Why the fascination with beautiful mixed race children? How many turn into beautiful adults (which really is the most important time to be beautiful)?

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Anonymous wrote:NP here, and non-white mom to both mixed and full-race children.

I didn't interpret the distasteful comment as someone saying she thought mixed-race kids were ugly or less-than. What I've heard from a lot of people is that saying mixed children are the most beautiful is offensive because it implies that full-race children (whether white, black, Asian, etc) aren't as cute. I can understand that view. It can be interpreted that someone might think my mixed child is more attractive than my full child just because she/he is mixed. It's not interpreted as offensive to the mixed children, but rather to the full-race children.

At least that's what I think that poster was trying to say.

So everything always has to be fair and square? We have to pretend everyone is equal in the looks department? Every soccer team no matter the record should earn a trophy? Sorry, it's insincere to not separate out. Not everyone is the same. And yes, mixed race kids tend to be some of the most attractive and interesting to look at. Thems the facts. I'm sure there have been studies done, just like there are stuidies that people with evenly balanced features are perceived as more attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here, and non-white mom to both mixed and full-race children.

I didn't interpret the distasteful comment as someone saying she thought mixed-race kids were ugly or less-than. What I've heard from a lot of people is that saying mixed children are the most beautiful is offensive because it implies that full-race children (whether white, black, Asian, etc) aren't as cute. I can understand that view. It can be interpreted that someone might think my mixed child is more attractive than my full child just because she/he is mixed. It's not interpreted as offensive to the mixed children, but rather to the full-race children.

At least that's what I think that poster was trying to say.

So everything always has to be fair and square? We have to pretend everyone is equal in the looks department? Every soccer team no matter the record should earn a trophy? Sorry, it's insincere to not separate out. Not everyone is the same. And yes, mixed race kids tend to be some of the most attractive and interesting to look at. Thems the facts. I'm sure there have been studies done, just like there are stuidies that people with evenly balanced features are perceived as more attractive.

I don't think there have been studies done on this. I have personally met mixed race people whom I did not find attractive at all. If facial beauty is based on symmetry more than anything, it really doesn't matter what race or mix of races you are.

Anonymous wrote:NP here, and non-white mom to both mixed and full-race children.

I didn't interpret the distasteful comment as someone saying she thought mixed-race kids were ugly or less-than. What I've heard from a lot of people is that saying mixed children are the most beautiful is offensive because it implies that full-race children (whether white, black, Asian, etc) aren't as cute. I can understand that view. It can be interpreted that someone might think my mixed child is more attractive than my full child just because she/he is mixed. It's not interpreted as offensive to the mixed children, but rather to the full-race children.

At least that's what I think that poster was trying to say.

So everything always has to be fair and square? We have to pretend everyone is equal in the looks department? Every soccer team no matter the record should earn a trophy? Sorry, it's insincere to not separate out. Not everyone is the same. And yes, mixed race kids tend to be some of the most attractive and interesting to look at. Thems the facts. I'm sure there have been studies done, just like there are stuidies that people with evenly balanced features are perceived as more attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was growing up I used to think about what our world would look like if there was a law that you had to marry someone from a different race. I thought all the children would be really beautiful.

As a grown up I remember thinking this fondly but know it would be an unjust and gross law, just like laws preventing interracial marriages were gross and unjust.

I find this viewpoint distasteful. Why the fascination with mixed children looking beautiful?

Because, more often than not, they are.

Not true. And the idea of it is distasteful and perhaps a bit self-hating.

No self hate here. I am beautiful but from 100% Western European stock. My kids are just like me and utterly gorgeous. :roll: see no self hate but maybe an abundance of vanity. :twisted:

I just happen to know many people who have a more diverse heritage than mine whom I think are exceptionally good looking people. I love seeing different combinations of hair colors and textures, eye colors and shapes, richly colored skin tones and fresh looking faces. If you think the idea of mixed race people are distasteful, or are generally stating that "their" looks are distasteful, you are a ranting, ignorant, hate mongering loser, in my book, and you are damn ugly to boot. But, hopefully, that is not what you meant.

WTF? Learn to read before you go off the rails.

Agree. The whole "mixed is more beautiful" is fetishizing and elevating what is normal as somehow superior. If you think it's fine to say/believe this, what's so wrong about the belief that Northern Europeans are the most beautiful?

