Anonymous
Post 04/17/2014 08:43     Subject: What is "wife material"?
Anonymous wrote:Being a good wife means being exceptionally sexual. Otherwise, you're being a good friend. Or a good roommate. The latter two suggests it's ok to find someone else for the "exceptionally sexual" part.


Being wife material means someone able to have their own orgasms. Sounds drastic but lack of sex is a major driver for many marriage issues.

If your wife cannot achieve orgasm, on her own, she will never be able to do it with you. It is all in her mind. If she can't do that, she will never get it together. And eventually, she will stop wanting sex and then marriage just goes downhill. Husband will be constantly angry and unable to communicate. Wife will be withdrawn and want emotional intimacy.

Make sure your girlfriend is sexually competent and can achieve her own orgasm or marriage will never work.
Anonymous
Post 04/17/2014 01:55     Subject: What is "wife material"?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:man here----the other men have hit the nail on the head. Looks etc aside---be yourself. If you're a bitch--be a bitch. If you're an emotional basketcase--be an emotional basketcase. If you're obsessed with cats---let the guy know. Somebody will love you for who you are. If you change to just get the guy to like you---at some point, your true self will come out and you'll be back here asking how to deal with being ex-wife material.

I'll use my life as an example. My wife is an emotional nutjob. She just is. But I fell in love with her because of her crazy personality. It's funny---before we got married, I hung out with a lot of people--both male(friends from childhood) and female(lot of dating)---my wife is the type of person who can't make friends with other women----so we don't get to do the 'couples thing' a lot. But my friends like hanging out with her. Do I miss hanging out with all sorts of people---hell yes. But do I love my wife even more . . . so much so that I would rather spend time with her than with friends---yes. It was obvious from the moment I met her that my social life with others would take a nosedive---and it did. But it was also obvious that she was fiercely loyal to the people she loves---and she is. She's a great mom, and a great wife. And that's all I need.

You should do the same---be yourself. Be HAPPY with who you are---and one day the right guy will come along. Good luck.


+1. Love this post.


Oh MY GOD. I hate this post. This is just a disaster waiting to happen. Marrying an "emotional nut job" who can't make friends. Egads.

Anonymous
Post 04/16/2014 11:00     Subject: What is "wife material"?
Anonymous wrote:man here----the other men have hit the nail on the head. Looks etc aside---be yourself. If you're a bitch--be a bitch. If you're an emotional basketcase--be an emotional basketcase. If you're obsessed with cats---let the guy know. Somebody will love you for who you are. If you change to just get the guy to like you---at some point, your true self will come out and you'll be back here asking how to deal with being ex-wife material.

I'll use my life as an example. My wife is an emotional nutjob. She just is. But I fell in love with her because of her crazy personality. It's funny---before we got married, I hung out with a lot of people--both male(friends from childhood) and female(lot of dating)---my wife is the type of person who can't make friends with other women----so we don't get to do the 'couples thing' a lot. But my friends like hanging out with her. Do I miss hanging out with all sorts of people---hell yes. But do I love my wife even more . . . so much so that I would rather spend time with her than with friends---yes. It was obvious from the moment I met her that my social life with others would take a nosedive---and it did. But it was also obvious that she was fiercely loyal to the people she loves---and she is. She's a great mom, and a great wife. And that's all I need.

You should do the same---be yourself. Be HAPPY with who you are---and one day the right guy will come along. Good luck.


+1. Love this post.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2014 10:32     Subject: What is "wife material"?
Exceptionally sexual is a bad thing for a wife? Any woman who thinks this is more of a definition for mistress has probably had some self-fulfilling prophecies.

Know how to dress sexually. Doesn't have to be every day, but more than once a month.

Know how to BE sexual. Do you know what he likes? Tease him with it. Then please him with it.

You know those things you consider for special occasions? Yeah, don't do the whole "special occasion" thing. If he can count the number of times he gets said act monthly or yearly, you're not doing it enough.

