Anonymous wrote:It would be good if people realized this was a single dad and a separated mom with children in the same class who started dating. He was a middle school teacher-- separate campus, and never treated the Pre-K daughter. The lower school has its own faculty. There was no school sponsored therapy sessions going on here. This is just an awful case of a husband whose hatred for an almost-ex wife is greater than his love for his children. It makes me so sad that she will grow up and possibly read this lawsuit. Just a real shame.
No, I just can't agree with this benign assessment. That's what I thought when I first heard the rumours, but upon reading the complaint, I have to admit that if it's true as alleged that these rumours reached Sally and Steve and they did nothing, it's damning. Not from a legal standpoint, but in terms of what's right for the kids and the SFS community. Sure, the story isn't what the lawsuit is trying to make it out to be -- some of the allegations are preposterous on their face -- but if Sally and Steve learned of the affair, then they should have taken some action, particularly if they were told that Jack seemed to be collaborating in the pretext that he was assessing or counselling the child. Particularly in light of the other problems with Jack's performance as MS counsellor, some administration response was in order. Did they meet with him to discuss this? Did they warn him about the possible consequences of his actions? If they didn't, they sent a message that behavior hurtful of children and possibly in violation of professional ethical obligations is acceptable among Sidwell faculty and staff. And did they ever wonder if MS kids and parents who heard of this situation would feel confident in Jack's discretion and judgement as a counsellor? However appalling Terry Newmyer's motives are, the school should have made its own judgment about the choices Jack made and what those choices implied about his suitabilty as a counsellor.