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Anonymous wrote:How do you pose nude involuntarily?

There have been a number of cases where pictures were taken of people without their knowledge or volition.

You mean they were drugged or drunk?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you pose nude involuntarily?

There have been a number of cases where pictures were taken of people without their knowledge or volition.

Anonymous wrote:How do you pose nude involuntarily?

Anonymous wrote:

There have been a number of other cases in the past few years that have involved involuntarily taken pictures, so it is better at this point not to assume either way.

Can you provide a link. I don't know of any cases in this area that teen boys took pictures of girls involuntarily. There are multiple cases that have been linked in this thread about boys taking pictures given to them and sharing them.

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Anonymous wrote:High school kids still need a responsible adult at home after school. Someone who cares.

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Anonymous wrote:Kids don't wear watches these days or use alarm clocks. They rely on their cell phones to tell the time and set their alarms.

It's hard to know what should be turned on and what should be turned off, particularly when kids are a year or two from being sent off to live on their own. It was much much easier when all parents had to say was no TV on school nights, or no TV after 10.

Don't you see the bill? If there's a problem, you let your kid have an alarm clock. Hello? Why are you making up excuses?

Parents are bound by parenting by technology and will justify it to infinity; not to mention how their kid simply must have technology to socialize, lest their snowflake be "unpopular."

Sadly, parents are allowing their kid's morals to be influenced by immature peers who bypass parental influence via social technologies at all times of the day and night. It is akin to allowing illegal drugs in the house.

Notice the kids at the bus stops in the morning. Heads down looking at cell phones before they even get on the bus. What happened to "no phone calls until after school and no phone calls after 9pm on school nights" (when everybody still had landlines and friends had to speak to mom or dad first)?

Never ask"WHY?"

When my children misbehaved or messed up, I never asked them "WHY did you . . . ?"

Why did you come home an hour late? Why did you come home with alcohol on your breath? Why didn't you clean up your room? Why did you leave a mess in the kitchen? Why didn't you finish your homework? Why did you finger-paint on the walls?
When the parent asks a child WHY?, the child learns to create good excuses, shifts blame onto others, views himself or herself as a "victim of circumstances" -- and not does not learn to take responsibility for his or her behavior.

Talking about WHY the child misbehaved will not teach the child that he has control over himself, his environment and his future. Talking about WHY will not teach the child to take responsibility for his actions. When you ask a child "Why," it's easy to slip in some guilt - "Why did you do this? You upset me so much. You made me feel terrible."

Stay away from guilt.
Before my first child was born, I worked in juvenile training schools. I read a book called Reality Therapy by psychologist William Glasser. This book changed the way I dealt with the kids I worked with and it changed how I viewed my job as a parent.

Dr. Glasser wrote:
"Eliminate the word 'why' from your vocabulary in dealing with child behavior. So often, children don't know 'why.' They acted because 'I felt like doing it' and they don't really know why. Never ask 'Why?' Instead, ask 'What did you do?'"
Have the child explain what he or she did. Have him describe his behaviors, starting at the beginning, through the sobs, the tears, and the temper when sobs and tears don't work. Break the incident down into small steps. Do not focus on "why."

As a parent, you want to know why. Don't give into your curiosity.
Go over the incident until it is very clear what happened, when, etc.
Your next question is "What are you going to do about it?"

What are you going to do about your misbehavior, or your impulses, or your anger so this does not happen again?

The third question is: How can we make sure this will not happen again?

What checks and balances will you put in place to ensure that it will not happen again?

What punishment should we use now?

What should we do if this happens again?

Will we have a battle about it? If we do, what additional punishment shall we initiate if we have to fight with you about doing this again, and not following through as you said you would?
When the child misbehaves, you can ask questions - but never ask WHY?

Ask these questions instead:
• What did you do?
• What are you going to do about it?
• To ensure that this does not happen again, what should we do to you now?
• If this does happen again, despite your good intentions now, how much more severe shall the punishment be next time?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids don't wear watches these days or use alarm clocks. They rely on their cell phones to tell the time and set their alarms.

It's hard to know what should be turned on and what should be turned off, particularly when kids are a year or two from being sent off to live on their own. It was much much easier when all parents had to say was no TV on school nights, or no TV after 10.

Don't you see the bill? If there's a problem, you let your kid have an alarm clock. Hello? Why are you making up excuses?

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If we were talking about adults preying on juveniles for mass distribution, that would be one thing, but this activity appears to have been taking place among juveniles within a closed system. My bet is that, had some of the girls learned that a boy was compiling these pictures in a folder, he's the one who would have been stigmatized for being "pervy" and breaking the social compact among the students exchanging the pictures.

Lucy Caldwell, a spokeswoman for Fairfax County police, said she could not comment on the pending investigation. The search warrants identify the offense under investigation as “possession, reproduction, distribution, and facilitation of child pornography.”

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids don't wear watches these days or use alarm clocks. They rely on their cell phones to tell the time and set their alarms.

It's hard to know what should be turned on and what should be turned off, particularly when kids are a year or two from being sent off to live on their own. It was much much easier when all parents had to say was no TV on school nights, or no TV after 10.

Don't you see the bill? If there's a problem, you let your kid have an alarm clock. Hello? Why are you making up excuses?

Thanks. We have not had a problem with the volume or content of text messages.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids don't wear watches these days or use alarm clocks. They rely on their cell phones to tell the time and set their alarms.

It's hard to know what should be turned on and what should be turned off, particularly when kids are a year or two from being sent off to live on their own. It was much much easier when all parents had to say was no TV on school nights, or no TV after 10.

Don't you see the bill? If there's a problem, you let your kid have an alarm clock. Hello? Why are you making up excuses?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High school kids still need a responsible adult at home after school. Someone who cares.

The research on HS sexting shows that most of it occurs between 11 PM and 4 AM, so having a SAHP to greet a teen at 3 PM may not make a big difference.

Even the Amish have Rumspringa.

The less the know your kid, the less able you are to properly parent your kid. Hint: You take *your* cell phones to your bedroom when you go to sleep at night. Please do tell, what in the hell is so hard about that? Oh wait. And your kid will be pissed at you. So you will allow anything to avoid that discomfort. Right? Your children are parenting themselves.

Anonymous wrote:High school kids still need a responsible adult at home after school. Someone who cares.

Anonymous wrote:Kids don't wear watches these days or use alarm clocks. They rely on their cell phones to tell the time and set their alarms.

It's hard to know what should be turned on and what should be turned off, particularly when kids are a year or two from being sent off to live on their own. It was much much easier when all parents had to say was no TV on school nights, or no TV after 10.