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Anonymous wrote:Also marriage is NOT for life. Nobody has to be tied to destructive and unhealthy dogma for the sake of what exactly?

That's all you need to know, fellas. Marriage is little more than transfer of wealth.

Ouch. scary...

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Anonymous wrote:Also marriage is NOT for life. Nobody has to be tied to destructive and unhealthy dogma for the sake of what exactly?

That's all you need to know, fellas. Marriage is little more than transfer of wealth.

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Anonymous wrote:Were you in a coma the entire time you dated him and throughout the ensuing years after marriage? Maybe the problem is you.

Are you trying to say that you believe people stay the absolute same throughout their lives and don't change when in a marriage?

It never ceases to amaze me that people cannot see beyond their own noses. No wonder this world is full of wars and violence. Very few people have the ability to imagine that other people have other circumstances.

I am so thankful for my marriage. My DH and I met when we were 20 & 21. We have changed tremendously through the years. We are not the same people who met in 1998. I feel like it is simply luck that we changed together and remained compatible. ..and stronger. I realize that we are lucky and this is not everyone's experience.

I can't wrap my head around the fact that other people cannot see that everyone has a unique experience. Also marriage is NOT for life. Nobody has to be tied to destructive and unhealthy dogma for the sake of what exactly?

Then don't marry ....... just live together and when you have had enough of each other then move on.

Marriage is not serial monogamy either where you marry, divorce ...... rinse and repeat. At the very least don't make a mockery of marriage vows. How about a vow to stay together until we decide we have had enough?

Sorry, you domt get to decide the universal operating procedures of marriage.

If your mate has significantly changed and has sucked the happiness out of your life, time to move on.

I'm in a healthy relationship. Everyone should have that opportunity. I'd rather be alone with my cats and cabernet than resorting to complaining about my shitty spouse on an anonymous website. When that day comes and it is that bad, time to spit the bank account and move along.

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Anonymous wrote:Also marriage is NOT for life. Nobody has to be tied to destructive and unhealthy dogma for the sake of what exactly?

That's all you need to know, fellas. Marriage is little more than transfer of wealth.

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To the other poster....the same size as I was when they were in their full glory at age 23. Nursing two babies for a year each really did a number on them.

Anonymous wrote:Also marriage is NOT for life. Nobody has to be tied to destructive and unhealthy dogma for the sake of what exactly?

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Speak for your own wife! Many of us take pride in our appearance. I'm 36 and I have two children. I'm 5'9". I was 142 on our wedding day and 148 today. I work out daily and am MORE fit today than my wedding day, plus I have a new set of tits.

Who paid for those?

The husband, I suppose, but at least he's getting a return on investment.

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Anonymous wrote:Bitch OP here. So, after a few days of us not really talking, my H showed up at my office this morning, told me how much he loved me, and that he misses me. We went to lunch and talked. I told him that I love him, but I also did not want to fight about who did what b/c we always end up in the same spot. We are who we are, and we probably aren't changing. He said he realizes that he has been an asshole lately. And he also wants me to do my part (less bitchy, probably). That's fair. So, good day. We'll see. Inevitably, my scale will tip back in the direction of "fed up with this shit", but who knows when, for how long, and whether it will remain that way.

This is marriage, OP. It's up and down, just like life. You don't sound very easy to live with yourself.

Eventually, you get older. And you see that you can't just trade partners because you're bored or he's ticking you off. Many of my friends who divorced in their 40s are still single. The dating dynamics just aren't in their favor as the 45-year-old man likes 35-year-old women.

Your daughter should be your priority, since you choose to have her, and she deserves an intact family.

Sorry your happiness is having a warm body next to you at night...any warm body. I have a newsflash for you: some people are OK not dating. Very often no spouse is better than any spouse.

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What the what? I'm a size 2 who's not a fan of misogynists. I guess this is the kind of thread that draws all you misogynists for your periodic spew!

What is with this misogyny b-s? Any criticism of women - in fact, anything that is perceived to adversely affect women's interests - is automatically attributed to misogynistic behavior.

The reality is that some men don't like overweight women and find them quite unattractive - and let's face it, there is no shortage of overweight/obese women. No different than women who don't like men who are shorter than them. And, yes, many women let themselves go after they get married and attribute it to having children.

Even the Hobby Lobby decision - which people can disagree on - is immediately attributed to misogynistic male justices.

Ludicrous.........

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Anonymous wrote:Bitch OP here. So, after a few days of us not really talking, my H showed up at my office this morning, told me how much he loved me, and that he misses me. We went to lunch and talked. I told him that I love him, but I also did not want to fight about who did what b/c we always end up in the same spot. We are who we are, and we probably aren't changing. He said he realizes that he has been an asshole lately. And he also wants me to do my part (less bitchy, probably). That's fair. So, good day. We'll see. Inevitably, my scale will tip back in the direction of "fed up with this shit", but who knows when, for how long, and whether it will remain that way.

This is marriage, OP. It's up and down, just like life. You don't sound very easy to live with yourself.

Eventually, you get older. And you see that you can't just trade partners because you're bored or he's ticking you off. Many of my friends who divorced in their 40s are still single. The dating dynamics just aren't in their favor as the 45-year-old man likes 35-year-old women.

Your daughter should be your priority, since you choose to have her, and she deserves an intact family.

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Anonymous wrote:Were you in a coma the entire time you dated him and throughout the ensuing years after marriage? Maybe the problem is you.

Are you trying to say that you believe people stay the absolute same throughout their lives and don't change when in a marriage?

It never ceases to amaze me that people cannot see beyond their own noses. No wonder this world is full of wars and violence. Very few people have the ability to imagine that other people have other circumstances.

I am so thankful for my marriage. My DH and I met when we were 20 & 21. We have changed tremendously through the years. We are not the same people who met in 1998. I feel like it is simply luck that we changed together and remained compatible. ..and stronger. I realize that we are lucky and this is not everyone's experience.

I can't wrap my head around the fact that other people cannot see that everyone has a unique experience. Also marriage is NOT for life. Nobody has to be tied to destructive and unhealthy dogma for the sake of what exactly?

Then don't marry ....... just live together and when you have had enough of each other then move on.

Marriage is not serial monogamy either where you marry, divorce ...... rinse and repeat. At the very least don't make a mockery of marriage vows. How about a vow to stay together until we decide we have had enough?

Anonymous wrote:Bitch OP here. So, after a few days of us not really talking, my H showed up at my office this morning, told me how much he loved me, and that he misses me. We went to lunch and talked. I told him that I love him, but I also did not want to fight about who did what b/c we always end up in the same spot. We are who we are, and we probably aren't changing. He said he realizes that he has been an asshole lately. And he also wants me to do my part (less bitchy, probably). That's fair. So, good day. We'll see. Inevitably, my scale will tip back in the direction of "fed up with this shit", but who knows when, for how long, and whether it will remain that way.

Anonymous wrote:Bitch OP here. So, after a few days of us not really talking, my H showed up at my office this morning, told me how much he loved me, and that he misses me. We went to lunch and talked. I told him that I love him, but I also did not want to fight about who did what b/c we always end up in the same spot. We are who we are, and we probably aren't changing. He said he realizes that he has been an asshole lately. And he also wants me to do my part (less bitchy, probably). That's fair. So, good day. We'll see. Inevitably, my scale will tip back in the direction of "fed up with this shit", but who knows when, for how long, and whether it will remain that way.