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Anonymous wrote:I dye my hair. I don't want Botox or fillers. However, I might get tempted down the road with a facelift. Although, I suspect my fear of general anesthesia will prevail and I'll never actually take that step...

The problem with a facelift is they only last 10 years. I'm 55 and if I get one now, I'd need another at 65 and another at 75. And you start looking weird after the second. If they lasted 20 years it would be more tempting.

Most people I know are aging gracefully - academics and people in the nonprofit worlds plus fed workers. Weight is a harder issue for me to let go of, but. my face? Eh. Every time you have a sudden steep decline it is a little shocking and takes about six months to get over it. Then you get over it.

Anonymous wrote:Botox and fillers are off-putting and can actually age your appearance. They’re artificial attempts to achieve a certain look. There are natural ways to maintain a youthful appearance. For example, my aunt, who is 56, looks 20 years younger. She’s had a stress free life—she never worked, her kids were raised by nannies, and she focused on wellness from a young age. She started using prescriptions like Tretinoin at 16, and was very into anti-aging, she stayed hydrated inside and out, didn’t wear makeup and never forgot sunscreen, ate an organic diet/no carbs, and the most important thing, was sleep, which contributed to her overall appearance.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps to live in the DMV where I’ve never seen a woman wear makeup. I guess if I lived in CA or TX I might be reaching for these interventions more.

+1. My office is full of 40-65 year old women, and no one does anything. I feel like doing anything would make me stand out in a weird way.

This is why the DMV sucks so bad. You don't have to have a Mar-a-lago face to look nice. I dress up everyday and do wear makeup. I certainly stand out in the office. I also get a LOT of compliments because I act like I give a sh*t.

I do all the things. Botox, micro-needling, chemical peels, really good skincare. I recently had filler dissolved that was initially under my eyes for hallows, but it moved into my cheeks. If you didn't know you wouldn't notice b/c I have high cheekbones, but it bothered me. Much happier without it.

I also dress nicely and am thin. I am very fit. I'm 56. I'm not trying to look younger, just really good for my age.

Just people are polite enough not to mention your messed up fillers doesn’t mean they didn’t notice.

That's really mean. Why are women saying these kinds of things? It's the patriarchy getting us to fight.

I probably won't ever get fillers, Botox, etc, but I don't know why we're tearing each other down. I don't think either way is right or says something larger about society. It's the mommy wars continued.

I’m confident that sticking chemicals in your face to fight a losing battle is the wrong way. I have no idea what you are prattling on about the patriarchy and mommy wars. Lord. Women don’t gain, nearly what they lose, when they spend so much money on their appearance.

You continue to prove my point with the sexist term "prattling on."

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Anonymous wrote:Why? Looking better is simple ! Botox is harmless and a quick way to look a lot better.

Yep! That and dying my hair I will not stop doing

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Anonymous wrote:It helps to live in the DMV where I’ve never seen a woman wear makeup. I guess if I lived in CA or TX I might be reaching for these interventions more.

+1. My office is full of 40-65 year old women, and no one does anything. I feel like doing anything would make me stand out in a weird way.

This is why the DMV sucks so bad. You don't have to have a Mar-a-lago face to look nice. I dress up everyday and do wear makeup. I certainly stand out in the office. I also get a LOT of compliments because I act like I give a sh*t.

I do all the things. Botox, micro-needling, chemical peels, really good skincare. I recently had filler dissolved that was initially under my eyes for hallows, but it moved into my cheeks. If you didn't know you wouldn't notice b/c I have high cheekbones, but it bothered me. Much happier without it.

I also dress nicely and am thin. I am very fit. I'm 56. I'm not trying to look younger, just really good for my age.

This post and this thread are sad. Women having to justify being natural while men don’t do a thing.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps to live in the DMV where I’ve never seen a woman wear makeup. I guess if I lived in CA or TX I might be reaching for these interventions more.

+1. My office is full of 40-65 year old women, and no one does anything. I feel like doing anything would make me stand out in a weird way.

This is why the DMV sucks so bad. You don't have to have a Mar-a-lago face to look nice. I dress up everyday and do wear makeup. I certainly stand out in the office. I also get a LOT of compliments because I act like I give a sh*t.

I do all the things. Botox, micro-needling, chemical peels, really good skincare. I recently had filler dissolved that was initially under my eyes for hallows, but it moved into my cheeks. If you didn't know you wouldn't notice b/c I have high cheekbones, but it bothered me. Much happier without it.

I also dress nicely and am thin. I am very fit. I'm 56. I'm not trying to look younger, just really good for my age.

Just people are polite enough not to mention your messed up fillers doesn’t mean they didn’t notice.

That's really mean. Why are women saying these kinds of things? It's the patriarchy getting us to fight.

I probably won't ever get fillers, Botox, etc, but I don't know why we're tearing each other down. I don't think either way is right or says something larger about society. It's the mommy wars continued.

