role of the parents to guide them and if we are paying for it to have a decisive say on what is not acceptable.

BTW, none of my kids are or have been on medication or therapy.


What on earth does this have to do with the topic at hand?


PP's pretty sure that kids with LDs just need a swift kick in the ass from their parents to get better. Letting kids choose their college is just a symptom of lax parenting that leads to therapy and medication.


You're both slow. Read the whole exchange and you'll get it.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2014 16:00     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
Anonymous wrote:To the Greek Life haters, I don't get it. If you hated it in college, fine. Great. I am sure you didn't join. But you are not your children. Can't they make their own decisions. Will you ban them from joining the Lions Club or The Women's Clubs or Rotary or any other benevolent organization. I am guessing that you are unaware that every greek organization has a mission and the "social" greek organizations all raise money for causes such as Komen for the Cure and The Children's Miracle Network.

So when I was in college, I spent part of most weekends at a Greek sponsored event that had the goal to raise money for the host sorority or fraternities philanthropy. What do you do for society that was so much better?

I love to volunteer but hate to do it alone. So I did volunteering in college via my greek organization and now through local philanthropic organizations. If you have a like-minded child, please fight your own prejudices and let him or her find a social network that at least makes giving back to society part of the deal.

Or don't. Ridicule it and make fun it with your kids while you all hang out and lament how nobody takes the time to volunteer.


Raising money for Komen doesn't win you any points in my book.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2014 15:58     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
Anonymous wrote:Any school that has disinvited a speaker due to student protests. If a college stands for anything it should be academic freedom.


+1
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2014 15:58     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:University of Maryland any campus. Awful.

My DS attend University of Maryland, primarily because I wanted him to live at home. He just turned 15 in June so it seemed reasonable.


say what?

Finished high school early so started college early. Not too hard to figure out.


I'm surprised that you didn't let him finish HS on time and go to a better school instead. Who cares if he's so smart that he finished 2-3 years early if he just goes to an average/crappy school in the end anyway.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2014 15:57     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
Anonymous wrote:Any of the uber-conservative schools - Oral Roberts, Liberty, Bob Jones, etc.

Well, I guess DC could go but I would not pay a dime.


+1 I'm not paying for a fake "education."
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2014 15:55     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
Overly conservative and/or religious schools
Penn State
JMU
GMU

Would also encourage not to go too far south.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2014 15:50     Subject: Any colleges you wouldn't allow your kid to go to?
Anywhere that doesn't give us enough aid to get into. I love my kids, but at the end of the day, I think a decent education with little to no loans at graduation is a better gift than a high price tag education.