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Anonymous

11/14/2012 22:54 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For a look at different body types at similar height/weights take a look at

http://www.mybodygallery.com/

Oh my God. The 5' 4" 240-lb photos made me want to cry for this young girl.

http://www.mybodygallery.com/photos-19008-body-shape.htm#img

please save your tears, OP just posted this in the SN page

"also. as the OP, this pic is almost exactly what my DD looks like

http://www.mybodygallery.com/photos-10109-body-shape.htm#img

of course that isnt my DD but that girl with darker skin, longer hair (dd's hair is bra strap length) and no arm tats is a spitting image of DD. i can even see my daughter wearing that headband "

Anonymous

11/14/2012 22:48 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

Anonymous wrote:How did this thread get moved? Did OP move it? Because if this was moved by someone who thought it didn't belong in the SN forum, I will be plenty pissed. Those of us with kids with special needs felt it absolutely belonged.

im op ... i didnt move it. im actually a bit disappointed. Jeff? what gives?

Anonymous

11/14/2012 22:48 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm well aware that I was responding to two different posters. I had to copy and paste to include the second quote, but thank you for pointing that out.

Also, I like how you don't have a problem with everyone calling OP a liar about her daughter wearing a size, going so far as to bring the topic back up, but me pointing out that it's possible is bad. I had no intention of making anymore posts about sizing after sharing my experience. I agree that further discussion should be moved to a more appropriate forum as it's obscuring the discussion of OP and her daughter's treatment by her doctors.

I have no idea if her dd can fit into a size 14 or not and don't particularly care. Her daughter is 230 lbs and 5'4" - morbidly obese and it's irrelevant whether she fits into a size 6, 8, 14, 20.... Thanks, please take any further discussions about weight and clothing sizes out of special needs.

Then stop bringing it up.

Also, why did this thread get moved? I'm assuming someone complained to Jeff. I think it was perfectly appropriate for the SN board. What was NOT appropriate was the behaviour of all the pile-on PP's.

Anonymous

11/14/2012 22:46 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For a look at different body types at similar height/weights take a look at

http://www.mybodygallery.com/

Oh my God. The 5' 4" 240-lb photos made me want to cry for this young girl.

http://www.mybodygallery.com/photos-19008-body-shape.htm#img

my dd doesnt look like that.

Anonymous

11/14/2012 22:35 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

But that wasn't OP's fault, it was the (mostly) non-SN people attacking her. They are the ones who should be moved.

Anonymous

11/14/2012 22:32 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

Maybe it was decided that while the first post might have been appropriate for the SN forum, the thread itself wasn't right for the forum given the discussions ended up being about health, medicine and body size.

Anonymous

11/14/2012 22:24 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

How did this thread get moved? Did OP move it? Because if this was moved by someone who thought it didn't belong in the SN forum, I will be plenty pissed. Those of us with kids with special needs felt it absolutely belonged.

Anonymous

11/14/2012 22:23 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

Anonymous

11/14/2012 22:21 Subject: Re:Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

Anonymous wrote:JESUS CHRIST

NO ONE IS ACTUALLY MAKING FUN OF THIS GIRL

A "mean" pp here. I don't know why people keep claiming this. Not one person has criticized this teenage girl. Not once. No one has blamed her. No one has said anything bad about her. Stop projecting. Stop hearing the word "fat" and basically dismissing everything as bullying. Show a post where there has been ONE criticism of the OP's daughter.

That's why I strongly encourage the OP not to let her defensiveness cloud the actual content of what is being said. It's easy to hear the word "fat" and start down a shame spiral but truly accepting your daughter's weight means not getting into fetal position every time it's brought up by a medical professional.

