Anonymous
Post 05/06/2014 18:01     Subject: Re:College Decisions 2014
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Anonymous wrote:DD got accepted to UVA and JMU, decided to go to UVA. No aid, which, even though is in-state for us, tuition will be a challenge as a public schools employee. But she earned acceptance, wants to go, and we'll make it work for her. No stickers on my car---not my thing for any reason--but don't begrudge those who do.


This is so similar to our situation; DC was accepted to the same schools but chose JMU. We are also public school employees! Haven't decided about the car sticker, but have no problem either way.


Just curious about why your DC chose JMU. And why PP's chose UVA.

Congrats and good luck to both families!


Probably money. That is actually a major consideration for the 90% of families who don't have a hundred grand laying around.


I'm the PP whose DC was accepted to UVA and JMU and chose JMU. The cost wasn't a factor; both are in-state tuition. DC was just "feeling" JMU and loved it.


I'm the PP who did the opposite. My DD spent a week at UVA the summer after junior year and it was the best advertising they could do for themselves. She enjoyed it and came home wanting to go there. Still looked at and visited other schools, but UVA stuck with her.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2014 10:37     Subject: College Decisions 2014
Anonymous wrote:My child is a bit younger, but I find this very helpful. I'm learning a lot about the process and the possibility of aid or in-state tuition.

Ditto.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2014 10:30     Subject: College Decisions 2014
Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? You are posting such specific information that your children are identifiable.


Maybe if you're psychic...
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2014 07:28     Subject: Re:College Decisions 2014
Anonymous wrote:Anyone else's kid completely lackadaisical right now?

I mean, the application process is over. We've visited and narrowed down schools--both before and after acceptances. And DS is obviously very happy with the school he chose. So happy he didn't even want to visit a top contender after seeing Dreamy Campus U. But he's still so "Whatevs" about the whole thing. I get it: He's no squealy teenage girl, but I expected to see some excitement over going off to college--far from home. Maybe he's too overwhelmed with finishing strong, nervous, a bit worried about leaving home. Or maybe that's just him. He is laid back by nature but this is a huge deal. I'd like to see some interest.

Is it just me? A boy thing? Or a senior thing?


Senioritis. Extremely common. Plus he's probably ambivalent -- excited to be going and scared at the same time. These are not feelings he's going to share with his mother. Just let it go. Every time you bring it up "aren't you excited? Why aren't you excited?" you just ratchet up his anxiety. PLus it will send the signal to him that you are living vicariously through him. In general, people feel what they feel and you should never question whether they are feeling the right thing. Actions are one thing, but feelings are something else entirely. Let it go.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2014 07:24     Subject: College Decisions 2014
Anonymous wrote:Hope it's not drug use. I've seen kids lose motivation once they start using drugs.

Please delete this post.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2014 07:19     Subject: College Decisions 2014
Hope it's not drug use. I've seen kids lose motivation once they start using drugs.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2014 06:54     Subject: Re:College Decisions 2014
Anonymous wrote:Anyone else's kid completely lackadaisical right now?

I mean, the application process is over. We've visited and narrowed down schools--both before and after acceptances. And DS is obviously very happy with the school he chose. So happy he didn't even want to visit a top contender after seeing Dreamy Campus U. But he's still so "Whatevs" about the whole thing. I get it: He's no squealy teenage girl, but I expected to see some excitement over going off to college--far from home. Maybe he's too overwhelmed with finishing strong, nervous, a bit worried about leaving home. Or maybe that's just him. He is laid back by nature but this is a huge deal. I'd like to see some interest.

Is it just me? A boy thing? Or a senior thing?


Could be my son you're describing... very laid back about the whole thing! Which is a good thing, I suppose. Even though I'd like to see some more excitement, I'm glad he's not anxious or stressing. In fact, far from it. Senioritis is alive and well here. He's doing the bare minimum and counting down the days till graduation! Can't say I blame him though. It's been a long four years.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 23:29     Subject: Re:College Decisions 2014
Anyone else's kid completely lackadaisical right now?