Personality. Friendliness. (Lack of) bitchiness. They all play a role in being a wife, but men want sex. They want the sex they like without being told they can't have it because *insert excuse here*.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2014 10:29     Subject: Re:What is "wife material"?
OP, the term "wife material" is a very subjective term in my opinion. What is wife material to one man may not be wife material to many others and so forth.

You sound good on paper. Obviously you have achieved quite a lot for your age + you sound quite stable in your life.

However, you do state that you do not flirt which I find odd considering you say you are attractive and have a good job. Perhaps you are lacking in the confidence department?

My guess is that is what is making it difficult for you to meet men who want to marry you.

It's not that you lack cooking skills or homemaking skills, it's that men can tell that you are not self-assured and confident.

Try working on that aspect and once you feel better about yourself and more comfortable in your own skin, try flirting and see what happens. I bet many men would see you most definitely as great "wife material."

Hope this helps. GL.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2014 10:22     Subject: What is "wife material"?
Anonymous wrote:Being a good wife means being exceptionally sexual. Otherwise, you're being a good friend. Or a good roommate. The latter two suggests it's ok to find someone else for the "exceptionally sexual" part.


That means being a mistress, not a wife.

IME, the guys you *want* to marry want to marry someone who is sexual compatible, not not necessarily someone who is a tantric sex goddess. They are looking for someone who will be a good partner and, if you want children, a good parent.

OP, really consider yourself as the one who is doing the choosing, not the other way around. Your confidence will attract men. Also, go out on a lot of dates, if only for good stories to share with your girlfriends. You never know, though, with whom you'll hit it off. GL!
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2014 10:15     Subject: What is "wife material"?
Being a good wife means being exceptionally sexual. Otherwise, you're being a good friend. Or a good roommate. The latter two suggests it's ok to find someone else for the "exceptionally sexual" part.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2014 08:53     Subject: Re:What is "wife material"?
Anonymous wrote:
All kidding aside: an advanced degree. I have a doctorate and would not have considered marrying someone with less than an MA.

Wow a doctorate? So you are older and really limiting your pool. You must really have it going on. What do men look for in a women?
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2014 23:32     Subject: What is "wife material"?
19:23 - not op was 7 yrs ago at 23 found this site thru my sister who loved it! I sort of got interested and now that I'm a mom I'm on it. So it's not unusual for op to be on it.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2014 23:10     Subject: What is "wife material"?
Anonymous wrote:Perfect wife material --

"Nova" (Charlton Heston's wife in Planet of the Apes).

She's smoking hot, and she can't talk.


Perfect for you because nothing you say is worth responding to.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2014 19:09     Subject: What is "wife material"?
Anonymous wrote:Ann Romney is the role model for perfect wife material. Mitt knows a good investment when he sees one.


no way. She pretty much forced him to run for President the 2nd time. She definitely is the overbearing type behind the scenes. Would hate living with a woman like that.

If we have to use political ladies, Barbara Bush or Rosalynn Carter seem much better.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2014 19:03     Subject: What is "wife material"?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All kidding aside: an advanced degree. I have a doctorate and would not have considered marrying someone with less than an MA.


English literature or Communications? Those MA degrees are prerequisites for an Mrs.


I prefer the art history or mfa type.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2014 07:19     Subject: What is "wife material"?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: And how can you possibly judge women harsher than men for the same actions but use said women? Doesn't make sense but in your twisted mind, it probably does.


Are you brain dead? Men are not women. That is why their actions cannot possibly be judged in the same way.



Your premise is wrong. Morals are morals, regardless of what body parts you are randomly born with.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2014 02:07     Subject: What is "wife material"?
Anonymous wrote: And how can you possibly judge women harsher than men for the same actions but use said women? Doesn't make sense but in your twisted mind, it probably does.


Are you brain dead? Men are not women. That is why their actions cannot possibly be judged in the same way.

Anonymous
Post 04/04/2014 01:55     Subject: What is "wife material"?
Anonymous wrote:All kidding aside: an advanced degree. I have a doctorate and would not have considered marrying someone with less than an MA.


English literature or Communications? Those MA degrees are prerequisites for an Mrs.