Plain white woman with black guy? Sounds about right to me.

Wow! I had to check out the commercial to see what all the fuss was about..I have seen this commercial many times and not once did I even notice it was an interracial family featured. It was just a cereal ad for me. Only people actually looking for things to complain and whine about would make a big deal of this. Wake up! We are all people, human beings, with feelings, ideas, lives, families. All the complainers, and racists are the ones who have brought this to everyone's attention. Was this cast on purpose? Probably, but who cares? All I saw was a family, and so would any other normal, adult, thinking person. I hate the use of the word "tolerance". It makes it sound like people of difference races etc are to be "tolerated". Geez, how disgusting is that? We should all be "accepting" and embracing our differences.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this comes from the fact that people are so obsessed about what others think of them. So many people have such a need to be accepted by everyone. But everyone cannot be mainstream.

I'm white and am married to a black man. I don't care if I see "interracial" couples on tv. I don't care if people support or criticize us. I don't need a cheerio commercial. That recent one would be cute with any couple and any cute kid. My husband and I are just living our lives the best we can. Sometimes, I feel a little patronized when people feel the need to voice their support for us, and by interracial commercials. It's fine to me if that's who they happen to cast, but I think it's weird to purposely cast an interracial couple to make a statement.

Only a white person will have this pov.

+1 [from a DH of a white DW]

shoud read: [from a black DH of a white DW]

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Anonymous wrote:I think this comes from the fact that people are so obsessed about what others think of them. So many people have such a need to be accepted by everyone. But everyone cannot be mainstream.

I'm white and am married to a black man. I don't care if I see "interracial" couples on tv. I don't care if people support or criticize us. I don't need a cheerio commercial. That recent one would be cute with any couple and any cute kid. My husband and I are just living our lives the best we can. Sometimes, I feel a little patronized when people feel the need to voice their support for us, and by interracial commercials. It's fine to me if that's who they happen to cast, but I think it's weird to purposely cast an interracial couple to make a statement.

Only a white person will have this pov.

+1 [from a DH of a white DW]

Anonymous wrote:I think this comes from the fact that people are so obsessed about what others think of them. So many people have such a need to be accepted by everyone. But everyone cannot be mainstream.

I'm white and am married to a black man. I don't care if I see "interracial" couples on tv. I don't care if people support or criticize us. I don't need a cheerio commercial. That recent one would be cute with any couple and any cute kid. My husband and I are just living our lives the best we can. Sometimes, I feel a little patronized when people feel the need to voice their support for us, and by interracial commercials. It's fine to me if that's who they happen to cast, but I think it's weird to purposely cast an interracial couple to make a statement.

Only a white person will have this pov.

Anonymous wrote:I am not part of a mixed family but certainly know many and see many everywhere these days. I think its really normal and probably don't always even "note" it in my mind. So, I have to say, I think its really odd that this is "trying too hard" in some poster's eyes. What does that even mean? Wake up folks, this is fast becoming who and what America is and that is a GOOD thing. It is NOT trying to hard at all.

Why is it a GOOD thing for America that it is fast becoming a country of bi-racial individuals? I don't see it as GOOD or BAD; it just is. Saying mixed race families are GOOD for America can be construed as it being BAD that we maintain same race families. What do I say to my child who has two DARK SKIN parents when someone like you says that mixed race families are GOOD for America? Are you saying that because mixed race children are the "acceptable minority"? Are you saying that because the "exotic look" of a mixed race child is what is generally accepted? It just doesn't make sense. What would be GOOD is tolerance and understanding of every race and ethnicity.

Anonymous wrote:the racists are the ones who mixed the racists i n the first place remember slavery and the rape of a whole race of women by white slave owners you damn hypocrites blank you

"in the first place" - ?!

You realize that "race" has no biological basis, right? There was never a "first" and there will never be a "last." That isn't to say that race isn't real in a social/societal context, but it's as biologically arbitrary as tall/short, blue/brown eyes, etc.

Anonymous wrote:the racists are the ones who mixed the racists i n the first place remember slavery and the rape of a whole race of women by white slave owners you damn hypocrites blank you

No, I don't remember it, and neither do you because it happened before you were born.