Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 05:33     Subject: Re:Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
Sleep in the bedroom with the twin beds with the kids. Have DH sleep on the couch. If ILs are staying up late, DH can hang out with them since it's his family.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 23:12     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
Anonymous wrote:I'll try to stick with facts, and avoid my side commentary on this...

IL's rented a beach house for a week, with one extra bedroom.
6 hour drive from us.
Invited us (me, dh, preschooler, baby) to join them for 2 nights.
We agree.
3 weeks before the trip they send us the details on the house (we had been asking for months).
The extra bedroom has 2 twin beds, with about 2 feet of floor space between them (remember we are a family of 4).
The other bedrooms in the house are no bigger.

WWDCUM Do?
Renting our own house is not an option - we are in a financial tight spot and were planning on foregoing a summer vacation this year.


go!

what is the worst that can happen? it rains for days in a row until it is intolerable and you leave and go home.

so what
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 23:08     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
Anonymous wrote:How much time do you intend on spending in the bedroom??? You are there for 2 nights max (long way to drive for such a short stay) and it is free.
Seriously, you can't make it work? PullouT couch in the living room, air mattress?

Did you ask ILs what their plan was for 4 people with 2 twin beds?


THIS. What is the ILs problem?

Also OP, beware. My dh was abused by his family. They know he will not speak up for himself, and certainly not for anyone else. To the "closet room" it is!

Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 23:05     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
Anonymous wrote:The rule: House should not exceed maximum number of occupants on the rental lease.

If house "sleeps 8" then feel free to invite 8. If that means that your teen boys don't want to share a room with a couple of oldsters in the family, they can sleep in a sleeping bag or on the couch or wherever. If that is completely UNACCEPTABLE in your eyes, don't go. Just don't get all pouty if people stop issuing invites to you. That's all.



IF ONLY......

Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 22:53     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
How much time do you intend on spending in the bedroom??? You are there for 2 nights max (long way to drive for such a short stay) and it is free.
Seriously, you can't make it work? PullouT couch in the living room, air mattress?

Did you ask ILs what their plan was for 4 people with 2 twin beds?
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 22:46     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
Put kids to bed then you and DH Just get drunk and pass out wherever.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 22:24     Subject: Re:Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
The one bathroom is worse than the sleeping arrangements. Don't go.
It will suck. You will all be sleep deprived and cranky. Stay home.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 21:43     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
OP, there are lots of crazy people on this thread. Here's a simple suggestion. Have DH call and ask if a pack n play will fit in the room in addition to the twin beds. If it will, go and give the toddler one of the beds while you or DH sleep in the living room after the parents go to sleep. If it will not, it's honestly not safe with a mobile baby. Have DH tell them you are sorry and you wished you'd discussed things more but that you need some floor space for the baby to sleep safely.

Have DH do this, not even consult you on the phone so all of this is his idea.

I hope it works out, and either way that you have a nice vacation. Go visit the in laws at their regular house if you don't go to this one. I'm sure they'll be happy to see the baby there instead of at the beach.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 21:08     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
The rule: House should not exceed maximum number of occupants on the rental lease.

If house "sleeps 8" then feel free to invite 8. If that means that your teen boys don't want to share a room with a couple of oldsters in the family, they can sleep in a sleeping bag or on the couch or wherever. If that is completely UNACCEPTABLE in your eyes, don't go. Just don't get all pouty if people stop issuing invites to you. That's all.

Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 20:22     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would go and if the first night is horrible drive home early It is doable IMO ..



How do you make it work with one bed (queen, if we are lucky), two adults, and two pre teens???? And no room for an air mattress to lay on the floor and not at a very obvious angle? PP refuses to answer this, curiously.

MIL is that you??!!





OP said a preschooler and a baby, so that's what I was responding to. Agree if it was 2 pre-teens it would be different.


Okay, just checking to make sure not everyone was "out there in left field" like MIL

I think if you ask people to join you; or assume they are going to join you; or announce to them the date of vacation rental, with the expectation that they join you (did I cover everything for the obtuse IL's?) then you at least owe them a comfortable place to sleep that is NOT the floor. We own a beach house and would NEVER, EVER, EVER (YES, NEVER) ask someone to join us with any expectation that they would sleep on any floor. Ever. Is this so outrageous to some people? Is beach house synonymous with camping to some?

