Anonymous wrote:

OP, bloodied but not defeated here. To clear the air, my child is interested in a name brand school, but it is within commuting distance so not sure why people think I am telling her to be a commuter but I have to go to the big-name place. And this choice is something SHE wants to pursue as a means to acclimate herself to college life in stages rather than plunge into dorm life. Is that some kind of a crime?

And why is everyone say I am so selfish? I have worked damn hard for many years, including when my wife has been SAHM to provide. My family lives in a nice home, takes at least one vacation a year, and I have always encouraged my wife and kids to stretch their minds and accomplish their dreams. Am I an ogre doing all this? So what If I would like to go back to a college campus. I'm not expecting to party, drink, meet girls, and go to football games. But I would like to leverage my current skill set and do something different. And participate in an academic environment rather than the work world. I will probably go part time to begin with and then if finances permit will finish up full time WHILE consulting with flexible hours to pay the bills.