Anonymous wrote:Somehow, somewhere, your kid is going to be judged on her psychical attributes. Don't be the one to start it. Girls have a hard enough time living up to societies standards without mothers like you making it worse.

Seriously? Because of the hair thing?

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Anonymous wrote:I think she is gorgeous. She has the biggest blue eyes I have ever seen on any child and looks like an absolute doll ( albeit a brown-haired doll). I am just worried about when she gets older and other kids/adults start judging based on looks. Nobody else worries about what their kid is going to look like?

You equate brunette with being unattractive?? What about Cindy Crawford, Eva Longoria, Linda Evangalista, Olivia Wilde to name a few. You think people are going to judge her for not being blonde?? You have SERIOUS image issues. I'm not even saying this to be snarky but you really do need to see a therapist so that you can work these issues out. The pressure you are going to put on your child to strive for your version of perfection is going to be unbearable for her if this is what you are doing to her as a baby.

I think those women are all stunning. However, I remember being in school, and none of the kids thought there was anything special about people with brown hair; blonds ruled. There is nothing I dislike about my daughter. I just don't want her to have a harder time in life because of the way she looks. I think that is natural to a certain extent, isn't it? I'm not talking about bleaching her skin FFS.

My hair was white blonde as a kid and I was left out because of my hair color. The in role playing game on the playground was Dukes of Hazard and I was too blonde to be Daisy.

Somehow, somewhere, your kid is going to be judged on her psychical attributes. Don't be the one to start it. Girls have a hard enough time living up to societies standards without mothers like you making it worse.

Anonymous wrote:Sadly, it is not an April fools. I was really hoping for a blonde baby and she ended up having brown hair with a teeny bit of natural blonde highlights. I love her the way she is, but would also love to see her hair looking a little sun-kissed.

Great, you are trying to fix her already.

OP can't be real. Let's not give her any more attention.

Anonymous wrote:This thread has turned into a ton of different directions. I think that the main point should still stand that OP needs to stop worrying about the physical appearance of her baby. I am still genuinely concerned about the effects her attitude is going to have on her child in the long run.

Same here. OP's reasons are twisted - THAT is the issue. And "sunning" your baby when you should be shielding them from it is the height of negligence to boot.

OP, curious, just why do you find blond hair more attractive? What is it about colorless hair that is more appealing than colorful hair? DH has beautiful, dark curly hair. It was one of the things I found most attractive when I first met him. I'd never want him to be blond. My hair is lighter brown with reddish/gold highlights (used to be quite blond when I was a child, btw.) I've always thought it was a beautiful color, rich and deep. One child is going to have DH's dark curly hair and the other is going to have mine. I think they're both beautiful and wouldn't find them more beautiful if they had white blond hair. If you worry about your child's looks, how do you expect your child to be satisfied with them?

And please protect your child from the sun. Especially if you are worried about her looks. She (and her skin) will thank you when she is 40.

This thread has turned into a ton of different directions. I think that the main point should still stand that OP needs to stop worrying about the physical appearance of her baby. I am still genuinely concerned about the effects her attitude is going to have on her child in the long run.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand you people. It is ok to cut off foreskin (for non religious reasons) and forcibly puncture infant's ears, but a little lemon juice in their hair means you are not happy with how they look?

I think there is a big difference with doing thing for cultural and religious reasons vs. doing it because you think your child is not pretty enough with her brown hair.

PP said for non-religious reasons. Plenty of people circumcise so DS can look like daddy.

So does the American Academy of Pediatricans also recommend that you put lemon juice in a child's hair to make them look more Aryan?

Please read precisely. AAP does not recommend routine circumcision for all newborn boys. They only say the health benefits, in their view, are great enough to warrant insurance coverage. (NB that the health benefits of circumcision are questionable enough for European countries to advocate against its routine performance.)

Obviously, highlighting hair does not have any health benefits. However, in circumcision debates (not looking to start one here), proponents often say they did it because daddy was circumcised, too. Those people's actions then are comparable to OP's.

You anti-circ people are like a dog with a damn bone, aren't you? LET. IT. GO. Not every thread has to turn into a debate on this topic.

No. As long as children are needlessly mutilated, I will speak up about it when the topic arises (I was not the PP who first brought it up). No matter how much you yell.

I circumcised my child and would do it again if I had a boy. Yell away. . .you won't change my mind. It's a personal choice, and one that is perfectly medically acceptable. I think I'll take the advice of my doctor over some sanctimonious random person on the internet offering me asinine unsolicited advice.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand you people. It is ok to cut off foreskin (for non religious reasons) and forcibly puncture infant's ears, but a little lemon juice in their hair means you are not happy with how they look?

I think there is a big difference with doing thing for cultural and religious reasons vs. doing it because you think your child is not pretty enough with her brown hair.

