Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 21:54     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
Anonymous wrote:The only ethical option here is abortion.

of this thread
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 21:01     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
OP - I've always wondered how you'll handle explaining your open adoption plan to the every day people in your life; soon, it will be obvious and then the questions will start. Do you just say that this baby will be adopted? How much info to share?

Also, what about months after your baby is born; are you concerned that you'll get into some awkward situations ("where's your baby?" or "how's that newborn?") and have to over share?

So, what will you say to your next door neighbor? A co worker?

Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 20:57     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
Anonymous wrote:My next door neighbors are in their mid fifties and they have a two year old. Total accident


Seriously? I can't believe that not only is OP for real but there is another example in the DC metro area.

OP, what did your OB say? Is he amazed? Are they treating you like a miracle?
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 20:32     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
My next door neighbors are in their mid fifties and they have a two year old. Total accident
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 19:51     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
Well my risk of DS is already elevated, but the test showed 10 %
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 18:47     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is fake.

No way a 56-year-old would say "none of our kids were planned. We just go with it."

No way they wouldn't have been pushed to do a CVS/amnio/Maternit21 by 15 weeks.

OP, if you're for real, did you have a nuchal test? Where was it done? What were the age-adjusted percentage results?



Well, none of our kids were planned. We got pregnant naturally. Yes there was a period of about 4 years where I went on BC because finances were terrible and we couldn't afford to have another child. We were "asked" about the testing, but we chose not to have it done. We had a blood test at 10 weeks and the result was "low" chance for DS so we have not had more testing. Also, we were informed about having a test in the 2nd tri to check on neural tube abnormalities, again we are opting to not have any unnecessary testing. It is our belief that if something such as an illness can not be healed, there is no point in becoming concerned about it. We are concerned about the increased risk of birth defects, but that obviously comes with the territory.


Can you define or quantify "low"? Is that 0.1%, 1%, 10%, or even 20%?
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 18:26     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is fake.

No way a 56-year-old would say "none of our kids were planned. We just go with it."

No way they wouldn't have been pushed to do a CVS/amnio/Maternit21 by 15 weeks.

OP, if you're for real, did you have a nuchal test? Where was it done? What were the age-adjusted percentage results?



Well, none of our kids were planned. We got pregnant naturally. Yes there was a period of about 4 years where I went on BC because finances were terrible and we couldn't afford to have another child. We were "asked" about the testing, but we chose not to have it done. We had a blood test at 10 weeks and the result was "low" chance for DS so we have not had more testing. Also, we were informed about having a test in the 2nd tri to check on neural tube abnormalities, again we are opting to not have any unnecessary testing. It is our belief that if something such as an illness can not be healed, there is no point in becoming concerned about it. We are concerned about the increased risk of birth defects, but that obviously comes with the territory.


You suck so much. You have a really high risk pregnancy and you are not even doing tests that 30- something moms do.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 18:05     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
Sorry ^^ meant to say "adoptive parents" above.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 18:03     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is fake.

No way a 56-year-old would say "none of our kids were planned. We just go with it."

No way they wouldn't have been pushed to do a CVS/amnio/Maternit21 by 15 weeks.

OP, if you're for real, did you have a nuchal test? Where was it done? What were the age-adjusted percentage results?



Well, none of our kids were planned. We got pregnant naturally. Yes there was a period of about 4 years where I went on BC because finances were terrible and we couldn't afford to have another child. We were "asked" about the testing, but we chose not to have it done. We had a blood test at 10 weeks and the result was "low" chance for DS so we have not had more testing. Also, we were informed about having a test in the 2nd tri to check on neural tube abnormalities, again we are opting to not have any unnecessary testing. It is our belief that if something such as an illness can not be healed, there is no point in becoming concerned about it. We are concerned about the increased risk of birth defects, but that obviously comes with the territory.


I can respect where you're coming from. However, giving the potential birth parents as much information as possible about the baby's health will help them prepare for how they can best raise the child. Are you planning on doing the anatomy scan at 20 weeks and are you willing to follow up with additional testing and medical treatment if anything is discovered? Are you hoping to find an adoptive family before the baby's birth? Are you willing to take their concerns into account about such things as the pregnancy proceeds?
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 15:57     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
Anonymous wrote:This is fake.

No way a 56-year-old would say "none of our kids were planned. We just go with it."

No way they wouldn't have been pushed to do a CVS/amnio/Maternit21 by 15 weeks.

OP, if you're for real, did you have a nuchal test? Where was it done? What were the age-adjusted percentage results?



Well, none of our kids were planned. We got pregnant naturally. Yes there was a period of about 4 years where I went on BC because finances were terrible and we couldn't afford to have another child. We were "asked" about the testing, but we chose not to have it done. We had a blood test at 10 weeks and the result was "low" chance for DS so we have not had more testing. Also, we were informed about having a test in the 2nd tri to check on neural tube abnormalities, again we are opting to not have any unnecessary testing. It is our belief that if something such as an illness can not be healed, there is no point in becoming concerned about it. We are concerned about the increased risk of birth defects, but that obviously comes with the territory.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 15:42     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
Anonymous wrote:I didn't post the "ethical option" comment.

-OP


If you're here, please address 08:44. Otherwise you're being reported as a troll.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 15:29     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:obviously accidental. The age concern is an issue to us. We are looking into open adoption.


Wait - are you OP?


yes


How can you give up your own child for adoption???


Who else's child would you give up for adoption?!


Wow, how clever.


Plus, I already made that joke several pages back.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 15:06     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:obviously accidental. The age concern is an issue to us. We are looking into open adoption.


Wait - are you OP?


yes


How can you give up your own child for adoption???


Who else's child would you give up for adoption?!


Wow, how clever.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 14:32     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:obviously accidental. The age concern is an issue to us. We are looking into open adoption.


Wait - are you OP?


yes


How can you give up your own child for adoption???


Who else's child would you give up for adoption?!
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2013 13:09     Subject: 56 and pregnant. ask me anything
No, I did. Not the OP. Jeff or Maria can confirm.