I have said about six times that I think that I think that losing tons of weight is HARD. I have done it. I've lost almost 45 pounds. I have not said (and no one has said) that losing 35 pounds is not hard. IT IS. The point I am trying to make it that it is psychologically grueling to lose weight for ages and ages and still be overweight. That's why if you have a lot of weight to lose, it's best to speak to a professional. It's really tough. You need HELP. The OP keeps changing her story over and over about what the doctor said and why. She may think that now the weight is coming down, it's resolved. It's sorted. Why is everyone still talking about it. But this is such a long process when you have tons to lose. I have said (a ton of times) that I think losing that kind of weight needs help from a professional. Maybe a therapist, maybe a better nutritionist. Even if it's physical, it can have psychological effects.

This is not about dropping weight quickly. Dropping weight quickly may even be a bad thing (though actually usually teenagers and children can lose pretty quickly). It's that losing weight can trigger eating disorders, make kids vulnerable to things they weren't before - new sexual attention etc, change relationships, STUFF. Turning away from medical professionals now is A HUGE MISTAKE.

OP never said it was resolved. She never minimized losing weight and how difficult it is. You are projecting here. Do you have a child with SN? No? Then please go away.

OP's DD was misdiagnosed for years before someone properly caught that she had a hormonal imbalance. She had doctors assume her weight caused all of her medical problems, even strep. Obviously, OP and her DD have been poorly served by the medical community for years. Do any of you know what that is like? Many of us with kids with SN do. I was told there was nothing wrong with my DS for several years before he was finally diagnosed with an ASD. What if a doctor dismissed his symptoms because he thought he wasn't reliable because he is autistic? What if I brought him to the ER for a broken arm and they sent in a speech therapist to work with him on pragmatics? Does he need work on pragmatics? Sure, I recognize that and we're doing it. Do I want to be lectured about it by doctors I've never met in the ER? No I want them to mend his arm.

Those of you trying to shame OP and her DD -- you've made your point. Please go back to the general forum while those of us who do have children with SN can show some actual sympathy and support. Shoo.

Anonymous

11/14/2012 22:02 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

Anonymous wrote:For a look at different body types at similar height/weights take a look at

http://www.mybodygallery.com/

Oh my God. The 5' 4" 240-lb photos made me want to cry for this young girl.

http://www.mybodygallery.com/photos-19008-body-shape.htm#img

Anonymous

11/14/2012 21:52 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

Anonymous wrote:I'm well aware that I was responding to two different posters. I had to copy and paste to include the second quote, but thank you for pointing that out.

Also, I like how you don't have a problem with everyone calling OP a liar about her daughter wearing a size, going so far as to bring the topic back up, but me pointing out that it's possible is bad. I had no intention of making anymore posts about sizing after sharing my experience. I agree that further discussion should be moved to a more appropriate forum as it's obscuring the discussion of OP and her daughter's treatment by her doctors.

I have no idea if her dd can fit into a size 14 or not and don't particularly care. Her daughter is 230 lbs and 5'4" - morbidly obese and it's irrelevant whether she fits into a size 6, 8, 14, 20.... Thanks, please take any further discussions about weight and clothing sizes out of special needs.

Anonymous

11/14/2012 21:42 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

Anonymous wrote:For a look at different body types at similar height/weights take a look at

http://www.mybodygallery.com/

Thanks for sharing that.

Anonymous

11/14/2012 21:41 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

Love that website. I am still recovering from body dysmorphic disorder and the website has really helped me!!

Anonymous

11/14/2012 21:40 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

I'm well aware that I was responding to two different posters. I had to copy and paste to include the second quote, but thank you for pointing that out.

Also, I like how you don't have a problem with everyone calling OP a liar about her daughter wearing a size, going so far as to bring the topic back up, but me pointing out that it's possible is bad. I had no intention of making anymore posts about sizing after sharing my experience. I agree that further discussion should be moved to a more appropriate forum as it's obscuring the discussion of OP and her daughter's treatment by her doctors.

Anonymous

11/14/2012 21:35 Subject: Insensitive Drs at Childrens (overweight child)

For a look at different body types at similar height/weights take a look at

http://www.mybodygallery.com/