I mean, the application process is over. We've visited and narrowed down schools--both before and after acceptances. And DS is obviously very happy with the school he chose. So happy he didn't even want to visit a top contender after seeing Dreamy Campus U. But he's still so "Whatevs" about the whole thing. I get it: He's no squealy teenage girl, but I expected to see some excitement over going off to college--far from home. Maybe he's too overwhelmed with finishing strong, nervous, a bit worried about leaving home. Or maybe that's just him. He is laid back by nature but this is a huge deal. I'd like to see some interest.

Is it just me? A boy thing? Or a senior thing?
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 23:24     Subject: Re:College Decisions 2014
^^
Two appealing schools to choose from is indeed a good dilemma to have.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 23:20     Subject: College Decisions 2014
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Anonymous wrote:The offers have come in...you've had time to compare financial aid packages....And D Day is almost here!

Want to share DC's option, where he/she decided to go, and reason?

I'll start...

Acceptances[u]
GMU
Marymount
NYU
Penn State
Occidental
U of New Hampshire
Fordham
Rutgers
Temple


DECISION: UMass Dartmouth
Reason:Location/opportunity to be around a different set of people & mindsets...financial aid made it affordable

Your turn!


In:
Dickinson
James Madison U
C of Charleston
St Mary's

Rej:
W&M

Going:
Either Dickinson or JMU. Likely JMU (instate)


Likely? Deposits were due last week.


Deposit in. Not the issue. DC is truly torn...


Poor DC. What's her sticking point? What do you think will be the determining factor for her?


For DC, W&M was her top choice. She is happy with the choice of Dickinson or JMU but is now torn because they both appeal to her in a "hey I could really see myself thriving here" kind of way. It's a good dilemma not a negative one....but she needs to call her chips into mom and dad this week....Carlisle or Harrisonburg.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 14:54     Subject: Re:College Decisions 2014
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DD got accepted to UVA and JMU, decided to go to UVA. No aid, which, even though is in-state for us, tuition will be a challenge as a public schools employee. But she earned acceptance, wants to go, and we'll make it work for her. No stickers on my car---not my thing for any reason--but don't begrudge those who do.


This is so similar to our situation; DC was accepted to the same schools but chose JMU. We are also public school employees! Haven't decided about the car sticker, but have no problem either way.


Just curious about why your DC chose JMU. And why PP's chose UVA.

Congrats and good luck to both families!


Probably money. That is actually a major consideration for the 90% of families who don't have a hundred grand laying around.


I'm the PP whose DC was accepted to UVA and JMU and chose JMU. The cost wasn't a factor; both are in-state tuition. DC was just "feeling" JMU and loved it.

Good for DC for realizing the 'feel' is important-all else being equal
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 14:53     Subject: College Decisions 2014
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Anonymous wrote:Would rather go NOVA CC and transfer to UVA than Marymount or VCU.

FWIW I'd rather have the 4 year college experience if possible.

Signed,
Undergrad at a 4yr school with open enrolled with 2 ivy grad degrees

That should read open 'enrollment'
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 14:52     Subject: College Decisions 2014
Anonymous wrote:Would rather go NOVA CC and transfer to UVA than Marymount or VCU.

FWIW I'd rather have the 4 year college experience if possible.

Signed,
Undergrad at a 4yr school with open enrolled with 2 ivy grad degrees
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 06:51     Subject: Re:College Decisions 2014
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DD got accepted to UVA and JMU, decided to go to UVA. No aid, which, even though is in-state for us, tuition will be a challenge as a public schools employee. But she earned acceptance, wants to go, and we'll make it work for her. No stickers on my car---not my thing for any reason--but don't begrudge those who do.


This is so similar to our situation; DC was accepted to the same schools but chose JMU. We are also public school employees! Haven't decided about the car sticker, but have no problem either way.


Just curious about why your DC chose JMU. And why PP's chose UVA.

Congrats and good luck to both families!


Probably money. That is actually a major consideration for the 90% of families who don't have a hundred grand laying around.


I'm the PP whose DC was accepted to UVA and JMU and chose JMU. The cost wasn't a factor; both are in-state tuition. DC was just "feeling" JMU and loved it.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 00:38     Subject: College Decisions 2014
Would rather go NOVA CC and transfer to UVA than Marymount or VCU.