Anonymous
Post 07/20/2019 09:41     Subject: 16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
Anonymous wrote:Age is just a number to me.

Instead of focusing on biological age, I think people should factor emotional maturity and character instead.


Age is just a number...

...income must be 7 figures
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2019 09:36     Subject: Re:16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
a small age Gap probably makes sense, but 16 years is idiotic. If the woman is having children in her late twenties or early thirties, do you really want to be fathering children in your late 40s and early 50s? You want to be 70 when your kids are graduating from high school? No thanks.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2019 09:25     Subject: 16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
She is 13 years younger than me but I feel like I'm the one who will be taking care of her as we get older. It's not just about age, but general health and how you take care of yourself. In her case, her bad habits will likely cause her to have serious health problems that I manage to avoid.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2019 09:14     Subject: 16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
The woman I know who married an older guy by 12 years (26 and 38) just left him. She is now 48 he is 60. Guess he got boring. She’s living it up.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2019 09:03     Subject: Re:16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
this is a stupid theory, and I say that as a man. That being said, I think there is some wisdom in the man being a little bit older for two reasons. One, women mature faster and are usually ready for children earlier. Second, the natural libido gap between men and women is a problem in general and a big problem in long-term relationships. Considering younger women have higher libidos than older women, it can be a big problem if the women is older. I say that as someone who is married to a woman who is two years older than me and she is fantastic in every way, but I imagine our sex life would be much better if she were younger with a higher libido.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2019 08:33     Subject: 16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
I've dated older guys when I was in my early 20s. I get the appeal. Think college student and professor situation.

But generally speaking when men in their 50s date a woman in her mid or late 30s it is likely because their highest priority is sex appeal and deference.

With that big of a gap, you would not have even the same generational reference points. And if you already have adult kids, bringing around a new girlfriend who was 5 when your own kid was born is gross, gross, gross.

So the men who don't care about that, don't care because they view the role of a woman in the relationship "a certain way."
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2019 12:02     Subject: 16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
Men die sooner anyway. Even if he's the same age, you will probably be a widow some day.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2019 10:54     Subject: 16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You people focus too much on relationship at its inception point, and don't think too much down the line. Marriage is not about the wedding. It's about the life that follows.

I was married to an older man, for love, and widowed at 29. Never again. I have nothing against older men - the heart wants what the heart wants - but the cold fact is that they do die sooner, and I don't want to deal with this again. Yes, any one of us may die any time, but you must admit that old age tips your risk of being dead sooner rather than later.


A relative is going through a very troubling version of this: nursing home. Most of their life savings, except for what the law entitles her to keep out of the hands of the nursing home, is going into his nursing home care, and when he dies, she will be left with nothing much, but a long life yet to live. Happily married for over 50 years, but she cries every day now. It is heartbreaking and very frustrating.


This goes to show that they didn’t plan well. If you’re married, one of you will outlive the other anyway. A friend of mine just passed from cancer in her 40s. Life is unpredictable, numbers or not.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 17:40     Subject: 16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
I didn't want to get divorced when I was 38, but I'm 41 now and my GF of the past six months is 25. I'll check back sometime and let you know if it's perfect or not.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 17:25     Subject: Re:16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9801E0DD1431F935A35755C0A9609C8B63

"For the gene that causes dwarfism, researchers found a 2 percent increase in the frequency of the mutation for each year of increasing age...Other kinds of genetic defects did not increase with age. Aneuploidy, the abnormal number of chromosomes that causes Down syndrome and various other genetic disorders, was no more common in the sperm of older men. Age made no difference in sex chromosome abnormalities, which can cause sterility [b]and other physical or mental problems[u]"

So... older men have a higher chance of fathering a short child... chance of other genetic defects do not increase...


LOL! I love how you wrote "other" genetic defects in addition to being short, which you implied is a genetic defect. Lol, as a woman, I agree!


Ok you mentioned all the physical things that aren't happening...you failed to mention the studies that are showing that older dads are having kids with psychological problems like autism.[/quote]

The cited study actually explicitly mentions that "age made no difference in sex chromosome abnormalities, which can caus... mental problems" as highlighted above. Therefore, yes the cited study did address your concern and indicated that it should not be a concern.


I think if you dig around you will find that these researchers are probably married to younger women and may not be the best folks to do this study. On top of that it was only done on a small sampling of men


Recent studies show that autism is primarily genetic, and not cause by older fathers or older mothers.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 17:04     Subject: 16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
Yuck
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 16:45     Subject: Re:16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
Anonymous wrote:The best deal is the find a guy your age who has a trust fund. You're golden then.


My sister just did that! I love my husband but I’m a teeny bit jealous
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 15:29     Subject: 16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
Anonymous wrote:Really? I am in my early 40s and already am fed up with my 50 year old DH. I couldn’t take it if he was in his 60s!


My husband is 68 and his unaided sexual skills are still outstanding. Until they diminish I will take advantage of them.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 15:22     Subject: 16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
Really? I am in my early 40s and already am fed up with my 50 year old DH. I couldn’t take it if he was in his 60s!
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 15:01     Subject: 16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am the exception but I am 46 and dating a 65 year old man, a very young acting/looking active amazing man. I have yet to meet any 40 something years old who can hold a candle to him and the sex is off the charts. Age is nothing more than a number.


You expect to have an active sex life when you are 55 and he is 74??


74 still can have sex


Well, he'd be 77 now - PP was 3 years ago.