I’m confident that sticking chemicals in your face to fight a losing battle is the wrong way. I have no idea what you are prattling on about the patriarchy and mommy wars. Lord. Women don’t gain, nearly what they lose, when they spend so much money on their appearance.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps to live in the DMV where I’ve never seen a woman wear makeup. I guess if I lived in CA or TX I might be reaching for these interventions more.

+1. My office is full of 40-65 year old women, and no one does anything. I feel like doing anything would make me stand out in a weird way.

This is why the DMV sucks so bad. You don't have to have a Mar-a-lago face to look nice. I dress up everyday and do wear makeup. I certainly stand out in the office. I also get a LOT of compliments because I act like I give a sh*t.

I do all the things. Botox, micro-needling, chemical peels, really good skincare. I recently had filler dissolved that was initially under my eyes for hallows, but it moved into my cheeks. If you didn't know you wouldn't notice b/c I have high cheekbones, but it bothered me. Much happier without it.

I also dress nicely and am thin. I am very fit. I'm 56. I'm not trying to look younger, just really good for my age.

Anonymous wrote:Botox and fillers are off-putting and can actually age your appearance. They’re artificial attempts to achieve a certain look. There are natural ways to maintain a youthful appearance. For example, my aunt, who is 56, looks 20 years younger. She’s had a stress free life—she never worked, her kids were raised by nannies, and she focused on wellness from a young age. She started using prescriptions like Tretinoin at 16, and was very into anti-aging, she stayed hydrated inside and out, didn’t wear makeup and never forgot sunscreen, ate an organic diet/no carbs, and the most important thing, was sleep, which contributed to her overall appearance.

Anonymous wrote:I dye my hair. I don't want Botox or fillers. However, I might get tempted down the road with a facelift. Although, I suspect my fear of general anesthesia will prevail and I'll never actually take that step...

Anonymous wrote:My mom is 70 and very judgmental about this sort of thing.
No woman should ever leave the house without lipstick, but any eye makeup is trying too hard.
No woman should let her hair go gray, but it also shouldn’t be long enough to touch her shoulders if she’s over 35.
Women should diet if they are obese, but any form of “working out” is vain.
Absolutely no medical interventions with the exception of a neck lift if the turkey neck is really bad.
Women should be ashamed of themselves for going out in sweats, but also shouldn’t be wearing short skirts or anything remotely “young” coded past 30.
Make it make sense. I’m 40 and the stuff I do to try and stave off aging really annoys her. She is always asking if I’m doing it for “him” (I.e. my husband.) I think in her mind the ideal woman is a 90s mom with a Princess Di bob, big sweater and mom jeans.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps to live in the DMV where I’ve never seen a woman wear makeup. I guess if I lived in CA or TX I might be reaching for these interventions more.

+1. My office is full of 40-65 year old women, and no one does anything. I feel like doing anything would make me stand out in a weird way.

This is why the DMV sucks so bad. You don't have to have a Mar-a-lago face to look nice. I dress up everyday and do wear makeup. I certainly stand out in the office. I also get a LOT of compliments because I act like I give a sh*t.

I do all the things. Botox, micro-needling, chemical peels, really good skincare. I recently had filler dissolved that was initially under my eyes for hallows, but it moved into my cheeks. If you didn't know you wouldn't notice b/c I have high cheekbones, but it bothered me. Much happier without it.

I also dress nicely and am thin. I am very fit. I'm 56. I'm not trying to look younger, just really good for my age.

Just people are polite enough not to mention your messed up fillers doesn’t mean they didn’t notice.

That's really mean. Why are women saying these kinds of things? It's the patriarchy getting us to fight.

I probably won't ever get fillers, Botox, etc, but I don't know why we're tearing each other down. I don't think either way is right or says something larger about society. It's the mommy wars continued.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps to live in the DMV where I’ve never seen a woman wear makeup. I guess if I lived in CA or TX I might be reaching for these interventions more.

+1. My office is full of 40-65 year old women, and no one does anything. I feel like doing anything would make me stand out in a weird way.

This is why the DMV sucks so bad. You don't have to have a Mar-a-lago face to look nice. I dress up everyday and do wear makeup. I certainly stand out in the office. I also get a LOT of compliments because I act like I give a sh*t.

I do all the things. Botox, micro-needling, chemical peels, really good skincare. I recently had filler dissolved that was initially under my eyes for hallows, but it moved into my cheeks. If you didn't know you wouldn't notice b/c I have high cheekbones, but it bothered me. Much happier without it.

I also dress nicely and am thin. I am very fit. I'm 56. I'm not trying to look younger, just really good for my age.

Just people are polite enough not to mention your messed up fillers doesn’t mean they didn’t notice.

That's really mean. Why are women saying these kinds of things? It's the patriarchy getting us to fight.

I probably won't ever get fillers, Botox, etc, but I don't know why we're tearing each other down. I don't think either way is right or says something larger about society. It's the mommy wars continued.