PP said for non-religious reasons. Plenty of people circumcise so DS can look like daddy.

So does the American Academy of Pediatricans also recommend that you put lemon juice in a child's hair to make them look more Aryan?

Please read precisely. AAP does not recommend routine circumcision for all newborn boys. They only say the health benefits, in their view, are great enough to warrant insurance coverage. (NB that the health benefits of circumcision are questionable enough for European countries to advocate against its routine performance.)

Obviously, highlighting hair does not have any health benefits. However, in circumcision debates (not looking to start one here), proponents often say they did it because daddy was circumcised, too. Those people's actions then are comparable to OP's.

You anti-circ people are like a dog with a damn bone, aren't you? LET. IT. GO. Not every thread has to turn into a debate on this topic.

No. As long as children are needlessly mutilated, I will speak up about it when the topic arises (I was not the PP who first brought it up). No matter how much you yell.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand you people. It is ok to cut off foreskin (for non religious reasons) and forcibly puncture infant's ears, but a little lemon juice in their hair means you are not happy with how they look?

I think there is a big difference with doing thing for cultural and religious reasons vs. doing it because you think your child is not pretty enough with her brown hair.

PP said for non-religious reasons. Plenty of people circumcise so DS can look like daddy.

So does the American Academy of Pediatricans also recommend that you put lemon juice in a child's hair to make them look more Aryan?

Please read precisely. AAP does not recommend routine circumcision for all newborn boys. They only say the health benefits, in their view, are great enough to warrant insurance coverage. (NB that the health benefits of circumcision are questionable enough for European countries to advocate against its routine performance.)

Obviously, highlighting hair does not have any health benefits. However, in circumcision debates (not looking to start one here), proponents often say they did it because daddy was circumcised, too. Those people's actions then are comparable to OP's.

You anti-circ people are like a dog with a damn bone, aren't you? LET. IT. GO. Not every thread has to turn into a debate on this topic.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand you people. It is ok to cut off foreskin (for non religious reasons) and forcibly puncture infant's ears, but a little lemon juice in their hair means you are not happy with how they look?

I think there is a big difference with doing thing for cultural and religious reasons vs. doing it because you think your child is not pretty enough with her brown hair.

PP said for non-religious reasons. Plenty of people circumcise so DS can look like daddy.

So does the American Academy of Pediatricans also recommend that you put lemon juice in a child's hair to make them look more Aryan?

Please read precisely. AAP does not recommend routine circumcision for all newborn boys. They only say the health benefits, in their view, are great enough to warrant insurance coverage. (NB that the health benefits of circumcision are questionable enough for European countries to advocate against its routine performance.)

Obviously, highlighting hair does not have any health benefits. However, in circumcision debates (not looking to start one here), proponents often say they did it because daddy was circumcised, too. Those people's actions then are comparable to OP's.

Or the people who circumcise because they worry that their son will otherwise be laughed at in the locker room. Or will not be attractive to women. Those arguments are very similar to OP's.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand you people. It is ok to cut off foreskin (for non religious reasons) and forcibly puncture infant's ears, but a little lemon juice in their hair means you are not happy with how they look?

I think there is a big difference with doing thing for cultural and religious reasons vs. doing it because you think your child is not pretty enough with her brown hair.

PP said for non-religious reasons. Plenty of people circumcise so DS can look like daddy.

So does the American Academy of Pediatricans also recommend that you put lemon juice in a child's hair to make them look more Aryan?

Please read precisely. AAP does not recommend routine circumcision for all newborn boys. They only say the health benefits, in their view, are great enough to warrant insurance coverage. (NB that the health benefits of circumcision are questionable enough for European countries to advocate against its routine performance.)

Obviously, highlighting hair does not have any health benefits. However, in circumcision debates (not looking to start one here), proponents often say they did it because daddy was circumcised, too. Those people's actions then are comparable to OP's.

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Anonymous wrote:The OP has some seriously messed up ideas about looks that she needs to work on before they damage her little girl.

Harsh.

Hardly. OP actually worries that no one will like her daughter unless she is blond(er). THAT is harsh.

Anonymous wrote:The OP has some seriously messed up ideas about looks that she needs to work on before they damage her little girl.

Harsh.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand you people. It is ok to cut off foreskin (for non religious reasons) and forcibly puncture infant's ears, but a little lemon juice in their hair means you are not happy with how they look?

I think there is a big difference with doing thing for cultural and religious reasons vs. doing it because you think your child is not pretty enough with her brown hair.

PP said for non-religious reasons. Plenty of people circumcise so DS can look like daddy.

So does the American Academy of Pediatricans also recommend that you put lemon juice in a child's hair to make them look more Aryan?