Anonymous wrote:I think the Loundon article was spot on with the notion of deliberate action. For many AA parents, and I am a single AA mom, it is not always clear which actions matter most when looking at academic achievement for our children- especially for our sons
Much of the advise given at schools is frankly doesn't matter-set rules, have a routine, make sure your child reads.... (my personal experience is that teachers assume such structures are not in place when frequently they are). In reality there is an inside scoop on academic success that is rarely put into practice.
In terms of what makes the real difference for everyone's achievement. High expectations + high support.
Having intentional, unflinchingly clear and high expectation and a sense of efficacy to see those expectation realized seems to be the ticket.
This is something majority parents and those of higher SES seem to take for granted due to their access and resources.It also doesn;t hurt to have ongoing practice of mathematical reasoning and academic English necessary for advancement in higher level coursework. Highly educated parents realize the extent to which math and language fluency are the gatekeepers (and confidence builders) in academic achievement and will stop at no expense to ensure that their child has that skill sets.
However beyond the skill concern there is the social drudgery of school.I have found that my son has faced messages from school staff that he will not measure up. As he transitions form 8th grade at Latin to attend Walls the only comment his MS school administrator had for him were derisive ones, which really hurt his feelings. Living a dual reality of institutionalized low expectation and high aspirations is a BURDEN. Yet such is the schooling scene for AA males and the most frustrating part is that it is beyond their control and yet they are blamed.
What is in my control -- talking every opportunity to remind my kiddo not to give into other peoples BS, focus on your goals, be confident and recognize any signs of self sabotage. Take extra classes online, I hate the fact that we still have to be in 'twice as good to get half the credit' mode but were not taking chances with the future. My son wants a PhD in a technological field and will make it-because he will receive 100% support in reaching it. Full stop. Period end of story.
And for those on this thred who assume that 'other' parents don't care about their children's education you may want to pull you head out of your self righteousness long enough to observe just what is happening at your child's school. Is there differential engagement and discipline being practices? Are there opportunities for all children to shine or only your precious angel?. School is a reflection of society and generally speaking the view is a bit ugly when you truly open your eyes.
I understand what you are saying now. But years ago I wouldn't. I am white and have an AA child so now I see this. In general, no, the majority of white people do not see this or do not see it in the same way a parent of an AA child and can't not appreciate it at the same level. On the other hand, I have seen far too often AA parents back down when faced with admins and teachers who are white and it drives me crazy. They complain because white students get better treatment but don't seem to realize that the white parents are definitely going to have no problem being the squeaky wheel.