There is no question in my mind, each and every occupant of the house should be treated with common kindness, dignity and respect. If not, have the balls to tell them that you would rather they not attend. Is it so difficult?

Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 12:25     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would go and if the first night is horrible drive home early It is doable IMO ..



How do you make it work with one bed (queen, if we are lucky), two adults, and two pre teens???? And no room for an air mattress to lay on the floor and not at a very obvious angle? PP refuses to answer this, curiously.

MIL is that you??!!





This was answered earlier in the thread but I'll repeat: Put the kids in sleeping bags on the living room floor deck or wherever. They are almost teenagers - they'll be o.k.!


OMG. Is it supposed to be camping in a tent, or is it supposed to be some "big deal" overpriced, oversized rental? And if it is, why isn't there enough space??????

OP, are ALL of the almost grown children sleeping that way, or just your kids???? Because if it is just your kids, whomever rented the house needs to divide rooms EVENLY and act like a proper grandparent. They are doing NO ONE *ANY* favors if there is not enough room in the damn house. No one should be inviting ANYONE if there is not enough room. Isn't this basic common sense?



Looking back, I would have missed out on so many good times if I had stuck to those types of rules. Feel free to stick to them though - for yourself. Just don't expect everyone else to do the same.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 12:06     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would go and if the first night is horrible drive home early It is doable IMO ..



How do you make it work with one bed (queen, if we are lucky), two adults, and two pre teens???? And no room for an air mattress to lay on the floor and not at a very obvious angle? PP refuses to answer this, curiously.

MIL is that you??!!





OP said a preschooler and a baby, so that's what I was responding to. Agree if it was 2 pre-teens it would be different.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 11:52     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would go and if the first night is horrible drive home early It is doable IMO ..



How do you make it work with one bed (queen, if we are lucky), two adults, and two pre teens???? And no room for an air mattress to lay on the floor and not at a very obvious angle? PP refuses to answer this, curiously.

MIL is that you??!!





This was answered earlier in the thread but I'll repeat: Put the kids in sleeping bags on the living room floor deck or wherever. They are almost teenagers - they'll be o.k.!


OMG. Is it supposed to be camping in a tent, or is it supposed to be some "big deal" overpriced, oversized rental? And if it is, why isn't there enough space??????

OP, are ALL of the almost grown children sleeping that way, or just your kids???? Because if it is just your kids, whomever rented the house needs to divide rooms EVENLY and act like a proper grandparent. They are doing NO ONE *ANY* favors if there is not enough room in the damn house. No one should be inviting ANYONE if there is not enough room. Isn't this basic common sense?

Anonymous
Post 07/13/2014 21:43     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
Anonymous wrote:In OBX, many of the basements have very obviously been flooded. You will recall, not too many years ago, that "beach houses" there were built on stilts in an attempt to thwart this. When they started building larger houses, it was a marketing effort, as the realtors built "beach houses" as investments. They make no secret of it.

In which case, when sleeping in a cold, wet, musty basement is the only option, sleeping on the floor is not a possibility. If you have any kind of allergies, sleeping on the basement floor is a legitimate health concern. Never mind the fact that no one I know would be able to get a decent night's sleep, at all. For an entire week? Or two? One would be bad enough. In addition, is this your only vacation time, OP? Is this how you want to spend it?

OP, if they are such cads, have your own vacation elsewhere, where you are not subjected to their acting out, and their thinking they are somehow doing you a favor.


If you're accommodations involve staying in a flooded, moldy basement you say - "No thank you". You do understand that "basements" in the OBX are not underground but merely first level and that not all first levels have been previously flooded?
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2014 21:35     Subject: Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would go and if the first night is horrible drive home early It is doable IMO ..



How do you make it work with one bed (queen, if we are lucky), two adults, and two pre teens???? And no room for an air mattress to lay on the floor and not at a very obvious angle? PP refuses to answer this, curiously.

MIL is that you??!!





This was answered earlier in the thread but I'll repeat: Put the kids in sleeping bags on the living room floor deck or wherever. They are almost teenagers - they'll be o.k.!