Anonymous
06/02/2013 22:03
Subject: Re:Am I being a "martyr"?
OP, I can relate to your daughter. I was the oldest girl in my family and my mom decided to have more kids in her late 30's. First came two siblings two years apart in age, then came twins. If I wasn't at school, I was being told that I needed "to help out". I hated it. I loved my siblings but I hated my mom tracking me down if I dared go to a friends house after school. One month after my eighteenth birthday, I left on a one way plane ticket out of state. I never moved back.
My kids will never help "raise" their siblings. No way. If you have kids raise them yourself, find extended hour daycare centers or hire a live in nanny. Oh, and hopefully their dad(s) are involved.
My kids will never help "raise" their siblings. No way. If you have kids raise them yourself, find extended hour daycare centers or hire a live in nanny. Oh, and hopefully their dad(s) are involved.
Anonymous
06/02/2013 21:47
Subject: Am I being a "martyr"?
My grandmother was the oldest of 11 kids. She complained about having to "raise" her siblings. Her parents were farmers. She had ONE child. Bet OP's daughter does the same.
Anonymous
06/02/2013 21:38
Subject: Am I being a "martyr"?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What are you going to do when she goes to college?
OP here, we have already made plans on this. When DD leaves next year, my mom will move in with us and take DD's room. The reason she had to leave just recently is because she was sleeping on the fold out couch in living room. Also, it will be easier for my mom because she will be able to sell her house in VA and not have to worry about bills as much.
Here's an idea: Hire a nanny or babysitter for when you are working and when you are not working take care of your own kids. Don't just pawn them off on your older kids and mom.
Anonymous
06/02/2013 21:31
Subject: Am I being a "martyr"?
Because OP believes her daughter should have no life because her mom can't keep her legs closed. Anyone want to place any bets how often her daughter will visit from college?
Anonymous
06/02/2013 21:30
Subject: Am I being a "martyr"?
Anonymous wrote:No, she's not a step child, why? She loves the kids and they love her! The kids are her half brothers and sisters though as they do not have the same dad and I am a single mom.
I just need support sometimes and I do not appreciate the attitude DD gives me sometimes about her responsibilities in this household.
Case and point, the other day DD wanted to go to the mall with a friend. I told her yes but she had to take the 2 DCs with her (2mos and 19 mos). She pitched a fit yelling at me about how she's "entitled" to free time without the kids. I told her she was being disrespectful and I wouldn't stand for it. She actually said "entitled"! Long story short, she ended up taking the kids with her and having a nice day with them at the mall. Like I have stated before, she is being a self centered brat, but I guess that is to be expected from a teenager.
Why couldn't you keep YOUR children with you and let her have some time alone?
Anonymous
06/02/2013 21:05
Subject: Am I being a "martyr"?
Anonymous wrote:I can hire a nanny once DD goes away (or even now) but what is the point of outsourcing when I have the support of family.
It takes a village.
Honey, there aren't enough villagers in your "village" to take care of all of the offspring you created.
Anonymous
06/02/2013 21:00
Subject: Am I being a "martyr"?
"know", not "now" 
Anonymous
06/02/2013 21:00
Subject: Am I being a "martyr"?
Do you at least concede, OP, that while you love all your children, you should not have had so many?
You are self-centered to an incredible degree, and I now self-centered!
You are self-centered to an incredible degree, and I now self-centered!
Anonymous
06/02/2013 20:58
Subject: Am I being a "martyr"?
Anonymous wrote:I can hire a nanny once DD goes away (or even now) but what is the point of outsourcing when I have the support of family.
It takes a village.
Because your family will start to resent you? I feel so bad for your DD.
Anonymous
06/02/2013 20:58
Subject: Am I being a "martyr"?
I can hire a nanny once DD goes away (or even now) but what is the point of outsourcing when I have the support of family.
It takes a village.
It takes a village.
Anonymous
06/02/2013 20:58
Subject: Am I being a "martyr"?
I'm still not convinced OP isn't a troll. Jeff said she did start a couple controversial threads, he just had no proof she was here to cause trouble. Other trolls are pretty obvious.
Anonymous
06/02/2013 20:54
Subject: Re:Am I being a "martyr"?
Oh so again, someone else will be taking care of YOUR children. Why did you have so many. Geez!