Anonymous wrote:I wanted one, since I entered the marriage with assets, DH had none. But he didn't want one. So it was a no go. I put down all the money on the house. If we ever get divorced, I am screwed.

Why didn't you force the issue?

I wanted one, since I entered the marriage with assets, DH had none. But he didn't want one. So it was a no go. I put down all the money on the house. If we ever get divorced, I am screwed.

My husband had to sign one. After multiple divorces in my family and seeing what happened without one, it was a no brainer. DH signed and said he expected it. Never once complained about it. It basically says what he came into the marriage with and what he makes is his. What I came into the marriage with and make is mine. Anything we purchase together or have in joint accounts is ours and gets split down the middle should we ever divorce. Luckily, I don't think that is going to happen. The positive side of growing up with a mother and father with 7 marriages between them is that I learned what not to do. I sowed my wild oats and waited for the right guy.

O/T but I had only debt when I married my husband... he had a substantial net work with only prospect for more. Strangely, he never asked me to sign a pre-nup. & I mean that seriously, I was expecting him to give me a contract and it just.. never.. came.

FWIW, I would've happily signed one

I would just sign and move on.

Life is too short to worry about stupid stuff like this.

Anonymous wrote:Here is the problem with the no prenup arguement.

There is a prenup, even if you don't create your own.

The prenup was created by the government. The government does not know your particular situation so it is wishy washy and basically lame.

Divorce laws are very lame.

All a prenup shows is that both parties are mature and that they do not leave it up to the government to decide how their assets will be divided in the off chance there is a divorce.

I also have a Power of Attorney (even though I most likely will be able to make all decisions before I die), I have a Power of Medical Attorney (even though I may never need anybody to make these decisions for me. I sure as hell don't want the government making these decisions) hence I have a Living Will (even though I may never be on life support). I also have named guardians for my kids because I don't want the government deciding that either.

Grow up and take the future in your own hands.

It is not "true love" to let the government laws determine your future.

+1 even though I do think the potential in-laws are doing it for all of the wrong reasons. Also, OP: they might be singling you out v other ILs because the son is slatted to inherit the entire business, not the daughters.

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Anonymous wrote:One question for you prenup supporters, woould you share an inheritance of mney with a spouse.

Eg if you received say 500 000 inherance would you mingle that money and share with spouse?

Here is the exact reason I support a prenup. A large sum of money like this should be in a trust or other vehicles that are managed.

I am not sure posters on here understand divorce laws and money management.

+1

Anonymous wrote:One question for you prenup supporters, woould you share an inheritance of mney with a spouse.

Eg if you received say 500 000 inherance would you mingle that money and share with spouse?

Here is the exact reason I support a prenup. A large sum of money like this should be in a trust or other vehicles that are managed.

I am not sure posters on here understand divorce laws and money management.

I WOULD sign the pre-nup. In this case, it makes perfect sense and the bride can actually protect herself with it. Suppose that there is a slip and fall at the business and liability insurance is not enough to cover the claim or a judgement. You can best believe that they will be coming after the business owners personally to collect on it - including the DH. Is the bride comfortable with having her assets at risk in this way? Of course the prenup that the ILs want would should the business from the claims of the bride - but it is VERY easy to add provisions that shield the assets of the bride from the business' liabilities also.

All that "mockery of the vows" and "escape hatch" talk is fairy tale crap. Almost EVERYONE who gets married has the best intentions and NOBODY expects the marriage to fail on day one. But stuff happens and I do believe that the parties should maturely discuss how the marriage would be dissolved. People need to let go of their romantic views of it and understand that there is a financial and asset based component to it.